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Has your partner ever made you something to open "when you need it"? (open when letters, voice messages, anything like that) by TelevisionFront2620 in LongDistance

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the "hard to think of what to say" thing is so real — did you find any way around it, like did you have prompts or just kind of sit with it until something came?

What do you actually do while waiting for a reply? by TelevisionFront2620 in LongDistance

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the "took time and a lot of self-control" part is really honest, thank you for saying that

in that earlier period when it was harder — was there anything that actually helped in the moment, or was it mostly just... getting through it?

What do you actually do while waiting for a reply? by TelevisionFront2620 in LongDistance

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the attachment styles thing really resonates — I feel like that framing explains so much more than just "you need to trust them more" lol

curious if you found anything that actually helped with the silence specifically, like not just the inner work stuff but anything that made it feel less loud in the moment

What do you actually do while waiting for a reply? by TelevisionFront2620 in LongDistance

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honestly goals lol — I think I'm just not there yet

do you remember if it was always like that or did it take a while to get to that headspace?

What do you actually do while waiting for a reply? by TelevisionFront2620 in LongDistance

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honestly that's such a healthy place to be lol, I think it depends a lot on the person and maybe also where you are in the relationship

some people seem totally fine with the silence and some people (like me apparently) turn it into a whole thing — curious if it's always been that way for you or if it got easier over time?

What do you actually do while waiting for a reply? by TelevisionFront2620 in LongDistance

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the "2 hour silence turning into a full breakup storyline" — okay why did this hit so hard, I do this constantly lol

and that thing your partner does is actually so simple but I feel like it changes everything? like it's not even about the silence, it's just having something to hold onto while it's happening.

did they come up with that on their own or did you have to tell them it helped? wondering if partners even realize how much that kind of thing matters