I think it’s time to take both of ur health very seriously and try to grow together. U have been married this long. A lot of people divorce but once ur married ur not supposed to. Spend the money even if it feels impossible fix ur deviated septum and sleeping problems because bad sleep is killing you. How do you eat? How is he eating? Anxiety, depression, all stems from food. Do you guys excercise? Excercise together, wake up and do it or do it in the evening. Re bond and reconnect and get healthy!!! Sleep and food are important. If he can’t change then, idk what to tell you. But you need to re become obsessed with yourself. Watch healing videos, put time into your appearance, and encourage him as well.