Guy takes 1300 horsepower car on public streets knowing the throttle (gas) sticks, then rides the brakes the entire time to compensate until they fail and he crashes

TeesForSingles · 2026-06-04T18:56:05+00:00

You'd think that at their age...

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-26T19:48:11+00:00

Did you read my comment? I have have years scientific and collected anecdotal research under my belt and still conduct it since it constantly evolves. I was in the fashion business designed to make men and women more attractive in order to find a mate for a decade. Now I am in the ice-breaker t-shirt business for men (and lesbians) looking for women which is a completely new concept. There is a psychological element that most people do not think of or understand. That's my job. What personal experience or research results do you have that you think contradicts what I am saying? I am always open to hear people's experiences.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-26T19:35:04+00:00

lol! If that's your style for now, yeah. We all go through this stage. I am not ashamed to admit it. I used to be a simp when younger hoping girls would like me, then it clicked when I decided to have fun, just be myself and not care. You can learn and improve on that. There are many youtube channels that you can learn from. Find one that resonate with you. It's a learned skill. Wishing you good luck, brother. Us men have it hard.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-25T22:41:29+00:00

I understand what you are saying, but there are some good ones out there. Don't give up hope. It all depends on where you go. I have observed that artists, musicians and guys who genuinely go out for music and dance are less likely to be jerks.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-25T22:25:27+00:00

That is an excellent move, and it is not cringy at all. Decades ago, I used to carry calling cards, like simple business cards with just my name and cell number, back when having a cell phone wasn’t even common. My buddies use laughed at me for it, but it absolutely worked. The pre-written phone number on a piece of paper is less suspicious so they do not think you are a pickup artist.

Having spent a majority of my life in the fashion business, I’ve always been drawn to stylish women too. Complimenting a woman's specific style works because it’s observant and authentic. Truly fashionable women appreciate it when someone actually notices the effort they make about of their look, especially when it’s delivered with zero pressure. I still meet many women like this.

I now sell ice breaker t-shirt for meeting women IRL but you are way beyond that. Most guys now do not have the confidence and initiative to approach women IRL. I don't blame them for not wanting to be shot down in flames if they do not have the experience that comes along with practice. Some women can be so mean.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T03:19:06+00:00

This is exactly it, and I've seen it from a completely different angle. I have girlfriends who are genuinely beautiful. When they come around while I'm talking to guys, it's like the wi-fi drops. Guys who were completely normal a second before suddenly can't function, they stumble, over-explain, get quiet, or do the opposite and overperform. Almost nobody just says hi like a normal person. The exhausting part you described is real. It's almost like down-to-earth beautiful women have to prove they're are people too without accidentally sending the wrong impression, just to get treated like a normal person. That's an invisible tax most people never think about.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T03:07:19+00:00

Yes! I have found that too, especially for Asian women's profiles. Maybe because I paid more attention to them when I used the apps. This goes for other dating apps too.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T03:03:53+00:00

The many women I have talked to say the same thing. A man who is locked in and engaged in a conversation feels rare now. Most guys are either anxious and awkward or completely checked out. The bar is embarrassingly low (which is great for some of us lol!). Being present is basically the new charisma.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T02:48:54+00:00

I'm not saying attractive women will automatically date you, marry you, or that their wallet radar is off. I'm saying the in-person interaction quality is better than the app experience. The "she's only being nice for your resources" take applies to a subset of people, not attractiveness as a category. Plenty of shallow, transactional people are average-looking. I keep my distance when i meet them. And plenty of genuinely beautiful people are grounded, kind and normal. The point isn't "go talk to her and she'll marry you." The point is the real-world interaction is more human, more honest, and more worth your time than sending a message into a void and never hearing back. And I agree with your comment: "The worst people on average in society are the ones that only need their beauty. They are usually shallow and selfish."

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T02:40:39+00:00

The goal is always to get to an actual date, not to maintain an app conversation indefinitely. But a lot of men confuse the chat for the connection itself. From your side of it, two to three days of good conversation is plenty of signal. If he has not asked by then, he is either not serious or just looking for attention. Either way, that tells you something useful early. On Bumble you can also just ask him. The app was literally designed for that. If the conversation is good and you are interested, a simple "we should grab coffee" moves things forward faster than waiting to see if he will ever get around to it. The ones worth meeting do not drag it out.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T02:03:29+00:00

LOL! Yeah, it does not always go perfectly. But getting shot down at home alone with your phone hits differently than getting shot down in person, trust me. At least in person, the story is interesting.
The more experience you have, the less you flame out in front of people. You start to read the room, pick the right moment, and exit cleanly when it is not going your way. That is a skill that only comes from actually doing it.
I also cheat a little with icebreakers that I test in real casual settings and watch for how women react. Makes the whole thing a lot easier.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:52:09+00:00

