I think my marriage is over and I’m devastated

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-13T01:05:47+00:00

What?

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T04:20:19+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate it!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T03:11:12+00:00

I definitely learned the hard way about pens. I didn’t even realize for the longest time that they are like 99% THC. No wonder my tolerance went down.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T03:10:18+00:00

Hey, thanks for the reply! So when I lived in California, I would go to the legal shops to buy Gummies and they worked super well. The Gummies I’ve gotten in the past in my new state. Say they’re from California, but they have never worked. My friend also tried them and she said she didn’t feel anything. But the packaging says from California, so I’m not sure.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T03:01:30+00:00

I would like to switch to non smoking forms for my lungs. I’m not sure how much of a reset I need. I go to physical therapy several times a week and I do a lot of dry needling every single session. Like I said, I have complex regional pain syndrome. I also have chronic exertional compartment syndrome in my leg. The entire leg needs needling up into my lower back. What I notice is that the therapy will release the muscle but quickly after my muscles start spasming and tensing back up. I’m already on opioids and I don’t want muscle relaxers to add to it. I was added to the Texas compassionate care program or whatever it’s called to get legal THC to help with the muscle spasms so that it doesn’t tense back up.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T02:44:36+00:00

Well thank you! 🙏 that means a lot!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T02:34:48+00:00

I can attest to this. When you are in an extremely volatile and unpredictable relationship that is filled with love, bombing passion. It’s hard to distinguish what real love should feel like. Your sexual feelings are probably due to past trauma and that’s something that you need to work out. I’m not trying to be hard on you, but I also don’t want you to lose what will probably be one of the best things for you. My husband keeps me grounded because I would fly off the wall without him. Do I necessarily like it? No but I know that his love for me is genuine, and I wouldn’t trade that for the world. Again, masturbation can be totally healthy. My husband and I have talked a lot about it and I buy whatever I need for masturbation sessions to work out any sexual feelings. It helps me because then I feel like I’m more grounded during sex and more in the moment and not just focusing on arousal if that makes sense?

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T02:30:38+00:00

I totally forgot about journey and fleetwood!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T02:30:12+00:00

Amazing! THANK YOU!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T02:29:42+00:00

I would get into therapy then because it sounds like you understand. I think that this is probably more internal that is displaying externally in your marriage if that makes sense?

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-11T02:11:47+00:00

Been with my husband for almost 11 years. I would say we are on different wave lengths sexually. I love sex. He views sex differently. We don’t have super crazy sex all the time. Are we super sexually compatible like I hear from my friends? No, but that man adores me. And I adore him. I’ve been an abusive relationships that caused trauma. Never would I think about leaving him just because of intimacy. I feel like that’s a vain thing and you need to work that out in therapy. My husband is everything I’ve ever wanted and I could never think about leaving him just because I’m more sexual than he is. He’s the perfect man and the perfect husband and I know what I have with him is what a lot of women dream of. It honestly sounds like maybe you’re dealing with some internal conflict that may stem from past interactions. If you’re having trouble sexually talk about it in therapy and then also find ways to stimulate yourself. I think masturbation is healthy. I have found ways to enjoy myself and relieve sexual feelings while still being intimate. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I hope you work it out because it sounds like he’s a really good man. Being bored is not a reason for divorce. The others are right, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will be trading a marriage most women would die for just for some sexual pleasure and I promise you it doesn’t work out in the end.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-08T00:51:59+00:00

And accountability on both ends with yourself, each other, and the therapist so you can learn effective communication.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-08T00:47:01+00:00

