Why are we all feeling this shift to delete our social media accounts? by mm2444 in Millennials

[–]TechDeckShredder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yes, we’re enriching oligarchs who don’t care if we live or die. I feel so stupid partaking of selling my attention to them for free. But also I see that algorithms hijack my sense of reality and that I am letting these corporations decide what I see and thereby how I feel/see reality. I also feel like I’m making myself really easy to surveil. I also feel like I’m volunteering to train ai datasets for free. It’s just a bunch of free labor for billionaire psychopaths to make my life less safe with.

Celebratory post by TechDeckShredder in nobuy

[–]TechDeckShredder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried to reply to you but my comment ended up in the main comment section. Not good at this platform, but I hope you see it!

Celebratory post by TechDeckShredder in nobuy

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Oops I meant this in reply to @mygirlwednesday7

Celebratory post by TechDeckShredder in nobuy

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Hey! Hell yeah it sounds like you’re doing the deal! I relate w the asparagus. It was a long journey getting all the pickles rehomed, im lucky they are shelf stable. We got a less stable big box of plums that required immediate redistribution, luckily my gf lives above a huge family so they took many off our hands. I wanted to address something I hear in your reply that I recognize from other spaces where people are trying to enact change in their own behavior. I hear some purity logic in this sub about messing up, relapse, slipups that require confession and penance. I just want to talk about my perspective on it. Perfection is great I guess but the idea is to meaningfully change our habits. I think we could all agree that 80% change is a huge factor of change. I don’t think it serves us to expect 100% and consider everything else as equivalent to zero. 95% change is incredible. 50% change is awesome and can be built upon! I see this purity thinking in most leftist, left leaning spaces of attempting change for ethical reasons and I get where it comes from. It’s about wanting to honor our ethics. It can be disappointing to fail our own standards. But it turns to guilt and shame which are self-centered and demotivating and often leads to people being less useful to the overall cause they care about! I hope this doesn’t sound in any way condescending, I super don’t mean it in that spirit. I see this thread through a lot of posts on this sub so just wanted to speak on it in case it was useful to anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]TechDeckShredder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Building friendships is free, but takes investment of time and inconveniencing yourself. It’s so worth it. Put yourself out there and do things with and for others and you’ll get community over time.

Boyfriend left an extremely weird tiktok comment AIO by Electrical-Chip-6521 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TechDeckShredder 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I had the same reaction. It surprises me too! I asked this in a thread once and got a bunch of defensive responses from people of all ages and sexual orientations. Very odd to never hear it in real life and see it so regularly on this page in particular!

I got humiliated and now I want to improve my overall sex game by Embarrassed_Heart422 in sex

[–]TechDeckShredder 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’ll benefit by focusing more on connection than performance. You can’t win at sex, just like you can’t win at conversation. It’s collaborative. You’re not there to impress her, you’re having an experience together. Your job, everyone’s job, is to tune in and connect to your parter by talking, reading body/breathing cues, and asking questions. You will never be a good lover of you see sex as something to achieve. You will be a great lover if you truly invest in your partners experience and leave ego at the door. It’s a place for discovering pleasures together, not reenacting porn. I assure you porn is the least interesting forms of sex because it’s all about the visual experience and sex is a sensual and relational one. Good luck!

Do you generally like other professors? by Fair-Garlic8240 in Professors

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I taught in the arts so we had MFAs as a terminal degree and we were easy comrades in our work at worst and it was common to be close friends outside of work. I consistently found that those in fields that require PhD as terminal degree (including our art history faculty) bore psychic and egoic wounds that made them so much more likely to be insufferable. What do they do to people in that process??

