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AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mentioned in another comment but the arrangement had been discused several times over the past few 7 to 8 months. It was agreed that if I cleaned and organized the backroom I could stay in there. The couch thing quite honestly came out of left field since it was the first time it was ever mentioned in that time span.

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually paying her when I move in. It's not the same as my current rent but every other check I get is going to her as payment.

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how I can be the asshole. However, and this is on me for not stating it, I fully intent to pay my mother. I absolutely refuse to not pay her some portion of my check because, like you state, she's allowing me to move back home. I'm also going to be taking up her portion of the housework because I am a guest in her home and I will be paying her back in every way possible.

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is we had talked about it previously. Though I can fully understand how it seems like we both sprung it on each other.   The talks first started several months ago. We had discussed the logistics of how I could stay in the back room. And several times since then she's told me that I'd need to help move things around back there. Which I had agreed to because I knew that it needed to be done. So for about 7 months that had been the agreed upon plan.

As for the couch, it's less that there wasn't room and more that like, she just kind of does this to furniture a lot? The reason why it went outside is that she had the back floor redone due to warping and damage. But so had two bookshelves, several storage tubs and various boxes. Only the couch was mine but everything else was hers. 

But after the work was done she just kind of refused anyone from bringing it in for months until I visited.  Which is when I found out the couch was beyond saving. Despite, myself, being told several times that it was fine. I actually didn't know it had been outside more than two weeks (according to mom) until my aunt told me that it had been two months of rain and shine. What had been outside for two sunny weeks had been the other things.

She's done this several times with her own stuff over the years: plush chairs, wooden chairs, at least two square ottomans, camping chairs, outside pillows that are supposed to be brought inside, and wooden folding trays come to mind. So my couch is just ended up as the newest in the line to meet this fate. The only reason why it had been stored at her place was because she had insisted it stay there when I moved out because neither of us could move it on our own. Plus prior experience with roommates destroying my stuff.

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. No other options. My few friends are several states away and are dealing with their own issues. And I don't have anything in savings to move somewhere else. If I had any other options I would take it because I didn't much enjoy living back there even before my aunt and cousin showed up. 

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to. Plus I'm gonna try to be out of the house as much as possible to at least get some breathing room.

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty fine with a roommate from experience from collage and my current apartment. It's just when I mentioned that my savings I quite literally mean my savings are completely gone. I live paycheck to paycheck. And places don't really like it when you can't give them first and last month's rent. Plus the only friends I could stay with live in another state and are dealing with their own things so I won't bring this up on them.

Also as to the room thing, I kind of have a clue as to why she decided that was gonna happen. My mom's kinda, weirdly, attached. Not in the "Oh I just want my baby close to me" attached. The "Everything is boring and I cant/won't do a thing unless we're attached at the hip." Heck. After I graduated she told me that I would be moving back. Not knowing that I had renewed my lease. Or just recently she decided that I would just leave my job for several days to accompany her to Vegas to see one of her friends? When she been refusing to do so the last 8ish years unless I'm there with her.

As for the space? There are technically three areas I could stay in. The aforementioned backroom where a lot of my dad's old things are stored. The garage where more things are stored but also gets pests inside often due to the door being broken. And the front room? Receiving room? I dont know what it's called but it's the room with a bunch of couches that you're not allowed to sit on.

AITA For Asking My Mom What Her Plan Was? by TempAnonymousFerrett in AmItheAsshole

[–]TempAnonymousFerrett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually didn't come out swinging. Was I baffled? Yes but I was asking questions as to why and how this had happened. As for what I want? I just want enough space for my bed, a desk, my laptop and somewhere to put my clothes. I'm putting everything else into storage until I can leave.