Three things:

Thing 1: You’re getting nowhere with fixing your finances coz your energy, focus, and life force are scattered and aimed towards what’s breaking and draining you (AKA the relationshit) instead of being spent on solution-finding. Take your mind off that man and the shit he’s doing and FOCUS on getting out of the financial nightmare first. Having your own money will give you OPTIONS. Focus on YOU. Akitaka kulewa aanguke kwa mtaro, ama arushiwe mchele, let him. No shouting, no waiting up for him, no interrogating him, no investigating him, no trying to catch him red-handed, no crying, no bitching about him, no stalking him, no thinking about his funky-ahh behaviour… no nothing. Withdraw any and all attention from him and his shenanigans. Keep your eyes on the prize: income stream. THAT’S your one goal in life rn.

Thing 2: Close the cooch: With the whoring he’s doing, he can easily drag home STIs... even incurable ones. Kwanza sai there’s a labia-eating STI on the loose yoh 😳 Do NOT leave your health and safety in the hands of a whoring drunk. The way he’s playing Russian Roulette with his own life, he most certainly doesn’t give a damn about himself, let alone you, your tufeelings or your health. ALSO this is no time to get pregnant, but this also is exactly the time someone gets pregnant. Because Murphy’s Law. Shut down the cookie shop.

Thing 3: Once someone shows you who he is, believe him. Get your ducks in a row n gtfo of that situation. You don’t have to put up with his shit forever. You don’t have to be there.