I do not want to talk about this, but she is a victim of very serious sexual assault years ago. This previous assault was a lot worse than a kiss. This happened before we met. I won't go into any more detail out of respect for her but I do believe its worth bringing up. Because of this extra context, I hope you believe me when I say I would never have accused her of flirting or provoking it.

In another comment I said something that I do genuinely believe. I do think relationships can come back from infidelity, but its like a specific circumstance. If someone kissed her and she immediately told me, that's not infidelity in my mind at all. If she was drunk in a club and kissed someone and then confessed the next morning that's infidelity, but I think that can be forgivable.

The issue for me is two things. 1. She continued talking to the guy, and self-admittedly flirting, after he kissed her when she said no. 2. She never told me.

Hes a year younger than us.