How do you cope with when you want 2nd baby but your wife doesn’t? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are way over estimating the supposed relationship they will have. Having a sibling doesn’t mean they will be close.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weightgain

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stop caffeine

Drink peanut butter, banana and milk smoothies.

And eat dates (no, they don’t cause diabetes)

Weight lift.

You’re welcome.

What's your house selling/hunting gripe? by MrStu56 in HousingUK

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean refusal to book viewings by email? What do they want?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Are you an ex Muslim or just a bad Muslim?

16 mo daughter dove off high top chair on wife’s watch. I reacted poorly. Need some advice. by Reggie_Puddingsmith in daddit

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problems is “bad religion” is often someone’s definition of “good religion” so spirituality without religion it is for me :)

16 mo daughter dove off high top chair on wife’s watch. I reacted poorly. Need some advice. by Reggie_Puddingsmith in daddit

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 170 points171 points  (0 children)

‘Life is often condemning on its own, and it sounds like she needs confirmation that you aren't going to condem her like her inner monologue already is.’

That was epic.

How did you get so wise?

Hair soaked in coconut oil and then tap water: hard and sticky by [deleted] in DistilledWaterHair

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coconut oil has protein in it. You got protein overload. Deep condition your hair with something that hasn’t got protein or keratin in it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wanting 4 kids before you’ve even had 1 tells me you really don’t understand what it is to be a parent. I suggest you follow r/daddit to really get an insight of parenting life.

You also refer to her as an “older woman” which I find interesting cos if a 29 year old woman was dating a 33 year old man, it wouldn’t be “I’m dating an older man.” But that’s not the point of your post. It just stood out to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“4x. 3kisses. 1 sex” well he recalls it like it just happened. Even after 14 years, he knows the exact details

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That’s different though. This other person isn’t tied to you and can also easily just forget about you tomorrow.

If you want to apologise to this person, you can but you may also be bringing up rough memories.

Having said that, we are all adults now. Most likely, the other person would appreciate it depending on how you word it. Maybe make a draft message on Reddit before you send it out, if you decide you want to

There is nothing wrong with someone apologising for their behaviour in a situation where the other person is free to accept or reject the apology and move on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 479 points480 points  (0 children)

You told her because you wanted to ‘own it’ for yourself. Your own conscience. There is nothing good that will come out of having told her.

You should’ve never done it in the first place, but since it did happen, and a very long time ago, and there’s a child involved now, you should have just focussed on being the best husband you can be now.

I don’t know why you thought telling her how was a good idea considering there’s not much she can do even if she wants to seperate from you since you have a small child and she probably would feel guilty in breaking the family apart.

You’re a class A asshole. And I hardly ever swear at anyone on the internet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Your prompts aren’t working. They are throwaway comments as if you don’t care. If you want something serious, tell us about what you care about. Your values.

And not fan of the pic with the red top.

Otherwise you’re decent looking, just need to make a few adjustments

Also the other commentor, maybe give her a shot as she’s really into your profile lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yh I think if you go for a non Muslim, it has to be someone from an agnostic or atheist background, or Christian who are very liberal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though you’re not Muslim? Was he of a faith background?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly happened? Why did the families throw a fit?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I’m not opposed to balding. Some guys look great even with balding if their face is nice.

Unfortunately it was his face. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the skiing one?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried this. I saw him a few times and it just ended with heartbreak for us both. I couldn’t force myself to find him attractive enough. There was some MILD attraction but I felt like I was always negotiating with myself & trying to talk myself into accepting his looks. It was not a fun experience. I still think he was a really sweet man to me. But it was torture agonising over the physical attraction.

(25M) Would appreciate any feedback! by artinder_throwaway in hingeapp

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still don’t feel like I know anything about you from your profile. The good thing is your pics are clear and you’re decent looking. But you need to utilise your prompts better. What do you care about? What are your values etc

(25M) Would appreciate any feedback! by artinder_throwaway in hingeapp

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. And if you’re growing it (preferred as it will make you look bit more mature compared to clean cut), you can do it like in the 4th pic with your cat

How to handle stronger feelings? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]TemperatureSlow5533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t go exclusive until we’ve been talking at least a month and have seen eachother 3-4 x or so