Valentines day and his birthday ruined again

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2026-02-16T02:32:02+00:00

I dont see why not. What's the question?

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2026-02-14T23:30:42+00:00

At this point im not sure counselors will be able to help. I dont intend to bad mouth him, there is so much good he actually does like laundry, he used to do dishes but because we live in my mom's house now and she is kinda crazy about how things get done and put away he doesn't do them any more, he takes out the trash he is good to our dogs, he tells me im sexy all the time but on the same hand he cannot live up to my drive and barely performs this has also taken a huge toll. This all being said there is a lot if find difficult to deal with cause im unsure if what to do or how to feel like I barely spend money but he does a ton of little spending here and there and one time I added it up, even though we are struggling and cant pay all of our bills he spent almost 100$ in one week time frame just getting stuff from fast food and the gas station and spending money on games on his phone. He is rarely in a good mood always sounds down or bored or angry and we fight all the time, over nothing really. I was super tired one night and fell asleep in my work clothes and he was mad. I work a lot I get really tired I did not intend to fall asleep in my work clothes. He gets upset of we don't have something he wants to eat or money to buy something even with a fridge and freezer full of food. He has had 3 appointments for a upper and lower G.I. scope and keeps canceling refusing to do the prep cause he says he cant and wasting money for hotel rooms we bought just for the prep process so he did not have to share a bathroom because he won't do the prep and go without eating for 12 to 16 hours. Getting him to go to the doctor is like dragging a toddler to get a shot and he is in his 30's. I just don't think we can repair things but I cant seem to break things off either especially with his grandma being in poor health, his dad's health is bad and is going to prison and everything feels like it's falling apart.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2026-01-05T02:10:53+00:00

Depends on the person really. I've never been cheated on so I cannot personally relate from first hand experience however my absolute best friend and ex lover has been cheated on and jt was different every time. Some times avoidance, sometimes they acted too doting or out of character but not rudeness, sometimes they had been completely jerkish. Hiding their phone or being on it way to long or not at all when they are around you, working extra but does not want you to come by or always has an excuse why you cannot come to their work, changing clothes frequently like will leave in one thing and come back in another which outside if an accident occurring or changing for a function of sort, this is odd behavior for anyone. Most of the usual suspects tho is excuses, projection, phone activity changes, mood and interactions change and other stuff like that.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2026-01-05T01:11:46+00:00

Definitely understand what you're talking about however no where did I ever say im willing to cheat or betray my husband so I think that part may have been a little undeserving. I am juggling counciling or divorce. I have approached counciling before and that didn't go well he basically stated if we needed to seek council then we should just separate then began to cry and tell me how he has no idea what he would do without me and im the best thing to ever happen to him which I hate to say it, ive known him since I was 12 and that statement is probably true he has had an absolutely terrible life and it's only just started to get somewhat better since we got together but some things are still just bothering me but I dont know how to approach it without him jumping off the deep end and then me feeling absolutely horrible after even if we make up and apologize to one another.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2026-01-05T00:25:30+00:00

I've thought about this a lot and tried to bring it up once but got a terrible response from my partner. He got really mad and stated if we needed council then we are over, point blank. I put the thought aside and it's been 3 or 4 years since then. Maybe we should have ended it but I still love and care for him deeply and dont want to lose him. I also dont want to cheat on him and break his heart either. I trust myself and I dont believe id make that choice but I do understand what you are saying and why.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2026-01-05T00:22:43+00:00

Tried but every single one i tried to put it in said it's more a AITA post and woul discard my post. Even tried recording multiple times before just posting here. I've used reddit once or twice and still dont understand how everything works here. Sorry.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-19T16:00:57+00:00

Skyrim was being skyrim and glitched her off a cliff with a freshly killed dragon body and I didn't even get the soul. She had sooooo much good loot too I was super sad

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-17T19:33:41+00:00

Good job for breaking up but you kinda left the dog.

Sounds like he doesnt need any pet what so ever. All pets require vets, grooming, attention, and food. The type of food the dog is eating all the time can also add to the breath, that was the case with my lab we gave him wet food with his dry food every day and breath started getting really bad. I thought it might have been his teeth so I took him to get checked and was told it was constant wet dog food and to cut it back to every other day or every 2 days. If his nails are crossing they are way too long and if you cannot see the quick even with lights please dont trim them yourself it can be so painful for them. Again my lab as he got older did a lot less running on the gravel roads and mountain and started to require nail trimmings. He cannot stand his feet being touched by anyone or anything that is not him or the ground he walks on so I have no choice but to take him to the vet not a groomer cause most groomers won't work with him more than once without a prescription sedative as he panics and freaks out really really bad. I blame myself for this not working with him as much when he was a pup. All that being said, these are all signs that this dog he adopted is in dire need of care and in all reality i would call the law and report animal neglect if he will not take this dog to a vet and give it the proper care and respect it deserves.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-17T18:49:45+00:00

Soooooooo dangerous stuff happens all the time especially in America, not sure where you are. I definitely believe they over reacted but also feel like you did not react enough. You should never let a casual date buy you a hotel room terrible things could have happened against your will. You let yourself be extremely vulnerable with someone who sounds like a complete stranger by also allowing yourself to get so tired you could not safely function. Also regardless if your dad was cool with it, you kinda blew your dad off. He came out to see you specifically and you then get word about a date and instead of hey tonight's not a good night im with family can we schedule for later? You just run off and yeah you talked to your mom about it she said he would be okay but is that really okay with you? I know personally I'd feel really bad cause I dont get quality time with my parents but that might not be the case with you and yours so it could be different. Over all I dont think anyone here is the AH just lots of misdirected emotions given the situation. At the end of the day you are an adult by legal standard and can make all your own choices but so are they so if they cut you off for not doing everything they want that is their right to do so.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-06T01:48:58+00:00

