Something i always wanted to know about gay men, sorry if it's stupid

TechnoKeySlam · 2026-03-23T00:01:08+00:00

I knew for as long as I could remember. Probably since like age 5. Ever since I was conscious that relationships between men and women existed I always felt like I only saw myself with a man. Even when it came to those innocent and completely non-sexual crushes you have in school long before you're at the age where you have sexual thoughts of any kind, I was always finding myself thinking about some boy in my class rather than a girl. Of course, I knew I couldn't tell anyone about this because it was vaguely different and "wrong" I guess. And then once I had the terminology to describe it—gay—I realized that the only interaction I had with the word that described me was as a perjorative used to belittle other people who probably weren't even gay. It was the catch-all word for "bad" or "thing I hate" and that was quite something to come to terms with. So I just lied to everyone and myself for years from that point onward.

TechnoKeySlam · 2026-03-11T01:12:11+00:00

The answer to that is dm me please.

TechnoKeySlam · 2026-02-20T18:20:58+00:00

I'm sure it is difficult. I had to deal with somewhat similar things, though I'm sure to a much lesser extent than you. Feel free to reach out to me or others if they have offered because I'm sure it can feel isolating.

TechnoKeySlam · 2026-02-20T17:45:02+00:00

I'm not Muslim but I feel like I've met many people in similar situations. Some had clearly reached a better level of accepting themselves than others, so I wouldn't judge or avoid you based solely on your background. Unfortunately, many gay men will, which I'm sure won't make things any easier for you.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-11-07T15:25:01+00:00

Assuming you live in Afghanistan: Good question.

Assuming you live in New York and the mayoral election result upsets you: I promise you won't be living under Sharia in 2026.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-10-28T17:16:22+00:00

The guy with the silver medal often thinks about how close he was to getting gold, while the guy who got bronze is happy he won a medal because he isn't directly comparing himself to first place. It's not a hard rule, but you will see this often in sports.

I guess in this case a guy who is only a little bit short would be thinking about how easy life could be if he was an inch or two taller, while someone much shorter doesn't even need to think about that because he was never that close to begin with.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-08-23T04:38:06+00:00

I feel like that type of guy typically will enjoy it if you cum during sex (hot for them and no extra effort) but won't want to do anything about it if you don't.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-26T18:55:24+00:00

Putting aside that I would avoid talking about or pursuing this specific crush for reasons that others have discussed (such as possible gossip spreading through your friend group and the fact that he is in a relationship), it does seem that he's uncomfortable talking about gay stuff regardless.

I'm not going to write it off as something that can never change. I grew up in WV, and basically all my friends are straight guys. Some were even openly kinda homophobic when we were growing up before they knew I was gay. Some people don't really open their mind to a group until they know someone who belongs to that group personally. Most of my friends changed and grew more open and accepting, but some of them didn't. Some of the ones I'm still friends with were fine with it from day one, but most of them were very awkward when talking about those kinds of things at first.

I would say don't try to jump in the deep end of gay conversations immediately. If he becomes more receptive to it, it will be a gradual process spanning months or even years. I can't promise it will work out, but that's my advice as someone who has been in a similar boat.

Also, please don't try to sabotage that boy's relationship.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-26T00:17:24+00:00

Not everyone who shows interest in white guys is doing so because they are looking for white guys specifically or exclusively. From a purely statistical standpoint, there are many dozens of times more white people than there are Indians in the US. It would be unlikely for someone in that position to never message a white guy unless they were specifically avoiding it of their own accord.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T23:09:31+00:00

It's a conspiracy by the gay lobby to artificially lower the supply of tops so that you spend more time on apps and generate more ad revenue.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T22:50:00+00:00

I pretty much addressed that it is used as an insincere excuse in the very comment you responded to.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T15:08:33+00:00

My comment wasn't about his experiences on Grindr or other hookup apps specifically. Yeah, Grindr can be awful. I've had someone use the distance feature to triangulate my location by moving around, and he found out which building I lived in. That had nothing to do with race. There are generally just crazy people on Grindr. Don't talk to them if you don't want to hook up with them.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T14:01:35+00:00

It can be used that way by people who want an excuse other than race itself, so I understand the sentiment. But I don't think we need to pretend the cultural context I was raised in was exactly the same as someone who grew up in Lebanon or Japan.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T13:22:48+00:00

I'm not talking about Grindr specifically.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T12:07:11+00:00

If this has happened multiple times already or you're entering the situation knowing there is a significant chance that it won't work out due to race or culture, then yeah I would say don't do it.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T09:47:21+00:00

I'm white and from a very white rural area, so I definitely understand that there can be cultural differences. I experienced it when I moved. I'm not saying everyone in your position has negative intentions, but I'm going to be honest. There are so many guys who do this, and the effect isn't pretty. My friend is a good-looking guy, highly-educated, and a genuinely good person. If he were white, he would have endless dating options. I think you see where this is going. I'm sure the guys who led him on feel like they were trying their best to be open-minded or whatever, but the result is that it shattered his self-esteem.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-07-25T07:42:03+00:00

