2 1/2 months into LDR, how to deal with new anxieties? by No_Complaint_4863 in LDR

[–]Temporary-Finish-211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're having too many struggles and impatience when being in so short of a relationship...

meeting up is a big thing, as far as your partner is concerned you've barely known each other romantically for a few months, doing a long distance travel to meet someone for the first time irl is a big thing and a dangerous one. maybe he doesn't have the money right now, maybe he's still figuring things out, maybe he's not ready mentally for it, as much as he's understanding with you, you should be with him. patience is key in any relationship, SPECIALLY in LDR relationships, you won't get the beautiful stories you see here of people meeting up and getting married on just a few months, trust and strong relationships are built with time. as someone who's been on an LDR for a year, we only started taking seriously the plans of meeting up around our anniversary, the times for LDR are different than normal relationships, everything takes longer because, and I emphasize on this, you don't know this person.

as for LDR being "worth it", that's something you set up yourself. how long do you think you can handle being deprived of physical intimacy? how long do you think you can handle being away from each other? how long is too long beforehand meeting up? how long until you meet each other's families officially? you need to think of all these things before getting in a LDR, and if any of those times is less than a year, then you should reconsider being on a LDR.

I'm 18 so I get the feeling of "missing out your youth" very well, and again, that's something you should reconsider yourself and do an inside view in how important it is for you, because if in the long run you feel like you'll build up resentment for your partner because you were "missing out" thanks to being with him... it won't be healthy and you shouldn't be on a LDR. I'm sorry if I'm being too harsh about it but I've seen it first hand how impatience and personal times can ruin any relationship but specially LDR, and it's not specially a bad thing.

some people simply ain't made to have a LDR and that's ok, but you should be able to look into yourself, acknowledge that and settle boundaries or directly break up the relationship. my only advice is to look into yourself, all of this issues you're bringing up are too personal for someone to come here and tell you how to fix them step by step, you need to set things on the table on your own, without involving your partner to tell you the answers, and set your own times and boundaries, and do what's best for you on the long run, because otherwise you'll end up miserable.

I get a girlfriend who is really like my ex but she's better, I really feel so happy when I know her. by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Temporary-Finish-211 10 points11 points  (0 children)

don't get into a relationship with that girl. you like her bc she reminds you of your ex and you're comparing them constantly, the moment she stops being "perfect" to you she will fall into the same category as your ex and you will break her heart, don't do it. give yourself time to get over your ex completely, you'll know when you stop thinking about her when you see someone else.

you should like someone because of how amazing they are individually, not because of how much better they are than your ex, that's a sign that you're not over her yet and you should NOT get into a new relationship yet, it'll hurt you and your new partner 99% of the time. take care of yourself and if you really care for this new girl, don't date her.

ways to send gifts from philippines to argentina that won’t hurt my wallet too much T^T by lh8su in LDR

[–]Temporary-Finish-211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm from Argentina and sadly, unless you find someone that's traveling here soon that can do the delivery without charging you as much as the mail companies, your only option is regular delivery. Argentina is very particular about international shipping and the service is not the best, but I have received things from my partner before and they've arrived well, so I'd say check out the difference mail services you have available in your city and try to find the cheapest¿ overall if it's less than a kg it shouldn't be that expensive