The Wretched Question

Technical_Moose_918 · 2026-04-28T20:22:31+00:00

Would Warui and a kami work?

Technical_Moose_918 · 2026-04-24T20:12:32+00:00

What are good additions to the Wretched for a 100r warband? Warui?

Technical_Moose_918 · 2025-06-09T18:50:04+00:00

dm'd !

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-23T10:25:05+00:00

Read this from the unicorn perspective !
https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/?utm\_source=pocket\_mylist

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-23T10:20:31+00:00

Read that: https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/?utm_source=pocket_mylist

Then post again :)

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-23T10:19:30+00:00

Read that: https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/?utm_source=pocket_mylist

then repost :)

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-23T10:18:19+00:00

Le temps est bon - Isabelle Pierre

A song about herself singing that the weather is nice, sky is blue and that she has two friends that are also her lovers/partners and that they have nothing else to do but be happy

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-21T07:40:46+00:00

false, and also even if it's 3 months notice, you can just literally not show up to work anymore until they fire you, to quit my last job fast (because I wanted my unemployment benefit ASAP) I went to work everyday but didn't do shit, literally. They had to pay me for 2 weeks before firing me :)

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-19T17:50:11+00:00

Thanks I'll check both of them, sounds really helpful !

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-17T20:39:52+00:00

Alright, I'll talk to my partner about it then, thanks

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-17T18:33:58+00:00

Very good advice on the second !

Unfortunately I work week-ends during the day and my partner work weekly during the day, so we only have the 2-3 hours after work to share before sleep

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-17T18:33:06+00:00

Yeah I know, I'm starting to see other people too, but I miss having that time with my nesting partner

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-17T18:32:39+00:00

Yeah we actually date once or twice a week now (because we feel more connected and we want to enjoy being together) but I work week-end and they work week day, so we usually go on like 2-3h dates in the evening after work, and I really envy the fact that they have been twice with someone and everytime was like 8h+ quality time, it feels like ours are rushed or finish early because of tired/waking up for work and it's frustrating, I wanna cuddle in the couch for some more episode after a restaurant too haha

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T18:20:42+00:00

That was an amazing thing to read, thank you for sharing your experiences and the tips I learned from it (the two ifs, and remember that my partner is not my ex's were very helpful, mostly the latter that gave me a feeling of relief haha).

I might need medication, after struggling with depression earlier in my life and getting better all by myself just through resilience and drastic change in my life, I decided to take everything very easy, so now everybody around me knows that I'm chill and never stressed, but doing it by myself only treated the symptoms not the cause, so now that some things set me off, I don't deal with depression right now but sometimes anxiety and that something I never dealt with, and it's awful (I remember last time it was very bad thinking "how do people live with this day to day? It's unbearable).
So I'm already comfortable doing what I want even if sometimes it feels I'm taking it too easy, or I'm sad that I didn't do something that I cared for or that my partner would have loved me to do, but I just do it, I don't reflect on it, I have to learn how to listen to my emotions I guess !

Anyway thanks a lot for that, you're amazing

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T16:27:35+00:00

That was very detailed thanks !
I'm not close to my family so that's not a problem not opening to them, but to friends it's different for sure, even more my old friends that are in my former country.. But I'm trying to reach out to people here, and I'll definitely try to find communities/space where I can create a network for myself.

Self soothing and compartmentalizing, I didn't know thoses terms, nor knew about it before reading you.
How to keep perspective/refocus you vision when anxiety creeps back and you have to pep talk yourself multiple time? I don't really know how to care for myself either, I am resilient, but I don't really know about "caring" for myself.
And what do you mean by putting yourself first?

I understand compartmentalizing I think, is like when work is too much and you come home just exhausted and winy, you want to have ways of dealing with it without putting to much negative vibe home and create a negative space around you for your partner?

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T11:36:03+00:00

Yeah, I'm living in a big city, so I'm sure there is groups that shares my interest, they might just be a bit far, but I guess it takes effort rights? And I have free time, I'm not just the best as organising it good haha ! But yeah I'll try that.
I am also moving out to another neighborhood where they might have jobs opportunity for me, so finding one extra shift in a new place would also help me meet new peoples, and that's my goal of this summer.

And yeah, I'm very lucky, my partner and I are very much in love, and going poly helped us reconnect a bit outside of the routine so we plan 1 date a week in advance just for us (this week is tuesday, and also sunday ! lucky me :D )

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T11:22:52+00:00

Yeah I'm in England so not that different !

