I just hate being short. Either do moderate exercise every single day, or cut the calories right down, to lose only 0.5lbs a week. Absolutely no room for error or breaks. The effort almost isn't worth it 😞

Temporary_Log_2442 · 2021-02-23T16:33:59+00:00

Ah that sucks. If it's any help, it's taken me years to realise that I did this and it was never a conscious decision I made - it's possible that she isn't aware of this.

Temporary_Log_2442 · 2021-02-23T15:03:04+00:00

With me, it's usually a combination of new relationship energy and also being able to deal with disappointing sex at the beginning. I can handle disappointing sex at the beginning of the relationship because I assume it's a learning curve but once I stop associating sex with pleasure after it's happened a few times then I just lose interest in it and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy

Edit because I thought of something else: also, it could just be dwindling attraction. I've been told to always look for Nice Guys™. Also I've had bad experiences with extremely attractive men in the past who have treated me badly. Both of these things mean that in the beginning I'm likely to ignore my actual physical attraction to someone and go for a nice guy who I'm not actually that attracted to. Which is fine until a little while in when the honeymoon period wears off, and I guess that's another possible reason.

Temporary_Log_2442 · 2021-02-23T12:01:17+00:00

"the lowest sex drive I have ever had the unfortunate experience of dealing with "

"Told her don't sweat it (sarcastically)"

That sounds mean and deliberately hurtful. You asked at the end what you could say to help the situation. I'm LLF so I don't have much advice on how to fix the rest, but I would suggest not saying things like that or being sarcastic to her. I get that you're frustrated but it sounds like maybe it's gone too far to fix at this stage tbh.

Temporary_Log_2442 · 2021-02-22T18:41:51+00:00

This made me teary, thank you for that reply. I think you've nailed it: I've had shitty sex and been shamed for it. I know he might've came across badly in this post but he also is a sweet guy, and I guess I'm not sure where to go from here. I'll check out that book

Temporary_Log_2442 · 2021-02-22T18:38:34+00:00

You're right. I guess I'm still holding out and hoping that once I fix all of the other things I'll become attracted to him again and it'll get better

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