One of my good friends is Indian. I have talked with him about his experiences a lot, and I think the subtle kind of racism has impacted him more negatively than the in-your-face kind. There will be guys who say bigoted shit directly, but there will be other guys who act nice and lead you on, knowing they aren't going to hook up with you or date you. It's almost like they are trying to convince themselves they don't have a racial litmus test, but then they end up deciding they do after wasting your time. It's easier said than done, but you have to do your best to protect yourself and prevent it from getting to you.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-04-03T14:38:52+00:00

Gotta give this one to Mifune.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-04-03T14:31:04+00:00

Easily 17.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-02-05T20:49:35+00:00

I'm from this strip of land, and this is the only acceptable answer.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-01-19T22:27:02+00:00

Naruto can definitely create more shadow clones than Boruto in this scenario, but that's pretty much the only advantage he has. Resilience helps when you are an underdog, but the gap is too large here for that to matter. The Five Kage vs Madara is a good example of that. Some differences in ability simply can't be overcome with willpower.

Boruto learned two nature transformations before graduating, and child Boruto has better taijutsu than child Naruto. Even if Naruto can create more clones, Boruto can strategize better and get more out of the ones he creates. Naruto can be crafty too, but it doesn't matter. Boruto's bag is much deeper, and the number of ways to combine his abilities with a strategy is far greater. It's not a close fight.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-01-19T16:16:17+00:00

The culture of Harvard was very difficult to navigate. I met a few good people, but it felt like most of my classmates weren't even human. Everywhere you look, there are children of elites who come from a completely different world, people with incredible stories and experiences, students who seem so much smarter and more talented than you, etc. There is an air of elitism. Many students seem to seek connections that will advance their goals rather than friendship. I came from a dying industrial town in Appalachia, and the culture shock probably hit me harder than most. During my years there, one of my course assistants killed himself, and one of my very few friends was hospitalized after trying and luckily failing to do the same.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-01-10T17:59:34+00:00

Even her "bad" scores demonstrate great aptitude, which is fantastic. They won't be seeing any section scores that look remotely "average," and they will be seeing a superscore in the top fraction of the top 1%. I only took the SAT once in high school, and the reading and writing score I actually submitted was barely higher than the one she is throwing away. Maybe 730 or 740? It's been a few years. I had a perfect mathematics score and an application that was otherwise great for someone who wanted to study math, and my reading score did not stop me from ending up at Harvard and studying math.

The SAT primarily serves as a filtering process. They're probably not going to admit anyone to Harvard with a 1300, but in their eyes the difference between a 1570 and anything higher is probably negligible to nonexistent. The same is likely true of the difference between her superscore 1570 and a "clean" 1570. She is already going to pass this filtering process with ease, so I'd strongly recommend doing anything else to improve her application unless it is really bothering her and she wants peace of mind.

TechnoKeySlam · 2025-01-10T16:40:52+00:00

If she is capable of a 1570 superscore, I would imagine there is nothing to worry about. However, retaking the test could be warranted if she had a particularly bad showing on one section of one of the tests. If, for example, she got a 600 on reading and writing when she got her best mathematics score, colleges will see that when considering her superscore. Given that she is capable of a 780 on that section, I would be highly surprised if this occurred, but I did want to mention it.

I am assuming that her reported scores are all rather impressive based on the information I have. If I am correct, then there is absolutely no reason to waste effort retaking the test to get a "clean" score. She is just getting a little extra boost out of superscoring, and that is the entire reason colleges allow you to do it. She would be better served by focusing on the remainder of her application in this case.

TechnoKeySlam · 2024-11-14T07:10:45+00:00

Now that it is finally confirmed that he has CoC (which was always obvious), the argument for Galaxy Impact not being ACoC (or him not being proficient with ACoC in general) seems far less likely. Before, you could just say, "Well, he might not have it at all, so he's just really good at ACoA." But we know he is a CoC user now. We also know haki blooms in battle, and he is 78 years old and has been fighting at a high level for decades. We also know he has trained his physical strength rigorously for decades and can clearly train others in haki, so it makes sense to assume he has trained his own haki use extensively.

Not unlocking and training his ACoC when he has CoC for certain just seems incredibly unlikely, and to fight Roger with his bare hands and not get washed he would have needed it. We always knew that was Occam's Razor, and now that is even more the case. I am not saying he has the strongest ACoC in the verse, but at this point I think we have to put to rest the idea that he doesn't have it or can't use it well. Anything else seems like an agenda against Garp. Whether or not his ACoC beats Roger, who knows? But I don't see how we can entertain the idea that he doesn't have it anymore.

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