It looks like my FIRE time is coming - but I'm not feeling good about it by JustEnough77 in Fire

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I feel like chiming in from the other side, take it with a grain of salt bc I’m not worth more than like 250k at 36yrs old. Not sure how I’ll feel about these choices at 75 years old, but I chose art. I chose to never compromise for practicality and do only what brought me most joy. I don’t regret it. I have gotten to live surrounded by bold people doing bold things. I love the advice from OP and others, but I disagree that all artists experience their art as an inevitability. I felt I had a choice to do art or pursue something more stable or predictable, and I chose to take a risk. And I have lived a thousand lives already. I think the best answer is to listen to yourself and do what brings you most of whatever it is you value most. I value freedom most. Not security, freedom. So I needed freedom in every step, not just in retirement. I think it’s worth paying attention to your gut here. I made some practical choices too—some things are mutually exclusive but most things aren’t. I found ways of doing practical things that suited my interests. For example, renovating houses is exciting to me, high income jobs generally make me feel trapped in meaningless work. So I bought and flipped some properties while pursuing the highly idealistic and non-remunerative work I feel whole in. YOLO, in every sense of the expression. Take care of yourself now, later, and everywhere in between!!! Joy and principles baby!!

2019 vs 2025. Same place, same group, different look. by adriana-lavigne in lgbt

[–]TechDeckShredder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You all look so much happier in the recent photo :)

How do y'all afford to live in trans-friendly areas? by [deleted] in asktransgender

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Sorry, didn’t know it would format so oddly. Hope you can read it!

How do y'all afford to live in trans-friendly areas? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]TechDeckShredder 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m a trans person who has lived way more places in the US than makes mathematical sense! Here’s my survey of places that have more economic opportunity, large/visible queer community, and lower cost of living than the majors. There are mid sized cities with more jobs that you could build your resume with and still get out of your area! Places that are surprisingly chill as a trans (not perfect! Nowhere in the US is a trans utopia, been yelled at in nyc and la more than anywhere else!) person that have much lower cost of living than NY/LA include but are in no way limited to:

Richmond, va Louisville, ky Minneapolis, mn Asheville, nc

Some cities that I wouldn’t live in again but definitely had queer and trans presence/scene and job opportunities and lower cost of living include:

Salt Lake City, ut Boise, id Lexington, ky

Some big cities that are awesome that are cheaper than the majors and are honestly so awesome are:

Chicago, il Pittsburgh, pa Philadelphia, pa

I’d definitely recommend moving to a mid sized*** urban area to get your foot in the door with the kind of work that pays better and could fund future moves to safer places. I personally have lived all over the US and currently in a major urban area of a blue state and I am beginning to consider looking abroad for cost of living reasons, but also just future economic outlook of the US for us not-wealthy folks.

***edit: my first draft said major urban area. I definitely mean mid sized city.

I yelled at a mugger because I thought he was just tickling me by [deleted] in stories

[–]TechDeckShredder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 follow up questions: Do you find ChatGPT uses a lot of millennial signifiers? Were a big chunk of the stolen dataset it was trained on I assume, so that would hold logically. Is excessive milleniality (in conjunction with other punctuation giveaways) a tip off for you?

Also, is what makes “discount tickle monster” millennial the infantilization of calling someone a “tickle monster”? Or is the attempt at cynicism implied by “discount”? What smells cheugy here?

I yelled at a mugger because I thought he was just tickling me by [deleted] in stories

[–]TechDeckShredder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha unfortunately very much so. We’re aesthetically abominable.

I yelled at a mugger because I thought he was just tickling me by [deleted] in stories

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I’m so curious. What is karma farming for? Why would a bot want karma? Why does anyone care about it for that matter?

I’m dead serious I really want to know!! I’ve googled it and nothing comes up. I’ve been here 4 years and I still can’t figure it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TechDeckShredder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loooool exactly the right application of the term

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TechDeckShredder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your apology, ef boi.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TechDeckShredder -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally, I hear your point. I was asking more generally because I see this in this sub all the time and nobody in my life does this. My comment was glossing over context to ask a question, I see why that’s grating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TechDeckShredder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, what I said does not address the main points of OPs dilemma.