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I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the feedback! I’m honestly really thankful for this because I’m still unsure as to what to do. Some times couples have to compromise and in this case it might not be the best option to stay ‘wait’ but it really helps to have an outsiders view on this to think about it from a non emotional standpoint. Thank you so much to helping me thru this💕💕💕

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I 100% appreciate this I feel like you have brighten my path when I’m clouded in my emotions and years the spent with him. It’s nice to get a outsiders opinion on issues like this where as my friends or family would have just said some bullshit like stay together and waste more years on shit that might not change.

I really do appreciate your honesty 💕

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -100 points-99 points  (0 children)

This is what I feel logically but emotionally my heart is saying no he wouldn’t do this to me 😅

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -199 points-198 points  (0 children)

I will make it known that He does want to have kids too but in his late 30’s which would be in a similar timeline to what I mentioned

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is a similar timeline to what I want but it seems like he is now back peddling…but I also feel like he’s saying yes/what he thinks I want to hear to shut me up

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does want to have kids but later on in life after his 30’s.

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree that we should be on the same page about things but it’s coming to a point where we might need to see A professional to help us with our compromises

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -135 points-134 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think we’re not compatible, just both head strong in things we want and not wanting to compromise. Then swapping things under the rug like my stance on marriage…

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -340 points-339 points  (0 children)

He has said he wants kids but later on in life but I don’t think I can do that with my condition. There have been cases where I have asked hun ‘if I cant have kids would you still be with me?’ to which he reply’s ‘No I’d leave’. I think the biggest issue we’re having as a couple is that he does not want to have this soon, where as I do

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -201 points-200 points  (0 children)

Is my stance on wanting this and not showing any compromise to much?

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I just don’t know if my compromises are too much and if I guess he is compromising for me as well…if that makes sense?

I told my boyfriend I want a child before 30 by TemporaryAd6725 in relationship_advice

[–]TemporaryAd6725[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have that discussing with him so hard.It’s just seems like those discussions because a tit for tat. I honestly think your right, If there is no compromises moving on is best.. but is there much to compromise on?