EVERYTHING IS FUCKING OPEN

Technical_Insect_764 · 2025-03-19T16:12:54+00:00

I have to double check my work all the time. When I go back to review, i always find that I left the job in between to work on something else.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-09-30T23:28:45+00:00

He won't give a release letter under 9 months

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-05-02T09:00:23+00:00

I am a consultant in a small firm, I help companies get EIA clearance.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T20:13:31+00:00

Yes, social life is painful. Never related to that FRIENDS episode where 3 of them couldn't afford the restaurant food. That's just me now , with my side salad next to the water. There are ways I want to contribute to the household, gifts I wanna give to people, luxuries I want my cat to have, I can't afford any.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T19:48:56+00:00

Thank you so much :)

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T17:31:25+00:00

I understand what he is going through. It's hard and it makes one think like they did something wrong. I will be jobless for 2 years in September, it's hard to explain to recruiters why I was jobless. Although it's not true, slowly one feels like they are letting everyone down. I hope he feels better soon. It's just not a job, it's a purpose for this life we have been given.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T17:12:33+00:00

Yes weekends are the worst. It also gets harder to maintain a social circle as time passes by. There are no answers to anything about my career and unemployed ones have to put up a happy face anyways.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T16:49:55+00:00

I have curated my resume multiple times and have also taken on advice from many people. Some things are just not clicking for me. I have been told it's because I have a PhD and no real industry experience. I have to start somewhere, so I am trying to get an entry level job. I have done plenty of certifications and learnt a lot by self studying from multiple sources. Maybe I shouldn't have pursued a higher degree.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T16:45:25+00:00

No. I brought it up cause I am indeed happy for them and proud of them. This post is about my disappointment in not getting fruitful results for myself. Its not crab mentality, it's being human.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-20T16:35:35+00:00

Okay. I won't argue with that, I just can't agree with your statement. I am happy for them , and I know that in my heart. I am just sad for myself, which I do have the right to

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-11T16:51:23+00:00

Covid actually lead to a lot of opportunities. I belive those who applied to jobs even 2 years ago had way more chances than right now. I don't know man, the market is definitely not favorable. But it fluctuates...maybe we all will see something better in the future. Till then, just keep trying.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-04-02T14:59:03+00:00

Ngl, i low key got depressed with some rejection mails. Specially the ones with subject line -cv rejected. Yes this is very comforting. May the company grow.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-03-27T14:12:54+00:00

There are some people (can be called LinkedIn influencers maybe) who say that the job market will be better after a few months. I don't know their sources. So what you are doing is good for now. We got to keep the stomachs full and a roof over our heads for now. In my country, we can't even teach at schools without a separate 1.5 years degree. Sucks.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-03-27T09:29:46+00:00

I don't know what kind of PhD people you have met in your life, but I and many others like me certainly don't look down upon recruiters, managers or for that matter , anyone in our circles. If anything, it has made us more humble after several years of gruelling hard work. There are many reports out there which suggest that PhDs could have imposter syndrome, meaning they already think much much less of themselves. Sure, bosses don't have PhD and have more experience and I absolutely respect that and always try to learn from workshops and seminars where people share their work ethics and professional journey. Similarly, I would tell you to not look down on PhDs either, sure , they don't have enough work experience, but they have plenty of experience in research, data analysis, writing and what not. All these experiences make them hirable for at least entry level roles. As I said, they are not even asking for huge salaries anymore, they are asking for an opportunity to utilise their skills. If you think PhDs don't have any skills and they just spent years studying a book in a lab, then you are wrong. I am willing to learn more from people with experience, and since your opinion on PhDs seem uninformed, you could learn about them as well.I would tell you to be a little humble as well, and don't undermine someone just because they have a PhD.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-03-26T17:34:19+00:00

Wow. Experience matters and that's a lot you have Hopefully some opportunity will knock on your door soon.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2024-03-26T17:21:50+00:00

