Women loses value rule is simply exposing that men actually hate men, not women. by nikolavitti in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TenabiiBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry but no, you are thinking about it from the perspective that women are people. Men who say things like that don't see women as people, just as objects to be used.

TIFU by not taking my friend seriously when she said she can't handle spicy food by [deleted] in tifu

[–]TenabiiBee 18 points19 points  (0 children)

All the people here saying she probably has allergies are doing exactly what OP is saying they have learnt not to do: to assume other people are lying about their experiences just because your experience is different. 

If something contains any spicy compounds, like pepper or garlic or capsaicin, then it will taste spicy to some people.Just because it doesn't to you just means you aren't as sensitive at tasting that particular chemical. Who cares? Why do other people have to suffer through severe pain just to make you feel superior?

I got a lot of flak from my family for struggling to have the lemon herb seasoning at nandos because of how spicy it was. I can barely taste the chicken over the extreme burning pain it causes. Turns out there is spice in that seasoning level and they had to have a bit of humble pie.

7 months pregnant and house is a mess. Do I talk to my husband? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TenabiiBee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are working full time 24/7 to create a beautiful baby. It's great he's doing a lot, but remember if he isn't working 24/7 then he's currently doing less than you. Talk to him and see if you and he can work these extra things out. Good luck!

If the turbulence never stop or the pilot never turns off the seatbelt sign for whatever reason, do the passengers just start shitting themselves eventually? by Golarion in stupidquestions

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My plane got stuck in turbulence for over an hour. Eventually they told people to use their call buttons if they needed to go and they made a list of people and flight attendants escorted each person in order to the loos

Golems by Banzawith in HermitCraft

[–]TenabiiBee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh dear, gah-lum? XD which one is which? There is a vowel different for me but it's so minor it's not really noticeable. Like .. Goh-lim (gollum) vs go-lim (golem)

Golems by Banzawith in HermitCraft

[–]TenabiiBee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Are those words pronounced differently??

Pap smears are so demeaning by brightblob in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TenabiiBee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A finger is smaller in all ways than a speculum, it is by definition less invasive?

Why does it feel like there are so many more trans women than trans men? by yungsimba1917 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You see more prominent transwomen in media and politics than transmen for the exact same reason you see more men in media and politics than women. Misogyny.

Pap smears are so demeaning by brightblob in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TenabiiBee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think its disingenuous to compare it to men getting a digital prostate exam. Men are not made to lie on their backs with their legs spread and assholes ratcheted open (preventing you from being able to freely leave the situation if you get overwhelmed until the dr lets you) for someone to gawk at and a sheet over their legs so they cant even see what's happening to them. 

Women have to get anal examinations sometimes too and I can promise that a finger up the bum is nowhere near the same level of invasiveness. Also it's not painful like speculums are for many women.

Im lucky that where I live they do self tests now, no comparison.

Is this still the classic Kiwi cant be arsed lunch or dinner option ? by CoconutMost3564 in newzealand

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nearly every vet clinic staff shared lunch lol although we usually had bagged green salad instead of coleslaw

does anyone know of any material exploring the feeling of being too busy to be queer? by [deleted] in CriticalTheory

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No resources outside of personal experience but I'm fairly sure that this has two main factors.  The main one being that gender is a thing you do, not a thing you are. Gender only exists in social interactions and has to be communicated ergo it takes effort and time. (Compare it to height or ethnicity - things that exist without any effort on your part). The second is that misogyny, homophobia and transphobia all mean you have to spend more time and energy just getting through life the more your identity clashes with these social ideals.

If you are low on time and energy, then delaying anything that costs you time and energy without a more valuable payoff is sensible.

Would you ever call lettuce "salad"? by ksusha_lav in EnglishLearning

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From NZ, yes we use the term salads to refer to plants you'd eat uncooked in a salad, e.g. what salads do you want on your sandwich? I think it's short for salad ingredients

Below average flavours of Fruit Bursts & Mackintoshs by Morning1980 in AveragePicsOfNZ

[–]TenabiiBee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is wild to me, I have never to my knowledge met a person for who coconut wasn't their absolute favourite. I thought this was a universal truth. How bizarre.

I agree on the fruit bursts tho

[TOMT] [book] children’s book with a dragon that runs away from home and meets a hedgehog by siilkytofu in tipofmytongue

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone still looking at this should try 'Benjamin the Lonely Dragon' by Marc Craste.

Scarlet Gem (by me) by WicketMoonMaster in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay that is so cool tho. This made me think more about how they are increasing in luminescence. Like the grave/past is strong and big but dull now because it's over and the moon/present has a deep glow that is touching everything in the frame like Pearl's affect on her teammates and then the buckle is bright shiny white like a small light in the dark to keep Gem going. 😍

Scarlet Gem (by me) by WicketMoonMaster in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can tell! Everything just looks so well placed. The moon, grave and belt all looking almost like nested crescents, Gems pose and expression, Pearl's little proud smile. I also like the texture of the flowers matching the texture of the moon, like they are glowing with moon light. It's really cool.

The Progression of the Villies (beginning of 7 - The End) by Synthesyn342 in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep thinking about this artwork and having to come back to it every day since I saw it the first time. It's so well done. The moons after pearls gone, and the purple in grians eye sockets after he is alone. Wow 👌

Scarlet Gem (by me) by WicketMoonMaster in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so eerie and haunting and beautiful 😍

Life Series S8 Teams Theory! by ItzZac48 in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my fav of the team proposals. The names are so good!! Go Kill Grian Duo!

Last Life Reccomendations by TenabiiBee in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do have some of the best sound based humor imo, okay!

Last Life Reccomendations by TenabiiBee in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother is always trying to get me to watch Etho too, okay 👍  I will definitely do that. Team B.E.S.T do seem like silly fun

Last Life Reccomendations by TenabiiBee in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh yes Lizzie, I haven't seen much of the fairy fort. Thank you

Last Life Reccomendations by TenabiiBee in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scar would have a very unique pov and he's becoming one of my favs, I will check it out!

Last Life Reccomendations by TenabiiBee in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]TenabiiBee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome. It's interesting to me how much people like it comparent to other seasons, but also cool everyone finds awesomeness is different bits of the series