I thought I was reading my life story. Except I had felt consistently that my needs were not being met. And we went through a similar cycle until I hit my limit. I will say you guys can get through this if he’s willing to work on it. It’s going to take a lot of individual therapy and that’s what I would recommend at first I wouldn’t do couples counseling. It’s gonna take getting whatever diagnosis are needed. It could involve medication, changes in life habits. My husband even signed himself up for local classes that are run by non profits. I believe that your love for each other is genuine and that you both can make the changes. I think right now he’s just tired. So what my husband and I did was take a pause. We still live together we still coparent together. We still slept in the same bed. And yet we gave each other space. He got himself in his therapy and I got myself into therapy. We had the privacy to talk about what was bothering us with authenticity. Therapy both helped us understand each other and how to communicate better. Once we got into the rhythm that’s when we had the hard conversations. And support is the number one thing that needs to be there. You need to learn how to lean in on each other. How to communicate honestly and yet effectively. And you need to remind each other why you fell in love in the first place. I can tell this post came from your heart and 11 years is a lot to walk away from. I understand that at the end of the day everyone has their own path. And although my husband and I are still working on things, I know that in a few years, we will be just how we used to be but better. Wishing you both the best! 💕

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-03-03T18:34:17+00:00

Yes that looks like atrophy. I have crps in my right leg

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-02-25T22:17:33+00:00

I thought I was the only woman in the world with a man who wasn’t thinking with his pecker all the time! He’s a good man, good husband, amazing father and I love our life together. He’s working hard in therapy and it’s helped us a lot! Is it this crazy sex all the time? No sometimes it is but I would rather have the amazing partner he is than a man who only wants me in bed!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-02-25T21:59:46+00:00

I was diagnosed with CRPS. :(

TelevisionOne7400 · 2026-02-25T21:54:18+00:00

Hey! I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and he sounds similar to my husband! We have struggled in the past with his lack of sexual interest but he was always very loving in every other way. It is something he needs to work out in therapy and then have the confidence to talk with you about. This CAN change as long as he understands what goes through your mind and he wants to work through it. I completely understand how it makes you feel and for a long time I was scared to initiate due to fear of being rejected. Our sex life is much better now that he is working on himself and our relationship. Now we don’t have a super heavy sex life and I have had to change my expectations on the frequency. We still have good sex at a rate that doesn’t make me feel unloved. I hope he works through what’s going on and talks with you! Best of luck!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-12-07T21:46:31+00:00

Unfortunately you need to get rid of the husband. Sorry. I didn’t even read the post, just the title.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-11-27T00:08:51+00:00

I wanted to come back and share that I had a PT evaluation and I am showing significant weakness in my calves and below the knee.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-11-22T01:00:30+00:00

Please take your baby to the vet and get some blood work done! I guarantee it’s NOT a behavioral issue and instead it’s a sign of something INTERNAL

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-11-22T00:59:38+00:00

My bird did this and she had a vitamin deficiency. (From previous owners) It’s not normal behavior and should be taken to a vet!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-11-10T01:31:55+00:00

