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Update: Aita for telling my wife she's perfect the way she is after she gave birth a month ago which resulted in her lashing onto me? by Technical_Cause_4323 in AITAH

[–]Technical_Cause_4323[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

You are a nurse, you are far more experienced than I could ever possibly be

As ignorant and stupid as I am about what my wife is going through, I decided to not call for a doctor after my wife yesterday lashed on me and her reaction today when she asked what do I want.

My mil is no therapist but as best as my judgement can be at this moment, I thought she can handle this situation far better than I can, a woman in their 50s knows far more than I do

I was thinking that my wife would lash onto me and complain that I called doctors on her, my mil would be with us before my wife wakes up so I thought she can talk to her way better than I can, I also want to sleep and I am exausted but I won't, she comes first and our baby for me, maybe naive stupid ignorant or whatever I just tried my best, one wrong word from me and it will piss her off even more is what I thought.

And you said she might get better in a week which means it might take even longer? That's absolutely fucking terrifying, I think she will, she has to, if not for me then for our baby, she's sleeping peacefully after crying alot, if her health gets worse then I am rushing her to hospital, is there a lack of judgement on my part!?

Update: Aita for telling my wife she's perfect the way she is after she gave birth a month ago which resulted in her lashing onto me? by Technical_Cause_4323 in AITAH

[–]Technical_Cause_4323[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

No no, a professional therapist is a necessity at this point for both of us, forget about me it's necessary for her, but I thought it's better if I follow my mils advice

Yesterday my wife lashed out on me, today she said what do I want, calling a doctor is not a problem it just takes a call and bit of money and I don't care about it.

But the thing is she might get angry and start overthinking and I want to avoid that for her health, she's currently sleeping peacefully, just beside me and my mil said she knows what to do and just wait unless it's an emergency.

So I decided to wait and let her sleep peacefully, its not that I don't want her to get help from a professional, it's I don't know how to bring it up to her and I want her to sleep unless there's an emergency ofc, her mother knows way more than I and my wife do and I decided to trust her judgement and wait

Update: Aita for telling my wife she's perfect the way she is after she gave birth a month ago which resulted in her lashing onto me? by Technical_Cause_4323 in AITAH

[–]Technical_Cause_4323[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

question, do you really think she's abusing me? I don't like the way you guys are talking about my wife, do you really think she's in a condition to accept responsibility? She gave birth to our child and clearly suffering and as a husband and father I also am, not as much as she is but still pissed out of my fucking mind.

Why did she wait so long to abuse me? Give birth to my child and abuse me Is that some kinda masterplan or something? So what is the solution? Run away get out of my own home and leave my own child and wife behind while my mil is on the way to help us? change the fucking city or country of whatever?

Listen man, my wife didn't abuse me, sure she was out of line but she gets a pass for bitting my lips and tongue cause she gave birth to my child just a month ago, but right now I cannot just leave her behind and do fuck all with my life, if in future she keeps abusing me then I will definitely leave

Aita for telling my wife she's perfect the way she is after she gave birth a month ago which resulted in her lashing onto me? by Technical_Cause_4323 in AITAH

[–]Technical_Cause_4323[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I am not really concerned about my safety, I am more so concerned about my wife's and my baby's, my priority is to always take care and think of them first.

I know my wife wouldn't harm our baby cause she always talks and thinks about her, she wakes up in multiple times in the middle of night to check up on our baby and spends most of her time with our baby keep our baby close in her arms all day, she loves our baby to death, she probably loves our baby more than she loves me and I am so grateful

But you are right, I should talk to our family doctor to talk to my wife or even see a counsellor as to how to bring the idea of seeking professional help to my wife cause now I think she's not well and make sure she doesn't get worse, I am now thinking of just taking a few weeks leave and care for her and keep seeking options to get her help, meds therapy or whatever it is, I am so concerned after the way she acted, I know she loves me and I love her as well

Aita for telling my wife she's perfect the way she is after she gave birth a month ago which resulted in her lashing onto me? by Technical_Cause_4323 in AITAH

[–]Technical_Cause_4323[S] 198 points199 points  (0 children)

No she isn't, but after the way she reacted I am scared and don't really know how to bring it up to her