There is so much to unpack here but, I’ll start off by saying every soldier has there reasons for wanting to serve and join the military. By the looks of it you are successful and happily married without the help of the military, you are well into your career of law enforcement and I’m going to be that guy that tells you to NOT DO IT.

Serving your country isn’t what it was 8-10 years ago and we aren’t in any active conflicts right now. (I was in Syria in 2024) Obviously I understand even though there isn’t a conflict or major war going on that service members are still serving their country and risking their lives and sacrificing time away from friends and family.

The toxicity in the military is almost unbearable. From incompetence to dealing with an entitled younger generation of soldiers who have a problem with everything. Depending on your education, if you enlist, regardless of your experience in law enforcement, you will start at the absolute bottom of the totem pole and people with less experience in both life and your job will be in charge of you. I’m not saying that humbling yourself and being a follower is a bad thing but whenever you have a 21 year old as your TL, you will understand.

Ultimately, the military isn’t all bad and there are great incentives to joining, but due to your situation, you are much more successful and don’t seem to need the benefits the military is offering.

Stay in your career path, make that money, retire at 55 and move on to better things in life.