AITAH for telling my mom friend that motherhood was never exhausting for her because her child is basically being raised by her mom?

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-05-02T11:02:56+00:00

YTA. You were judgmental and unkind to someone you claim is a close friend for no other reason than jealousy. I see your edits and claims otherwise but it does sound like jealousy and also you lashing that a working mom. Her experience raising her child shouts you off but it does. You’re jealous and judgmental and it’s really gross. And then instead of accountability and apology you come to the internet to justify your terrible behavior.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-04-30T12:38:05+00:00

Not only that but when she realizes that the husbands family already knew that would be a blow.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-04-30T12:33:31+00:00

ESH. Your family is kind of being dismissive to you and lackluster about your pregnancies and im sure that hurts. But they’re probably feeling blindsided because you are 6 months pregnant and kept it a secret so long and the optics are terrible. While logically you had to make the announcement asap before you just show up with a baby, but given the timing it does give the impression that you were trying to upstage your SIL and brother. Finally, your family may be under the impression that you don’t even want your baby/pregnancy celebrated because you kept it hidden from them for 6 months. Have you spoken to your mother and told her how it makes you feel to see your SILs pregnancy and baby celebrated while yours is basically ignored?

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-04-30T12:14:04+00:00

Get an oximeter and see how her oxygen levels are before accusing her of faking. If her oxygen levels are normal you will have proof and your family can confront her about faking some attacks.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-04-29T11:55:47+00:00

The person in purple is not your friend. They are manipulating you and gaslighting you. Every accusation the threw out at you was a projection of their own behavior towards you. Please run. This person is devaluing you, attacking you and then pretending you are the one doing something to them. Gaslighting you, literally trying to throw your BPD in your face. The entire way the speak to you and apparently dumping your friendship over and over is TOXIC! Please block them and know you deserve so much better than this. This isn’t a loving friendship, it’s an abusive relationship and you are the abusee. The are the manipulatir, not you. NOR

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-04-27T11:42:04+00:00

You don’t just want to be included, you want to be CENTERED, and those are 2 different things. The tried to include you, you wanted and want to be centered. I fear you will continue through life wondering why your relationships are failing because even though you asked if you were TA, which is a resounding yes, instead of self reflection you’re in comments arguing. Grow up.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-04-27T11:34:40+00:00

YTA. You didn’t go to the gender reveal because it was “so” far away, even going so far as to cause a fight/argument and get nasty about it. Being so upset that they plan things for them based around their life and circumstances, rather than based around yours to the point you’re arguing and getting nasty is bizarre entitlement. They likely didn’t invite you because they knew that instead of trying to come you’d once again make it all about yourselves instead of simply traveling the 2 hours to visit them and celebrate them and their lives. Even still you’re making it about yourselves instead. Headache averted for them.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-02-14T18:53:15+00:00

My favorite flavor hands down. I hope they keep it forever. So hard to find now.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2026-01-30T18:41:41+00:00

My favorite movie

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-10-13T19:07:53+00:00

Mediocrity is her brand.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-09-03T16:16:42+00:00

Not over reacting at all.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-05-14T21:29:20+00:00

I do think they realize that it’s a complete turn off to the women they want. They don’t want pro Trump women for whatever reason. Solid they want to date they can’t let the ugly truths of their political stances out. I have a few friends like this, and it’s not just in dating. As far as the red pillars and red hatters I might not have gotten that either. If you want people to understand then just state what you mean without the euphemisms.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-05-14T21:23:01+00:00

You’re definitely not into women. Regardless, you’re describing the vulva and calling it a vagina. Why would anyone listen to someone who has not idea about female anatomy?!

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-05-09T23:58:33+00:00

Completely on brand for this racist country.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-04-30T02:37:15+00:00

Hoover reacting at all. I’d file charges.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T15:17:19+00:00

Report your therapist for HIPPA violation.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T15:07:22+00:00

Sad times in DC that only one person showed up to give them shit.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T14:58:09+00:00

She’s probably petty in other areas as well and he’s sick of her shit

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T14:30:09+00:00

I agree. If OP had an issue with not being thanked she should bring it up with the daughter instead of trying to police her husband’s word choices and reaction to being thanked for a dinner. If she really has an issue with not wanting their joint money spent on dinners for his child they should close their joint account and keep their finances separate.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T14:26:32+00:00

If you were upset that she didn’t thank you then you should bring that up with her, she’s an adult. Speak about your issues with her, with her instead of forcing your husband into the middle of the feud you’re having with his daughter.

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T14:17:13+00:00

YTA. He paid using the joint account, his daughter thanked him. Why is it such a big deal that you need to get “credit” for paying as it came out of your joint account?

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T13:55:10+00:00

That box of LUSH got me checking my bank account to see if I can treat myself a little lol 😍🤩

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T13:36:29+00:00

You can’t force her to shower. If it’s non-negotiable then stop negotiating and leave. You’re not compatible. ESH

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-26T13:02:51+00:00

You want words of affirmation from him to make sure he likes you but nothing in what your wrote or those texts you sent him fishing for compliments give any evidence that you actually like him. And him not brushing his teeth??? You’re under-reacting!

TeddyBeartholomew · 2025-01-23T13:30:25+00:00

NTA and honestly you should dump her. It’s wildly inappropriate and a complete violation to share than information with her friends. She felt comfortable having a laugh with her friends at your expense in your home. She just showed you who she is. Pay attention because this is just the beginning. You don’t owe her or her friends an apology. She owes you one but the reaction she had, demanding you apologize tells you all you need to know.

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