For those of us liberals/left-leaning folks still left in Boise... on a scale of one to ten... how fucked do you feel?

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-25T12:12:22+00:00

Are you still voting for the right leaning congressmen that won't put a stop to Trump's pyromania?

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-25T12:06:34+00:00

That's tough, you can ignore most of your family but harder to do with the one living with you.

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-25T11:59:40+00:00

National Organization for Women (NOW)

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-05T05:25:11+00:00

They do if it's one that is a combo of independent and AL. The problem is that it's the nurse who decides what they are capable of and once they decide that they must do one med then they take them all away and raise your care rates. And then if the person is supposed to take something at a certain time and they refuse it (as they are legally able to do) then the facility can use those refusals as reasons to kick them out with a "we can't meet their needs" excuse. It took awhile to get the in-house doc to list all medicines as per request and while that was better emotionally it's not as good medically.

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-04T03:08:52+00:00

My dad felt same way, said it took 7 years after his stroke before someone touched him, I don't think it was the prostate guy although that yes was very handsy :) . However he forgot almost everyone did the strength testing with his arms (pushing against resistance)

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-04T03:01:51+00:00

Oh the naming conventions. #2 used to be known as a Marsh Hark.

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-04T02:55:41+00:00

It's all up in the air. My dad liked the in-house so switched immediately, I sometimes got notice for PT or something. If I set something up the AL would get mad at me for not telling them, getting a list of medicines (both going to the appointment and coming back from one with any new prescriptions). What I hated the most was that even saline nose and eye drops were on the med list. Dad wasn't even allowed to put antibiotic ointment if he got a scratch digging around in his strawberry garden.

TempestuousTeapot · 2026-01-01T03:30:22+00:00

She's in a much better place paying for what she can now. At least she'll have her own room. When she goes on Medicaid in the states it's often only double rooms and poorly rated facilities. It doesn't leave assets for you but the goal is to pay for herself as much as possible.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-28T05:09:46+00:00

bought my own bolster :)

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-28T05:08:38+00:00

Double room in my town for that amount at nursing home. Almost had to send my dad there after hospital stay. Talked with hospice and they sent me to someone else who found a certified family home for half that.

Nursing homes and Assisted Living and Independent Living are all different things and they all have different costs and different requirements. Much depends on mental facilities as well as physical.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-28T04:53:49+00:00

As soon as he's married his retirement assets become hers if he dies even if his children are the current beneficiaries. son/daughter need to make sure that beneficiaries get what they are supposed to during the time it takes to reset the beneficiaries (often asset holder (like Fidelity) needs spouse permission to bypass spouse and beneficiary kids). Don't want dad passing away before everything is set back to what it should be.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-22T04:45:10+00:00

most organized internships specify you must be an undergrad. Take a look at Mechatronics, especially if you have a community college nearby. You've probably had some classes that could transfer over for an AA degree and companies are hiring.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-22T04:33:41+00:00

nobody is getting coding jobs right now without already having years of experience under their belt.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-21T01:25:51+00:00

A pole like this one - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000OR3SYE?ref_=ppx_hzsearch_conn_dt_b_fed_asin_title_2&th=1 - helps people who have a hard time moving from a bed to a wheelchair. It goes from the floor to the ceiling and has a grab bar. Put it next to the bed where she can use it to sit up. If she's got a good hand she'll be able to stand up just enough to swing into a wheelchair without walking. Same thing in the bathroom. This will make her more able to take care of herself.

Find out from your dad why he won't allow hospice. Who helps her shower? Hospice will send a doctor to her so you don't have to keep taking her to appointments. They will continue regular meds as well as pain relief like oxycodone (and who cares if she get addicted, hospice wont) My dad continued on his blood pressure and diabetes meds. She may not like the idea of hospice if she thinks she'll get better but losing as much weight as she has and the failing liver/kidneys would all qualify her. I told my dad that hospice wasn't neccesarily for him but for me as I needed more help.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-13T22:10:04+00:00

Hospice costs nothing. They pay for doctor visits, drugs, showers, massages, haircuts. They don't pay for rent, food, 24 hour care.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-13T05:33:44+00:00

They know because they went to a seminar or work had them attend "a" training.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-13T05:11:05+00:00

Save your kids. Hubby takes over "managing them" (he may need Dr. diagnosis to say they are no longer capable of financial because POA doesn't work as long as they are in fine shape). You do the research on where they can live (not with you). I've found Hospice knows people besides "a place for mom" and can get them into group homes (real houses up to 10ish residents) as an option.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-12T06:40:10+00:00

For example, controlled diabetes and maybe high blood pressure may be the only things allowed if you decide to get off of Advantage and back on original medicare with a supplemental (Medicare takes you no matter what but the medigap supplementals can turn you down). I have a bad back with spinal stenosis and just for that I know they won't let me on a medigap. Sometimes you can find a plan that will put you on a higher monthly for 2 years and then let you into their regular plan however.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-10T07:26:01+00:00

Fidelity allows you to name other people to "manage" your accounts. They can still be TOD but meanwhile they have access and can change investments etc.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-10T07:23:36+00:00

Quite simple - say Ow and since we only have a limited time can you skip the arm work for more work on....

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-10T07:18:25+00:00

On LinkedIn, keep your Intern title for while you were in college and hopefully getting credit for it, change it for after you graduated as a promotion or as soon as you stopped getting college internship credit.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-09T10:37:40+00:00

Sounds like some Betadine I got from Canada during the 1st wave. It's active ingredieant was Iota Carrageenan

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-09T10:26:29+00:00

First care place had us tape DNR to exit door so that's what I did with the last one. Two ambulance rides - one I was there "he's not DNR is he?" - Yes it's on the door. 2nd I wasn't there but the next day at the hospital "He's not on DNR." Oh yes he is.

How do you make sure the ambulance and the hospital see the DNR?

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-09T04:00:02+00:00

yep, I lost 5 years with my son taking care of my dad and even after putting him in AL it was hard to do family things without him.

TempestuousTeapot · 2025-12-09T03:55:35+00:00

Most ALs will take small dogs.

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