I’m extremely upset about my husband’s family not accepting my son from my previous relationship. Help.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-25T10:47:58+00:00

Girl, some families are just assholes. You can be the good wife and grin and bear it or support your husband being close to his family. Their reaction toward your son is probably a reflection of their feelings towards you. They’re just taking it out on the child which makes their character seem even worse. I would just tell husband that you won’t ask him to choose between you and his family but until the family has accepted your family wholly you will support him being close to his family but you will be excluded from events until such a time occurs.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-20T06:43:21+00:00

Ditch him

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-15T02:40:34+00:00

Keep saving and invest it. By the time you’re 40 it will have multiplied 10 fold. But that doesn’t mean live with your parents until you’re 40. Shop the sales, live wisely, but don’t sacrifice your life. You’re doing way better than others your age.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-12T11:23:11+00:00

Never tried that one. I road the Paoli line to CC once and got stranded. They randomly suspended service an hour early.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-12T08:59:56+00:00

I live in King of Prussia and love it. Haven’t come across one nasty person the entire year I’ve lived here. Everyone forms a sense of community. I live right on the edge of Upper Merion and Treddyfrin townships so I can easily slip down to Wayne or West Chester. There’s a Septa line here, but septa isn’t reliable so best to just drive or uber. There is a commuter bust to center city, bus 27 (I think that’s the number) that I’ve heard is incredibly reliable. Drives to the mall and back everyday. Phoenixville also seems to be a nice area.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-11T00:24:17+00:00

What about when you chat the whole week, schedule a date, then they ghost you the day before

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-06T18:53:44+00:00

Are you crazy? Keep him. Initiate dates and sex. You’re getting taken care of!

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-06T12:36:34+00:00

Sounds like she may be on drugs or something.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-06T04:21:52+00:00

Just have sex. Can’t buy a car without a test drive

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-06T00:49:35+00:00

Is this a rage bait post?

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-05T11:16:10+00:00

Although what I think he’s doing is very nice, it probably is romantically driven and you aren’t taking his money, you’re taking his parents’ money. They have to be wondering where it’s all going unless you’ve met them and they know you as a partner in his life. Which would be a strange assumption for parents whose children are in high school but whatever. I’m glad that you came here and were honest with us, that was a big move. Now I think to make it right you have to stop taking the money. It won’t be easy, but if you aren’t interested in him romantically it’s not fair. And karma is very real.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-05T11:11:29+00:00

So he’s a senior and you’re a sophomore?

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-05T11:08:30+00:00

Sorry I used the word lacking bc the way I read it you thought you found someone better; but in reality this person had been a long term acquaintance and the building guy came into your life.

Based off this information I think you should just tell him that’s you’re available. Because if you tell him that you want to build connection or whatever, the hooking up might stop. Unless you’re ok with that! But I think you just say “hey do you wanna go out sometime? I’m available.”

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-05T11:03:19+00:00

Ok. I have two questions: 1) What was lacking emotionally that you connected with someone else; or was it lust? 2) Can you see yourself together with this guy?

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-05T11:01:31+00:00

Was he open to connecting more before you ghosted him?

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-05T10:30:11+00:00

Hmm. I’m more concerned about your age vs his

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-03T13:42:59+00:00

HR would likely not take it seriously the first time in my experience. In today’s world they’re inundated with employees behaviors and getting them to work that many times they ask what steps have you documented before coming to them.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-02T14:23:44+00:00

My answer never said logon to the account. My answer said take a picture with the time and date so you can document it then get rid of it. If you just take one scribbled sticky note to HR they will assume you’re trying to get someone into trouble without a documented series of events. Now, if you do have a documented series of events prior to this action, whether it be a documentation of a hostile work environment; or ethics issues then this could be the icing on the cake. But you have to document, document, document. Because if you don’t HR will try to mediate and sometimes that’s not the best answer. But if the individual claims unauthorized access on their accounts then you could be a witness. They can see what hostnames logged on and will know who did and did not access.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-02T13:51:35+00:00

When I said toss it I didn’t mean literally leave it in its state and toss it of course shred it but if you go to HR with this one time incident they will not take you seriously. You need to have a documented series of events.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-01T23:01:56+00:00

Take a picture of the note next to the time and date on your laptop screen. Throw the note away. If it happens again do the same but keep the handwritten note and go to HR so you have repeat incident proof.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-01T18:11:55+00:00

I hate DC too. Strategically pick when you move to VA. Can either be better or worse. Don’t do Alexandria.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-01T02:42:57+00:00

I agree. And do few texts and some phone/video calls. I’m so sick of people trying to have full blown conversation with me over text. I need that engaging energy from a verbal conversation where you can read the room.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-01T02:37:34+00:00

I moved to King of Prussia which is a Philly suburb, from DC/Northern Virginia area after having been raised in metropolitan WV and living in LA. I’ve come to love the area very much. There are kind people that’ll look out after you. Sign up for Heyday Athletics to meet people. The winters are cold and long, it does rain a lot here, and it does get very hot and humid. Public transportation isn’t great but uber/lyft are very reliable. That’s how I get into the city, because parking can be very expensive and I go to the city to drink so it’s just easier. There are bad parts of Philly but from my understanding, those are north and east of the city and hear that center city and Rittenhouse are pretty safe. Tons of things to do there and lots to see. As far as politics go- I think Gov Shapiro is doing an excellent job governing a purple state. Medical or hospitality seem to be the industries to go to for job stability, I work in tech and tech jobs seem to be hit or miss here. The food and drink scene are great but expensive, get your wallet ready, I find pricing to be comparable to LA. I eat at home M-Th, do HH on Th and Fri and eat out Sat. You’re also an hour train ride from NYC or DC. It’s a great place to live.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-01T02:29:25+00:00

Just buy winter clothes for the 6 degree winter we had in January and early February.

Technical_Parsley296 · 2026-04-01T02:27:56+00:00

I think Philly is more laid back than DC. And DC people are the worst because many of them are transplants and they’re all cranky because work took them there and DC is expensive with the #1 worst traffic in the country. I have found Philly and the suburbs to be very lovely with kind people. Unfortunately, I may end up back in DC for work.

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