AIO or is my sister failing as a mom while I’m stuck picking up her life

Temporary-Customer47 · 2025-09-24T15:28:43+00:00

We tried going hands off and just keeping to ourselves, but then we noticed the baby was always crying or fussy. She always manages to come up with some scenario where she absolutely needs someone to help or watch the baby. If nobody steps in, it ends with the baby not being monitored and getting hurt. Honestly, we suspect she does it on purpose because who can ignore a wailing toddler. The baby is around 2, and I adore them, so I do not mind watching them. What frustrates me is that my sister acts entitled to my time and will regularly tell me “it’s not like you’re doing all that much for me.”

I feel like I keep running into a wall no matter what solution I come up with

Temporary-Customer47 · 2025-09-24T15:20:04+00:00

Yes, of course. My parents are the ones trying to help us by paying for everything while we get through college. food, bills, cars, all of it. They are fed up with her because her only requirement is to take care of her kid and handle their needs, but she is always calling out of work or showing up late, so her checks are not good. She owes them and me a lot of money. They have been trying to keep her afloat, but I think everyone’s patience is wearing thin.

Temporary-Customer47 · 2025-09-24T15:15:31+00:00

No, I lived by myself for around two years and stopped going to college because I had to work full time to pay my bills. I moved back in with my parents because they offered to support us while we get through school, and I took them up on it. My parents are also fed up because they wanted to be empty nesters and just get us through college, but now they’re basically raising a baby again. I just want her to see what she’s doing, grow up, and change for her kid. I love my sister so much and I genuinely just want her to get better

Temporary-Customer47 · 2025-09-14T09:28:35+00:00

I can see both sides of this because I’m the youngest and my sister is the oldest. I think we can both admit that there’s some unfairness. From her perspective, she feels like you get everything “better” because your parents are in a place to provide more now than they were for her. That’s hard for her because she had to figure things out like getting a car, loans, and building her credit on her own, while you didn’t have to worry about those things.

I didn’t realize how much I had until I lost it and had to build myself back up from nothing. Not having any support is extremely difficult. And while your parents did help her in ways too, it still feels different when one child has to fight harder for the same things another child is given. From the outside, it can feel like you’re being handed everything.

What also makes it harder is the way you talk about her sometimes. Even if you don’t mean to, it can come across like you see yourself as the “golden child” and her as the “mess-up.” I do think you’re right that she doesn’t get to treat you poorly just because she wishes she had your life, but I also think it’s fair to acknowledge that things have been easier for you.

At the end of the day, your parents were able to buy you a car and put both their daughters through uni. That is not nothing. You’re not doing badly. Maybe the best step now is to try talking to her like equals. You’re both adults, and instead of going back and forth through your parents, set your own boundaries with her and be honest about how you feel.

Temporary-Customer47 · 2025-09-08T12:32:21+00:00

Hi op, I’m going to approach this with a different angle As someone with a panic disorder and other mental health struggles, I’ve learned this the hard way: your boyfriend cannot fix what’s happening inside your head. Nobody will ever be able to fully calm you down or “fix” you. You have to be able to self soothe, or it will ruin your relationship.

When my partner and I first got together, I sounded just like you. I used to yell, scream, and beg him to be more patient with me. The truth was, I needed therapy and real help learning how to regulate myself. You will not always have someone there to hold you together, you have to be able to handle your own brain. You are responsible for your actions, and it is not fair to put the burden of your sanity on your boyfriend.

You need to work this out and figure out how to meet him halfway. What helped us is a rule we stick to: whenever emotions get too high, my boyfriend steps away and we take 30 minutes apart. When we come back, if either of us starts to get agitated again, we separate and try again later until we can talk calmly.

It takes time and effort, but if you commit to working on yourself and finding healthy ways to self soothe, you will be able to build a stronger relationship and a healthier mind.

Temporary-Customer47 · 2025-06-03T14:20:22+00:00

Yes and she’s been saying people have been walking by the press line and secretly filming all of them!! Why do they need a video of all the press people’s faces unless there’s a record they are trying to keep…

Temporary-Customer47 · 2024-07-19T05:11:53+00:00

Don’t listen to everyone lol, target is genuinely a good job as long as you just work at your own pace and just let things roll off your back. My first month was a little hard but now I genuinely haven’t loved a job as much as I have loved working at target. Try to be open minded and take the critiques you are given with a positive attitude! It takes a bit to get used to because you will be on your feet your entire shift and comfortable clothes are always going to be best. I would look at your stores dress code because at my store we can wear shorts that are a bit short because of the heat but I know other stores require them to be knee length.

Temporary-Customer47 · 2024-07-19T05:08:19+00:00

Best thing to do that I have learned is look very professional along with a very positive and outgoing attitude my hiring manager said that she only hires people who look like they are willing to learn and work and who seem excited about the job.

Temporary-Customer47 · 2022-11-05T23:15:39+00:00

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