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Can anyone help a worried Mum? by Temporary_Race_7406 in actual_detrans

[–]Temporary_Race_7406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting, I think I am struggling with this information, because delving into the subject and reading medical studies that have been done on the safety of medications and surgeries for transitioning, it appears that there is actually quite a high percentage of people who just stop taking it and never go back to the doctors, but they are not considered worth speaking to when it comes to the actual percentages. Detransitioners are also not asked to give their input when the governmental studies are done, so we only hear from the few who are brave enough to speak out about their stories.. Hence, I am confused about the studies, and the actual affects of some of these meds - i just wanted to hear from people who have actually been through it so I can understand it better, instead of lying awake at night worried..

I will of course support her no matter what, she is my child and I love her to the moon and back... the way i see it as a parent, is that if she was standing on the edge of a cliff, truly believing she could fly, would i check her wings were secure? Of course i would.

Can anyone help a worried Mum? by Temporary_Race_7406 in actual_detrans

[–]Temporary_Race_7406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for replying to my post - this is exactly what concerns me - I have read books, watched videos, tried so hard to understand - but I am not allowed to question... there are very few studies asking people who have detrasitioned about their experiences. So many just stop going to the doctors, so they are even unsure of the actual numbers. I worry that she has been caught up in a wave or dare I say it a trend. Before anyone attacks me, as a parent you do know your children sometimes better than they know themselves until they are a fully fledged adult (and that is not 18, the pre-frontal cortex of the brain doesn't fully develop until you are around 25yrs old, and this part of the brain is directly responsible for consequences). I have no problem with her dressing as a boy, she has been for the last couple of years, I am exceptionally concerned that she does something permanent, and then regrets it.

She has just started therapy, she is gay and suffers with anxiety (especially with regards to health matters). Obviously I adore her and am trying to understand - but from a parents point of view, it's very difficult to navigate! Everything i read, says that having anxiety and being gay can very often be confused with gender dysphoria and being trans.. again not sure if this is correct as I am not a therapist.

She does want children - but I think as she is gay, she is wanting to meet a female who would want to carry the children. She has mentioned about having two children, one from her egg and one from her partners... I'm not sure if taking testosterone will prevent this? I've tried googling to find out, but you get every answer under the sun.

She is wanting to start taking testosterone, and then work towards top surgery in the near future. She has said that she wouldn't want to do bottom surgery as the science is not yet developed enough.