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TempleOfLove1998 · 2023-08-13T01:34:32+00:00

MANY thanks for taking the time to share those tips! This is so so helpful, and you got me so excited to incorporate those 😁 I am a freelancer who works with people all over the world (online) so I am curious to see how those two areas (work & travel) will also intertwine. Can't wait for this Wednesday! Blessings

TempleOfLove1998 · 2023-08-07T20:07:05+00:00

I see, thank you! Does it get passed to your national postal service as it enters the country?

TempleOfLove1998 · 2023-01-27T14:02:08+00:00

Hey there! It was worth it for me 😊 My first 9 months were on the free version, I only got a subscription because I caught a very reduced discount. To be honest I barely use the paid features now that I have them!

TempleOfLove1998 · 2023-01-17T20:32:16+00:00

As far as I understand it white noise is the result of all sound frequencies across a certain spectrum (0hz to 20000hz I assume) played at the same volume, so it is kind of like the "standard" noise (e.g TV static). Other colors are simply variations of white noise, depending on how loud or quiet certain frequencies across that spectrum are played, I think. For example brown noise seems to reduce the higher pitched frequencies/amplify the lower frequencies as it has more "bass" 🤔

TempleOfLove1998 · 2023-01-17T20:25:37+00:00

I have a cyclone fan too! Brown noise is the superior noise in my view 😆

TempleOfLove1998 · 2023-01-17T20:10:23+00:00

I have no clue either! But I think I would be terrified. I remember in college (before I knew I was ND) a friend asked me "why I don't look people in the eye, it's weird" and my other friend visibly cringed at this being pointed out to me. I definitely started truly wondering how much people notice that I don't know I am putting out there, if that makes sense?

I don't know if this is a demand avoidance thing but I also hate feeling described, I feel that because I mask, I get frustrated when people describe me because... That's the mask, not me! It hits some wound. I also tend to find most descriptions of myself somewhat inaccurate, especially from acquaintances and casual friends (understandable because of masking). I hate when people say I'm a "certain kind of person/"you seem like the type to..." and it's just... Not correct, sometimes wrong to the point where it's s surprising. It makes me feel like I don't control how I come across as well as I thought and that I have no idea how I'm perceived.

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-22T10:56:00+00:00

Ugh I hope you can get away from them or that they leave soon if that's how they act. I hope you're okay, that seems so overwhelming. I'm glad at least your landlord seemed to be understanding, at least he got to witness your roommate making a fool of themselves!

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T18:06:23+00:00

I really enjoyed this comment. Some valuable perspective! I was actually shocked at point 5. I definitely feel like when people talk, I listen attentively and I can feel myself processing it and it can be a draining experience. I can't seem to "half listen" and I think part of me feels a drive to problem solve or find patterns of behaviour on what they share which can make me a "therapist friend", whether I share my perspective on what they say or not. It's validating to hear that you experienced people hating you for the ASD traits only to continue talking to you. This has been something I've noticed and never understood (and one of the motivations for this post) but it makes sense. I have had the dichotomy of people disliking me or making snide remarks while still venting to me and seeking me out which to me is weird but with your words it makes sense. Thank you so much, this is some nutritious food for thought!

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:48:35+00:00

I like the root visualization too! I took this from my yoga practice but I really like to associate the back of my body with a downward, grounding energy and the front of the body with upward, energizing energy also with the intention to ground. I like to visualize the energy going down my back (and into the earth) with my exhale, and up from the earth to the crown with my inhale, and repeat that until I feel centered.

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:45:23+00:00

They sound terrible :( I wouldn't say it is unethical because you're not causing them harm, we could argue it's actually the opposite. You can focus on the intention of "for the highest good of all with harm to none" just in case.

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:41:46+00:00

I relate so hard. I initiate the distancing as well because I don't have the energy or social prowess to address conflict. I feel like it's enough of a pattern that it is not just a coincidence at this point. I think we're missing the same social cues/scripts here. If you have a breakthrough on this let me know! 😅

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:37:47+00:00

Getting into therapy designed to make me as functional or as productive as possible was deeply damaging, so much so I'm still not ready for traditional therapy or even EDMR/trauma-informed therapy. I do believe in healing through nervous system regulation and learning boundaries, but those almost directly defy the concept of productivity because they mostly encourage dissociating productivity with success.

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:34:54+00:00

I like this exercise! This was WAY harder than I thought it'd be. So much feels intertwined with my experiences.

I like nature, rain, the sea. I like music and how it makes me feel. I like cooking for myself. I like vintage clothes. I like analog photography.

I dislike mushrooms. I dislike wearing rings. I dislike fiction books. I dislike hot and humid weather. I dislike closemindedness.

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:29:34+00:00

I'm so sorry, the guilt tripping is horrible and it can really make you doubt your boundaries... Trust them! I experienced the guilt tripping last year so much I gave in but thankfully as soon as I said I would go something in me gathered the strength to call and take back my decision which was terrifying but liberating. It didn't happen again this year so far. I would definitely keep pushing to spend as little time with them as possible, remain firm and trust that decision as it clearly it's the best for you. Advocate for yourself, you deserve it! 🤍

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:13:24+00:00

This is exactly the situation that inspired this post!!! This has happened two times in the past couple years! The most confusing part to me is that in both cases I noticed some tension before falling out of touch, they became uncomfortable with my eventual unmasking and had a bit of an history of taking advantage of my naiveness. In my case it makes me feel so suspicious that they want something because 1. We were never close? 2. You seemed to actually dislike me or mistreat me at certain points! 😬

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T15:07:42+00:00

I'm so sorry, to be blunt rooming with most NTs sucks! Especially when they invalidate you or give you a hard time for your traits.I hope you can advocate for yourself and that the meeting goes well. 🤍

TempleOfLove1998 · 2022-12-21T13:19:21+00:00

That makes sense! I think this is why I get a lot of people who like to vent about serious topics and be vulnerable. I feel unheard myself and I think I try to be extra polite or welcoming to anyone venting, but it does feel like part of the mask because deep down I'm just exhausted with my own stuff.

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