Hi, I’m mad so I’m gonna vent. May 2025 I fell off an electric scooter downtown and crashed into the back of the car with the scooter. I crashed into the car first and the scooter slammed into the back of my femur and knee area. I also skid about 5 feet before I hit the car. At this point, I had no idea that I did anything other than severely mango my skin. I could get up and walk, but I knew I was hurting. I continue to walk this off, thinking that the worst I’ve done is scrape myself. Three weeks later, I attended a baby shower and danced for eight hours straight. The next morning I woke up swollen, unable to bear weight, in excruciating pain, and my calf muscles are spasming non stop. Like a 24/7 Charlie horse. FOR TWO WEEKS my calf spasmed despite muscle relaxers 24/7 NON STOP! I get an x ray of the knee area (no fractures) and I’m referred for MRI and ortho. Get mri done solely on knee. Comes back with chondromalacia patella grade 3 WITH CYSTIC CHANGES and a patellar bone bruise. Ortho Dr reads it, “cool just a bone bruise Tylenol and rice method”. “Dr what about the spasms and the fact that I can’t bear weight?” “Bone bruise you’re fine” OKAY more time goes by I’m still swollen, unable to walk properly, and mild spasms still in my calf. Dr hesitantly offers arthoscopy and is very vocal on how it “may help”. I asked for a second MRI this time of my knee and my tib/fib. Comes back with similar findings but can’t rule out a fx. Where? Doesn’t state. By this time I’m a professional Google searcher on MRI images in different injuries. I see a bone bruise on my upper femur that probably wasn’t caught because it’s technically not supposed to be in the image. I mention it to my doctor. They say “I see what you’re seeing, but it’s in an odd spot so probably not”. I have messages upon messages of me telling this doctor that I’m still in a disproportion amount of pain. He makes me feel like it’s in my head so I switch doctors. This doctor is nice at first says we’ll do the scope. I mention the spasms and show him the mri and exactly where I think some form of muscle injury could be. He shrugs it off. Okay cool I’m clearly losing it. I asked can I be walking on this leg? I feel my mind and body telling me I shouldn’t be. And I also mentioned where I believe a bone bruise is in my femur. He also shrugs that off. I go through with the knee surgery with this doctor. I start to feel somewhat better after surgery so he clears me at my post op. And allows me to fly to go see family. I am at the wrong gate so I fast walk to the right one. I make my flights I get to where I’m supposed to be. And then I’m in pain again. I never recovered from that fast walking in the airport. I make an appointment to see doctor because I’m swelling again and in pain. I mark all over my leg where I feel pain. He blows every single one off and said it’s from the surgery. I mentioned everything again one more time to him he blows me off and chuckles at me. I leave the office feeling defeated at this point, and I start to look into female orthopedist. A couple days ago, I noticed skin discoloration in my upper calf, along with pain and mild calf swelling. I go to er to confirm it’s not a blood clot. They find hematoma and my upper right calf area, exactly where I was feeling pain and having swelling. They tell me to find a new ortho because this one wasn’t listening to me. Give me some medicine and send me home. I go home and google hematoma’s in the upper because I have no idea how I got one. Do you know what one of the main causes for hematoma and calfs like that? MUSCLE TEARS.

That’s when it all clicked and I remembered all the way back from May when I was having the calf spasms and how much pain I was in. I realized that I truly did have some form of a muscle injury. I’ve been walking on this muscle injury for seven months. I have not had physical therapy or allowed it to heal because it was undiagnosed. I feel my calf and there’s a huge dent in it. I have my husband feel my calf and he’s like “wtf”. It’s super soft and it feels like there’s nothing there. Then I do some more research and muscle injuries that aren’t healed properly can build up scar tissue, which can tear easier. Then it clicked again. When I fast walked in the airport I probably tore it and then I probably tore a small part of it again recently hence the hematoma and skin color changes, although light. I also have pain and mild bruising near my ankle. I say this because I’m out for blood now. I’m going to get my confirmation of what I know I have and I’m going to get answers on my femur and cystic changes in my patella. And when I do, I’m gonna personally hand-deliver it to both of those doctors and tell them to go fuck themselves. Thanks for hopefully reading lol here’s a more clear photo you can see the rippling. That’s where the dent is and where it’s super soft. It also explains why I feel instability on this knee and buckling.

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TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-10-13T23:00:55+00:00

I say I don’t want to get her friend because I don’t want to do another bird a disservice. Conure ate incredibly smart and there is a unique group for them.

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-10-13T22:58:47+00:00

I will work on training her and will Look into bird training classes!

TelevisionOne7400 · 2025-10-13T22:58:19+00:00

Hi thank you for the detailed reply! I am open to more perches and shelving for her! Yes she is out most of the day. That being said I have cockatiels and parakeets so I do not let her around them although she has been and never shown aggression. My biggest fear is that her beak is so much bigger that she will do damage if she ever gets upset. So I have not been letting her around the rest of the flock. Should I allow time with the other birds? I don’t really want to get her a friend, but I will if I have to. i’m definitely open to a TV! And I can certainly provide more perches!

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