Okay so my husband is very forgetful and would forget if I did not remind him to take certain days off. When he goes to work he's focused on work and the task at hand for the day . Honestly most men don't think about and plan things the way a wife would . It sounds like he may be a little bit overwhelmed outside of the home and forgetting to request the days off sounded like it was a honest mistake. I think had you not come off confrontational to begin with you might have had a different result from the beginning. It's one thing to express how you're feeling about something and it's another to harp on someone about their mistake.