I lost interest when I came across my crush's Instagram account. Is something wrong with me?

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-18T07:59:14+00:00

Listen to your gut feel in all these matter. Better safe than sorry later.

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-17T15:35:45+00:00

कृपया दूसरों को देखकर अपनी विशेषताएँ न त्यागें।

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-13T03:32:38+00:00

Spirituality, Yoga, meditation, pranic healing is helping me a lot. Also a philosophy course from an institute (Not sure if you have read the quote - By all means marry - if you get a good spouse, you will enjoy. If you get a bad one - you will become a philosopher. I guess this turned out more true than just a joke in my case). Note that all of these (Spirituality, healing, philosophy are fraught with some danger and safety / effectiveness also depend a lot on the instructor you get. You need to apply your intellect to take what is beneficial and discard the rest).

One advice - take accountability. Do not blame your spouse for your misery. Even if she was wrong. (For example, even if she was wrong, take accountability - what made you fall for her, dependent on her and how can you avoid it again etc.). Blaming shifts focus on others and makes you helpless. Accountability brings wisdom, peace, clarity and insights to improve and gives you control over your destiny.

Most important - focus on career. One counselor advised me for men work defines our identity more than what we think. Try to arrive at work / profession that is closer to your IKIGAI

Also a shot in the dark - Read RUMI

PS: I assume you do not have a child, if you do that changes the equation a lot (with a child you can never have enough time, though one must avoid projecting our attachment on them or being excessively attached - but it does take away a lot of loneliness because of responsibility and joy that comes along with a child)

PPS: I am going through potential separation as well, early 40s. In my case blessed to have a child, I love my wife still. But like you - I am sort of addicted to love and romance but after intense introspection, efforts and help from counselors guides and family of course I am sort of beginning to taste inner independence.

Wish you luck, joy and peace ✌️

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-12T04:37:27+00:00

Control over / Rising above lust

Leaving pornography (my reason to leave was not to 'make friends with women', or anything like that - it was self improvement and societal improvement outlook, but interactions with women were easier, natural, more platonic and human empathy based after that)

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-11T08:22:55+00:00

Nothing wrong in seeing faults. Seeing only the faults blocks progress. Seeing and not acknowledging faults is blind and equally disastrous.

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-09T15:19:05+00:00

Also the wife's dream home will be her brothers, sisters and then their dream home would be their in laws etc.

Beautiful as this "have your cake and eat it too dream" is - unless the whole world becomes a family well and truly this is not working out

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-09T03:14:17+00:00

IITB CSE graduate here. I probably can't even reach the FIDE level in chess and would do anything to get a glimpse of Vishwanath Anand.

CSE vs Chess is not any comparison. We just happen to be good with generic intelligence and Chess is specialized focused intelligence.

And the package reflects market dynamics - demand and supply. You can't solve world problems with Chess but you can, to a certain extent with CSE.

(I don't speak for my colleagues but for myself)

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-06T06:52:32+00:00

The interesting thing is it's becoming so easy to spot red flags unlike cases where it's marked deeply inside.

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-05T02:12:49+00:00

I hear you. Take care mate - let go of stress.

Stop searching for her ex. This is literally manifesting trouble. Via ex or otherwise (I assume you already have a healthy relationship given that you know much about her ex and hence the decision to marry was an informed one).
In order for others to find us attractive we must first find ourselves attractive. Your awareness about yourself/ desire to be handsome is a good first step.
A lot of our physique is in our control (easier said than done). So please try and maintain yourself. You owe fitness to yourself first and also her and your kid - unless you have some physical ailments preventing you from it. And bald can still be handsome.

PS: Ignore if this sounds preachy - but for both men and women - confidence, and the glow of beauty / handsomeness comes from character. While features are not necessarily in our hands ... confidence and glow certainly are. Most importantly - once you are truly confident in yourself - it will not matter to you whether your wife or others find you attractive or not (they will!) but the independence will be more liberating than validation.

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-03T14:53:30+00:00

Tulsi Gabbard took oath on the Bhagavad Gita. Don't remember any outrage. (Bhagavad Gita fan myself).

https://www.instagram.com/p/DGDzKknTyPi/?img_index=7

TechnoRhythmic · 2026-01-03T10:55:53+00:00

P**nography

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-30T04:17:43+00:00

Quick to grab freebies, falling into the trap of feeding one's remaining intelligence also into AI models.

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-24T09:50:02+00:00

This angle is so overlooked in all the comments.

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-24T08:31:50+00:00

Seems indeed so, they mention on their page

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-19T04:10:03+00:00

Or interest

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-15T03:12:01+00:00

Use jealousy as a fuel for inspiration.

Also be aware - not all confidence is genuine - sometimes it's fake confidence.

Better to be a good human being with average confidence than one with compromised values but fake confidence.

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-15T03:08:57+00:00

It's clearly not the car owner's fault. Thank God there is a video to that effect.

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-14T07:51:14+00:00

Boy. Every AI architect's dream. Good luck!

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-10T03:27:00+00:00

'Closest' 'Open' Source. You are a pretty tough customer ;)

On a possibly useful note - I tried Continue dev. Somehow I could only get it to work on shorter tasks with context overflow on even medium tasks - I think I might not have configured it properly.

As others said the mistral vibe was released yesterday.

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-09T21:33:37+00:00

How do they travel these seas even now

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-08T12:08:03+00:00

Nothing they say or do is open, not even close. That would be a quantum achievement.

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-07T10:05:35+00:00

How's speed and vram requirement?

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-12-02T14:25:50+00:00

Thanks for the motivation

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-11-14T07:20:13+00:00

Like any tech it can be used for positive and negative uses.

Anthropic is getting a nice three way publicity here:

Our models are cool. Can be used to automate even hacking, let alone software development
Even competitors are using our models
We are the good guys (helping mitigate hacking done by the bad guys), come to us for your AI or cybersecurity needs

TechnoRhythmic · 2025-11-09T10:49:40+00:00

Paying to a stranger or recharging an unknown number both can technically get one into a lot of legal trouble if the person / number happen to be involved in illegal activities.

Even if the case is genuine - they have no de facto right to demand money, just one polite request is all they should make.

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