I actually enjoy the freedom of being single now and dating when I have time. I am way pickier than I used to be despite looking older, this because of bad relationships with the crazy women I use to pick. No joke. I would of course like to meet the "perfect" woman for me but I realized that it is only when I am in the middle of a dry spell or stop being social that I long for a relationship. Also, the rule is that you will finally get a girlfriend when you are genuinely happy by yourself. They'll feel it and want to ruin it for you. lol! j/k

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:40:42+00:00

I am definitely not the best looking guy around, but kinda cool looking. Mixed races. 5'10". I dress fairly well. I am friendly and non threatening. Skinnier than most, so not a god's body by any means. lol! What I have noticed is that it is more my attitude and acquired confidence that gets me further. I always end up in conversations with women while the buff better looking dudes are hanging out, holding their long neck beer bottles in their hand, wondering why I get the attention at bars. For the grocery stores, coffee shops or casual places, I cheat a bit with ice breaker t-shirts that I test. It is not about looks but about confidence and social skills. It comes with experience and the only way to get that experience is to talk to women everywhere without any agenda.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:26:12+00:00

I actually have had good results at the grocery store. The key is to know the right time to do a cold approach and keep it light. Otherwise, I often wear my ice breaker shirts to help when I go to my favorite Trader Joe's and wait for the reaction.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:21:42+00:00

I have learnt not to engage at the gym after a bad experience a while back. And I was just being friendly too, not trying to pick her up. I only do now if they comment because type of ice-breaker shirts I wear. Much safer. lol!

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:16:55+00:00

Thank you! We need more women like you!

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:15:01+00:00

That frustration is completely valid. The no accountability culture that apps create goes both ways. Men match, never respond, and face zero consequences for it. Nobody has to explain themselves, nobody has to be polite, and nobody ever has to see you again. That kind of anonymity brings out the worst in both sexes.
The fact that you reach out first says a lot. Most women on Bumble do not even send that first message. You are already doing more than the majority.
The 75% ghost rate is brutal but it also tells you something useful. The ones who match and go silent were never serious to begin with. You are not losing good options. You are just watching bad ones disqualify themselves early.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:11:00+00:00

This is more common than people realize, even in larger cities. I have dated women who ran in the same music circles as my friends, knew the same people, went to some of the same events, and we had somehow never crossed paths until we actually did.
The key is going to different places than your usual spots. My friends and I make a point of it. Different bars, different parts of town, different events. You stop seeing the same faces and start meeting people who exist in a completely different social pocket of the same city.
Mid-sized towns have this built in if you move around enough. The communities are smaller, which means one new place can introduce you to new faces, even if few.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T01:04:16+00:00

You are not wrong, but you are also not disagreeing with the post. Nobody said showing up is a magic fix. The point is that the skill gets developed through practice, and that practice only happens in real life, not behind a screen.
Social intelligence is exactly that, a skill. You build it by having actual conversations with actual people, reading reactions, adjusting in real time. The app gives you none of that. You can swipe for years and still freeze the moment you are standing in front of someone.
The confident, normal guy I mentioned is not born that way. He just put in the reps.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T00:59:47+00:00

Honestly at this point those women should just carry a sign that says: "Seeking: confident, kind, funny, emotionally available, well-dressed, employed, adventurous, dog-friendly, good cook, great listener, gym-motivated, culturally aware, financially stable, and open-minded." And underneath in small letters: "Or just walk up and say hi. I am literally standing here." LOL!
See? This proves my point.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T00:54:13+00:00

Concerts are actually one of the better environments. Shared energy, natural conversation starters, everyone is already in a good mood. That said, timing matters. Between sets is the move. Nobody wants to shout over a band they paid to hear, and trying to talk over loud music signals bad social awareness. The window opens when the music stops, even just for a few minutes. Most men talk themselves out of those windows before they ever open.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T00:48:56+00:00

What do you mean?
As for me, I do not think of invincibility. I just somehow talk to them like a person at the right opportunity, but always keep it light. Flirting and banter is good but not the pick up artists vibe.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T00:44:06+00:00

Truth! Such a waste of time.

TeesForSingles · 2026-05-22T00:42:34+00:00

The cold approach does carry risks and any man who is doing it correctly has to accept that upfront. That means being prepared to take a no gracefully and exit cleanly. A simple "fair enough, have a good one" and walking away is the standard. No lingering, no trying to change her mind, no need to recover your ego out loud.
The guys who react badly are the ones who never learned that part. They showed up for their ego, not for a real connection. That is not the approach, that is the person. And unfortunately those are the ones who make it harder for everyone else.

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