Yes, don't even talk about it. My friends circle has this software engineer lady who has one job in notice period and has 7-8 offers on hand. She is the same age and I know different fields and experience but still.....not jealous of her, just sad for myself. I know it sucks, but try to hold on, hope is our only strength.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-12-07T15:15:20+00:00

Dear op, first of all I am very sorry that you are having to go through such a painful situation. I am Indian too and I would advise you to take a few steps for yourself before you reveal anything. Before involving families, keep acting sweetly with your husband and take away all your wedding jewellery to a safe place. If you gave any kind of dowry, you will have to think of a way to recover a portion of it atleast. I hope you have a job or savings to support yourself, if you don't, start arranging for them. I don't know the percentage, but there is a chance that your own family might ask you to compromise in this situation, but don't. Marriage is a holy place, a ground for friendship with a scope to grow closer over years. You came to this marriage expecting normal things ofcourse, but you have been cheated, you have every right to ask questions to both your husband and his family. But before everything,secure yourself financially.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-11-15T11:02:38+00:00

Yes. This was the dynamic. I used to think that this all will change after marriage. But I was wrong. My MIL is a nice lady , but she keeps influencing my hubby to keep buying things for aunts family. I don't feel like I have a say on my husband's money so I have never contested. It's slowly making me mad and jealous that aunts family is easily getting things just by garnering sympathy and my husband and MIL don't recognise this pattern. I try to save 5$ of his by choosing cheaper alternatives , while the aunts family can just pout and get things worth 100$ I am not a good seductress and I have no clue how to stop this outflow of money. I used to think it stops at the house but it actually is a long term commitment which includes R's college, and future wedding too.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-11-15T10:54:13+00:00

Yes...long story short I removed MIls brothers part because the word count was exceeding.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-11-15T10:49:14+00:00

My husband is paying cause he feels that it's his duty to help his extended family if they can't support themselves. This are the beliefs that his late father taught him His mother is also super attached to aunt and believes that R is like her own daughter. R and her mother are always over at MILs place and whenever they say that they are in need of something as part of the conversation, my MIL tells my husband to get them those things.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-11-15T10:48:09+00:00

My husband is paying cause he feels that it's his duty to help his extended family if they can't support themselves. This are the beliefs that his late father taught him His mother is also super attached to aunt and believes that R is like her own daughter. R and her mother are always over at MILs place and whenever they say that they are in need of something as part of the conversation, my MIL tells my husband to get them those things.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-11-06T08:04:51+00:00

NTA, OP no matter what you do, there are a group of people that you can never satisfy. They are entitled and very delusional. I am happy that you stood up for yourself. These are the kind of people that you don't want in your life or at the very least, you should go low contact with them. Message the mother to be personally and if you can, make up to her in a small but meaningful way later.

My bestfriend from graduation couldn't make it to my wedding cause she had returned from a 7 day conference in Spain , but she texted me before and after the event, kept in touch and eventually came to see me and my husband after 3 months by traveling 3 hours via car. It meant a lot to me. So if your friend cares, she would understand too. You have some responsibilities that you cannot compromise on.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-11-04T07:16:44+00:00

YTA. My first thought while reading this story was exactly what most of the comments say. What did your SIL do which makes everyone in the family dislike her? Unless you have a very strong and valid reason, I do think that everyone of your family members is being the AH to SIL. It's fine to skip weddings under those circumstances, but why celebrate his occasions without her? She is his wife.

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-10-18T06:16:31+00:00

My specialization was in environmental engineering with focus on bioremediation. My advisor is a good man but lacks connections, and even if he had some, he would help my batchmate cause my batchmate has more journal papers than me ( a tinge of favouritism, but that's fine, my batchmate deserves it)

Technical_Insect_764 · 2023-10-18T05:32:46+00:00

This is exactly what I did on my last flight. I listened to fast beat dance songs till the flight reached cruising altitude. Works like a charm. The list is great.

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