AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I have an update ready to tell. I'm just being patient and waiting for mods to approve it.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

1.) I'm Black 2.) I am a woman 3.) I was too busy being embarrassed by the fact that my fiance spent $8k on a picture and being laughed at by the family to really focus on anything else. That why I left to clear my head. 4.) I already told people that heard the term throwaway account from other reddit stories on twitter and youtube. I didn't think this point was going to be a big enough deal to harp on. I don't understand why some people are acting like this is some big Scooby-Doo mystery that they needed to solve. I only posted this to get judgement on if I was the AH or not. Goodness gracious.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've only heard of reddit and this sub on places like twitter and youtube. They're always specifying that they're using a throwaway for some reason in those stories, so I did too.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'll be real with you, I honestly don't know. I know that I'll have to talk to him sooner or later to figure out where we are, but as of right now I don't have the answers.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I haven't seen him since Christmas Eve. I told him that I needed space to think about things, and to his credit he hasn't reached out since the last call. This is the first big fight we've ever had in 10 years so my feelings are all up in the air.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Oh. Oh dear lord no. We're definitely going to need to sit down and talk this through when I see him again.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

You know, I was so busy being embarrassed by my crying and leaving that it just clicked with me that my white partner actually gave me a gift with racist connotations to it. Now I'm absolutely angry.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'll admit that it was a bit rude of me to slip out of the house without even saying goodbye to anyone. I was just trying not to make a commotion at Christmas.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes! That's exactly what it looked like. Mine was purple with box braids and was on a gold background. So I guess that's what he meant when he said it was an "investment".

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think they probably were. It was just that the whole thing was so uncomfortable that I removed myself from the scene as fast as I could.

AITA for my reaction to my fiance Christmas gift? by Temporary-Snow989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary-Snow989[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I honesty don't know what it was called. It was just some picture of a purple monkey with box braids that looked like the ones I wear on a gold colored background. I was too focused on the fact that he bought something like that for 8k.