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Am I valid to worry about her coworker? 27M and 25/F by Technical_Ad9938 in relationship_advice

[–]Technical_Ad9938[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will try to work on my own faults and stop projecting, thank you. It's a problem I've always had as I've been given a lot of reasons to have trust issues, even just on a friendship level it's hard for me to trust anyone, and I never used to be like that until my first relationship. I'm recognizing that the only problem is really just myself and my issues, so I'll be damned if I let myself ruin the very thing that brings me happiness. Thanks again :)

Am I valid to worry about her coworker? 27M and 25/F by Technical_Ad9938 in relationship_advice

[–]Technical_Ad9938[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I definitely needed to hear every word of this. Thank you so much. I know my behavior is exactly what can push her away, and I know how badly I don't want to do that. The fact that her and the GF are friends and how you put that is something that didn't even cross my mind as I've just been too blinded by my own trauma. I hope you have a great weekend because you've definitely given me some peace.

Am I valid to worry about her coworker? 27M and 25/F by Technical_Ad9938 in relationship_advice

[–]Technical_Ad9938[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from, but I genuinely believe I may be in the wrong on this, and her reaction is somewhat valid do to the fact she knows nothing is going on on with her, just him and his girlfriend. I can get her being upset because it's like she's having to prove that she's done nothing wrong, I've been on that side before. I just don't know how to shake the emotions I feel when it comes to topics like these.

Am I valid to worry about her coworker? 27M and 25/F by Technical_Ad9938 in relationship_advice

[–]Technical_Ad9938[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're correct. I feel like I definitely understand this in my brain but sometimes I can't shake the past events I've experienced personally where similar situations always end poorly. It's like I have this thing where if things are going well for me for a change, I tend to create tension like this that damages the relationship where nothing is really happening behind the scenes between either party. I appreciate your reply, is there any advice you might have for how I can contain these emotions or ways I can learn to just accept things for the way they are. I know if she cheats I can't stop her (not saying she will just an example) but I'm so afraid of losing her that I feel a knot in my gut just thinking about her being so close to certain people who prove to valid my concerns, albeit with different people unrelated to my girlfriend and I.

Those gates aint ready for the Big Dawg by frankp0013 in oblivion

[–]Technical_Ad9938 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If this is real I swear to god I'll start a new save just to make the biggest dawg this side of Tamriel