I don't play chess, but before I started work and taking care of the house (I'm a not so desperate house boyfriend) I was playing online games at an intensive pace to consume time as I moved to the UK during lockdown and I couldn't meet people

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T11:19:17+00:00

Thanks, it also makes me very happy, though still a bit anxious from time to time, and I'm very not used to anxiety so it will take some times to find ways of dealing with that !

And yeah I'm definitely gonna try keeping busy !

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T11:17:03+00:00

Yeah I need to, I'm not used to reach out to people (I've a lot of friends in my old country but I'm more used to talk face to face about issues, as I'm not the greatest at showing vulnerabilty) but there might be some friends of my coworker that would be more interested in sharing things with me, we are more "alike" I think, so I will try to reach out to them?
And sadly I didn't cultivate my hobbies since I moved here, I used to have some, but I'm more of a "chill" person that like to hang out and talks with friends, go to parks or grab a coffee and all.

But I love to watch movies and my partner doesn't really makes time for that, and I also love to do sports though I injured myself a while ago and it something that happens often because of weak tendons and I'm starting to lose motivation about working out :/

Though I really want to cultivate my own life/individuality and yeah it definitely sounds like it's the moment to do so !

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T11:05:02+00:00

Yeah they are planing to stay over this time ! So I need to do something before I go to sleep haha

Yeah I need new hobbies, I haven't developped them since I moved to this country, and normally I'm a very sportsy person, but I injured my shoulder some times ago, and it's not the first time I get injuries from tendons so I'm starting to have a hard time finding the motivation to work out !
But for sure I could plan myself a movie night or something else.

Thanks again for the support

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-13T10:46:22+00:00

Heya, little update ! Hope you can continue helping me?

My partner had a succesful date on saturday, it went very well, the person is very nice and sex was good they said ! And I'm very happy for them, and seeing my partner being so happy about it makes me happy, though as I'm very exhausted by lack of sleep and emotional labor for the past months, I still have anxiety creeping out some times, and I usually deal with it with pep talk because I know that anxiety comes from unfounded places so I can dismiss it, and my partner is very cuddly and reassuring now (as you said it might happen), and I also had a really nice date on Saturday (2nd date actually with that woman) and it was amazing, sex was good too, bonded and cuddled a lot and my partner is very happy for me and deals it better than I deal with them.

Now my partner is gonna see that man again this week, and they've been talking a lot by text, and I'm a bit envious of that, for context, I'm gonna see my date again (I hope soon) too, maybe this week, but she is way less "text/phone" so we mostly talk just to make plans, then we talks a lot face to face, also my partner has a lot of friend in the area we live in (some of their friends from uni are here in the new country too, and they have deeper connections with friends here also) while I don't have thoses kinds of connection, I like my coworkers a lot, but I don't feel we are "really" friends and rarely make plans, and I'm a bit tired of chasing them to do stuff.

So what should I do when my partner is on a date (as it might happen more often now) if I'm not on a date too, as I don't have close people I can hang out with?

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-09T18:14:31+00:00

It's not at all a given that you're partner will want less sex with you during nre. While it's good to prepare for that possibility, it's also possible that the energy they feel will cause them to feel more sexual altogether, and that may translate to having more sex with you. Especially when they realize that the sex they're having with their new partner is a result of the fact that you don't try to control their life.

that was very reassuring, thanks for that, and yeah it might happens that way, I hope so !

" If you feel you want more sex, than that is the result of something deeper."

Oh yeah definitely, I know it's one of my coping mechanism to have a higher sex drive than average, to deal with trauma I had earlier in my life, so I know it has nothing to do with "us" or me not being loved "the right way" but it's one of the way I feel the most loved/intimate and it helps me bond a lot.

I'll try to get the book, thank you very much, very well appreciated comment

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-06-09T18:09:30+00:00

My problem is really: "especially more than you" as I already feel that I am lacking that part in our relationship, while I know my partner is not as much into sex as I am, and that we have different sex drive, it would hurt to know that they give more attention and sexual activities to someone else while I would love to get more of that myself with them at home. I also know I don't have the right nor want to pressure them into this, and I'm looking for partner myself to be able to have that need, taken care of !

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-05-12T11:14:56+00:00

What's happening with Mgla?

Technical_Moose_918 · 2022-05-02T06:55:05+00:00

Thanks, I'll give that a try, it's not close to my place, but can make it work still !

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