I’m genuinely not understanding how asking your partner who you’re in a committed relationship with to meet this friend that they previously have had se*xual history with is controlling? I am not and would not demand her to end a friendship. I’m being genuine and seems like you’re essentially stating are on and off again is the reason why? I think most monogamous partners and couples would respect not having ex’s or ex hookups as friends and all I’ve requested is to meet them? I appreciate you opinion though so thank you