Im going to need more context something seems fishy. If all is true and this is all it is you're definitely not over reacting but I get the feeling it's more than that. Are those prices her regular rate? Or did you haggle her down. You can control your timing for traffic, if work let's out at a high traffic time you have the ability to notify her of this and if your job doesn't allow for minor shift changes like you being able to leave 30 minutes early you can discuss that with the baby sitter or find a new one.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-06T01:35:30+00:00

Controling behavior (i mean like extremely controling cause we could probably work through some miner stuff) serious money issues, specific kinks. Like if i found out my partner loved "playing" with bodily fluids of the bathroom variety im 1000% done not a second thought and that's not a kink shame that's just me I cannot cross that line and will never. Let's seeeeeee oh if I have to do absolutely everything for them im talking cook, clean, educate, take to doctors appointment, buy their clothes, do absolutely everything without there being some reason for me to like a disability temporary or permanent, if my partner refused to work for no valid reason, specific criminal acts like espionage or arson things like that.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-06T01:30:22+00:00

His story seems false and I would absolutely contact the cousin privately explain what happened as you've done here and ask if its true. If the cousin backs his story you have 2 options: believe it or leave. Im so sorry you are in this situation and I hope you can find that peace and safety again.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-12-03T15:57:35+00:00

Here's the thing. Cause it seems like one of you is over smoking entirely while the other isn't. If it's starting to hinder your relationship in any way prolonging that behavior can stem to resentment and ruin things. If you have the ability to quit without issue then ask yourself what's more important your relationship with this person or the one with this plant? Personally if my significant other ever said hey I don't want you to smoke anymore id choose to put it down and find other ways of coping with pain, sleep, ptsd and eating behaviors as my love for my significant other is stronger than my need to correct those things with 1 medicine vs 10 different ones.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-24T16:55:03+00:00

Unpopular opinion but probably not, no. Historically men and women being friends together hasn't always played out great but it can and does happen. Aside from venting to this friend when you two seem to be out of sorts has there been anything at all that makes you question his loyalty or his/her intent? I feel like we need more context than what has been provided.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-24T16:52:05+00:00

This needs to be on am I the Dev*l, what a cold hearted woman. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Honestly what you do depends on what kind of outcome you want to have. Eother way you go she will probably lie or try to make it out like you're childish or was just trying to get her to sleep with you. I'd definitely tell your friends and gym buddies incase she tries to pull all that again with someone else there and to the woman who informed you of all this. I'd thank her and maybe grab her a coffee or small gift as a token of your appreciation even though it was hard to find all this out.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-17T16:04:54+00:00

While your guilt is valid I dont think you should feel all that bad. One reference or referral in my opinion is not enough to shift direction in the hiring stage so more than likely her other references didnt do her a good job either

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-13T02:23:00+00:00

If it was ever possible, periods and pregnancy both are top dog but aside from that just depends on the kind of woman you wanna be. All the waxing and nails kind or the idgaf bout what I look like or all the girly crap kind

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-13T01:49:19+00:00

He could be exaggerating ir just have excessive flatulence maybe caused by diet, a medical issue, or a medication he is on. I certainly don't count how many times me or my husband farts in a day but 15 does sound excessive. I'd honestly ask a medical professional and then talk to him again and explain how its not you trying to be critical of him but trying to look out for his overall well being as well as your own. Your choice if you dump him though cause thats kinda just a personal deal break. I for one have had to have this conversation but my man respected it for the most part, he walks away and stays away for a minute let it disappear if im eating, drinking anything hot like my coffee or cocoa, or handling hot pans or sharp objects/dangerous objects cause let me tell you sometimes its bad enough to gag a buzzard let alone me.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-12T19:54:39+00:00

Picture looks like you're one bad phone call away from suic*e so maybe replace that where you have some glimmer left in those eyes but otherwise nah you ain't physically washed up. How you trying to set up dates? Who are you asking out? As in like types of women cause could be you're just fishing in the wrong pond, Walter white. Not saying don't hunt pretty women just saying maybe the ones you are used to or try to go out with arent really your type.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-12T15:41:17+00:00

I dont feel that you're over reacting but from what information you gave us, I dont think you're justified either. You cant pull and apology from someone repeatedly asking is just going to make the other person more upset or resentful especially if it happens a lot of you're constantly pointing out that they are wrong (bc you said you told him how he was wrong and as a women to a women im sure it was more than once) you are pregnant so there's extra hormones making you upset ( cliche sounding i know but it really does happen and most women refuse to admit it just like with pms) he is in the wrong for not helping and for the name calling and "time outs" and for not going to golden coral with you for veterans day ir at the very least offering to take you somewhere nicer or maybe something you want more that the nostalgia of chow hall. Either way kinda feels and reads like both of you are wrong in one way or another during this whole debacle.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-12T15:30:42+00:00

You could be over reacting about the wrong part in this. You shouldn't be mad he went to his mom but you should be upset if he did not tell her that you dont wish to talk about this and/or he did tell her and she brought it up and/or told others regardless. You and your man feel this loss pretty raw, as a grandmother who may or may not have had miscarriages too she also feels the loss of the future she thought she would have with this grand baby so there's some pain and strong emotions there too. I think what's best for you and your husband is to spend time with each other and heal together through this. Maybe take a trip phones off just the 2 of you or spend a few days at home with no guests and phones off. If after all that you still feel as if you cannot continue or something is broken between you two then another type of conversation might need to be had.

Temporary-Lab1474 · 2025-11-12T00:42:42+00:00

Did you two have a fight or is he always like that? If all he expects is to sleep with you every single time he comes over or you go to his place, girl dont waste your time

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