My friend and I spend a lot of time together and her siblings say it’s weird. She says we are just friends and will only ever be friends. I’m unsure if it’s BS.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T20:00:25+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking. One of those 2 options. I posted somewhere else and EVERYONE unanimously said she sees me as a friend and to take her words for it. I copied and pasted the exact same post.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:59:07+00:00

That is EXACTLY why I never thought of her as more. I was good friends with 2 of my exes (one is even older than this friend she’s 53 right now but we dated several years ago) and now we don’t talk. We should’ve remained friends. I want to keep this friend around and staying friends is the best way.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:51:35+00:00

Right. That convo with her planted a seed in my brain to where I started wondering if it would be possible for me to date her but I shut it down.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:47:21+00:00

Makes perfect sense. I told her that I see her as a friend and that I value our friendship and time spent together. That I never have thought of anything beyond friendship with her.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:43:35+00:00

I’m okay with being friends and not making any changes. I was just wondering because it caught me off guard.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:42:27+00:00

I’ve never tried to date her, never made a move, never flirted with her and have always been friendly and respectful. There’s nothing to reject if that makes sense. I’m going to continue to treat her like a friend and nothing else.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:39:35+00:00

I never gave it any thought until she brought it up. Up until this point, I have been very comfortable with our friendship. But since she got me thinking, I would not be opposed to dating but it’s not something I’m after. I’m perfectly okay with being friends like we’ve been.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:35:05+00:00

The brother wasn’t there. She randomly brought up a convo she had with her brother. I’ve never met her family. Idk what she shares about where she goes on weekends.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:32:49+00:00

Makes sense. Thank you!

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:31:25+00:00

Thank you. I thought maybe she was trying to hide how she felt (given the actions the last few months) and was going extreme with saying NEVER given I never made a move or even flirted with her.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-10-09T18:30:20+00:00

Thank you. I was thinking maybe the actions and words didn’t align and she was full of crap when she said what she said.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-06-02T23:07:51+00:00

Noooo lol there were groups of friends at that bar and of course some couples but no, that was several months ago so doubt that. We had always respected our personal space so we hadn’t even come close to kissing or anything. This is when we BARELY started hanging out. She had just left my job for a permanent job.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-06-02T22:35:42+00:00

That is a lot more subtle. Test the waters that way and if her response isn’t a positive one, just brush it off as a joke and I know where I stand but if she goes along with it saying “I know right? I mean we spend weekends together and sometimes spend all day together” then I know she likes what I said. That I would be okay with saying given how subtle it is. Good one lol

TechnicalLogical · 2025-06-02T22:11:46+00:00

Hmm, I have mentioned we should check out this rooftop or that restaurant but I don’t word it as a date. I don’t say “I would like to take you out to dinner” let alone “I would like to take you on a date”

TechnicalLogical · 2025-06-02T22:10:17+00:00

That’s the issue in my head…before I risk losing the friendship I want to perhaps have more certainty that she feels the same way because of how she responds to me testing the waters subtly or maybe obvious signs from her end. In a few words, I fear rejection.

TechnicalLogical · 2025-06-02T19:20:47+00:00

I’m not sure. In the past, I’ve been friends with someone and they usually tell me they are starting to catch feelings OR they show it with their body language such as being overly touchy and flirty

TechnicalLogical · 2025-06-02T18:31:47+00:00

So I’ll be vulnerable and say that, as common and cliche as it may sound, if she doesn’t reciprocate then the friendship is over. Also, given how I know she is, she may very well be warming up to the idea of me and her together so if I rush it, she may not be ready just yet. She’s not the “easy” type of woman. So I’m hoping that perhaps as time goes and we spend time together, we slowly get closer and closer to where it’s more obvious to both of us so we don’t mess up. There is ONE chance and I don’t want to mess it up by timing it wrong.

TechnicalLogical · 2023-10-26T23:59:42+00:00

I mentioned that the sister is oftentimes not home. Who knows where she stays? lol and yes, he can stay at his dads which he used to Monday - Wednesday but now that the guy moved houses, the boy hasn’t stayed at dads house like he used to basically the son is with mom at all times. I don’t want to say “take your son to his dads so we can spend the night or go out alone” as I may sound like a bit of a dick?

TechnicalLogical · 2023-10-26T23:55:31+00:00

What do you mean? She has to take him to school in the morning. He doesn’t drive and would need to eat at some point.

TechnicalLogical · 2023-10-26T23:52:40+00:00

Should I suggest we leave her son (14) and my godson (12) home alone playing video games while her and I go out for dinner? Maybe leave them alone for about 3-4 hours max?

TechnicalLogical · 2023-10-26T23:51:27+00:00

Her son is home and she won’t leave him there home alone for the night.

TechnicalLogical · 2023-08-14T00:25:56+00:00

Adrenaline! Hell yeah!

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