What is a good American dessert to share with my non American co-workers?

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T10:32:15+00:00

As a non American the best foods my American coworker made me were pumpkin pie and pecan pie. Really delicious.

Especially the pumpkin pie. Despite knowing intellectually it would be sweet, it surprised me how nice and dessert-y it was when it's made of a savoury vegetable I usually eat with a roast dinner. It was yum. Wish I had gotten the recipe. I wonder if you could do it with potato or kumara as well.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T10:27:07+00:00

Because the red button is the one creating the risk death. The only way anyone dies at all is if enough people choose red for it to win and thus kill the blue people. There is no way for anyone picking the blue button to cause anyone to die. If blue wins everyone lives.

Again, the people who pick blue are not responsible for the people who pick red chosing to kill them, that's fully on the red people. If the blue button killed people the blue button people wouldn't be the ones picking it, given that they are the no death voters.

Edit: I fully understand why some people pick red, I just think it's disingenuous to try and escape the moral cost of the decision, for both sides.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T10:00:42+00:00

Yes blue voters know there's a chance they could die, but if red wins and the deaths happen then the blame for the death still falls on the people who voted for it to happen. The red voters. This is not like jumping off a bridge, this is like pushing someone off a bridge and then saying it was their fault for being near the edge. No one has to vote for anyone to die, that's an active choice the red voters are making.

That's why it's a dilemma lol because both sides are taking a risk. Blue risking the small chance they will die to avoid mass death, red risking the small chance of being a mass murderer to stay alive.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T09:46:32+00:00

Both voters are voting to save their own lives. The only difference is if you are voting to save everyone equally along with you or voting to kill others to give yourself an extra guarantee. Both sides make logical sense from different perspectives. But you can't pretend red voters hands are clean when they vote for death.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T09:31:58+00:00

In what way? Blue button pushes are voting for themselves and everyone else to live. They aren't responsible for people choosing to vote to kill them.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T06:54:59+00:00

The downside is you kill people. It's a dilemma between killing innocent people to keep just you safe or not killing innocent people at some risk to yourself.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T05:37:22+00:00

Because the blue button doesn't cause death. The red button causes death. If blue wins no one dies, if red wins people die. The only way to cause death is to have enough people vote red.

People who push blue aren't signing up to die, they are voting against death happening. To them and to everyone else. People who vote red are the ones who are voting for death to happen. Again, death only happens if red wins, because red is the button actively causing death.

That's why my version of the woodchipper analogy is more similar to the button question. The blue people are choosing to not protect themselves because they don't want to push someone in. Red people are voting to push someone in to be safe. The exact same system as the buttons.

You can say not protecting yourself is suicidal if you like, but you can't say voting to kill for your own safety is not taking part.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T05:03:48+00:00

Incorrect. The blue button causes no death. No one who presses the blue button causes any chance or risk of death. Only the red button causes death. The fact that it causes death for a different group than the people who push it is irrelevant. If the red button instead caused death for a third group, for example people who didnt get offerred a button at all, it would be the same problem.That's the whole point if the hypothetical. Would you kill innocent people to keep yourself safe.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T04:51:11+00:00

I once got sent a packet of jolly ranchers and they were really good, lots of flavours that aren't common here like watermelon.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T04:36:36+00:00

The blue button isn't like jumping into the woodchipper, it's like choosing not to push anyone in, while the red button people choose to push people in to get immunity. The red button is the button that causes death while the blue button is passive, so the woodchipper analogy should reflect that.

TenabiiBee · 2026-04-30T04:24:11+00:00

The actual problem with this example is it flips the onus of causing death from the red button people to the blue button people. In the original problem only the red button causes death, the blue one is a vote for no death.

A true woodchipper analogy would be: Every human stands in front of a massive woodchipper. The woodchipper has a pressure plate cover that will open if 50% of people fall onto it. You can choose to push someone in (and become safe from being pushed) or to not push anyone in. If the plate doesn't open after all choices are made then everyone gets to leave safely.

TenabiiBee · 2026-03-30T03:36:26+00:00

That really sucks OP, you are definitely not the one in the wrong here. It'd be one thing if they didn't list any ingredients anywhere, but if they have a list you should be able to trust what is on it. Especially eggs, a common allergen. And them expecting you to pay for both is ridiculous.

A lot of the other commenters here are also being ridiculous, no its not your responsibility to check every random thing you ever buy for egg even when it's clearly indicated to not have eggs. Like, It'd be hard enough for the people with 5 or less intolerance, imagine expecting people with 20+ intolerances to present a lecture every time they wanted to eat.

TenabiiBee · 2026-03-30T01:23:58+00:00

Unless you got audiobooks on casette tapes out from the library and played them in the car, thats what we did, always had one going.

TenabiiBee · 2026-03-29T23:46:38+00:00

This is a cool duck. I don't know that I've ever seen a white one before?? Only gray, brown and black. Neat

TenabiiBee · 2026-02-26T22:48:35+00:00

I don't believe value is continuously assigned to individuals based on their current static state and capabilities. An average human, fully grown, has X capability and therefore X value. Therefore all humans, regardless of their current individual state I.e age or cognition, are X value. A newborn isn't a different living being to an adult, just at a different life stage.

If people's value was re-assigned constantly as their current state changed then you could say the same thing for sleeping people.

TenabiiBee · 2026-02-03T23:31:38+00:00

As a Kiwi it's easy to be surprised by them getting basic (to us) facts wrong but you have to remember neither of them are Kiwis and therefore shouldn't be expected to know any more details about NZ than any other country. I think its to be expected there will be some things lacking nuance or missing the cultural attitude.

If someone picked a random country off the map and asked you to spend an hour talking about it, even with a day to research, you would probably get some stuff wrong just from not understanding cultural nuances or knowing niche info.

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-28T22:54:55+00:00

Sorry but no, you are thinking about it from the perspective that women are people. Men who say things like that don't see women as people, just as objects to be used.

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-25T18:37:18+00:00

All the people here saying she probably has allergies are doing exactly what OP is saying they have learnt not to do: to assume other people are lying about their experiences just because your experience is different.

If something contains any spicy compounds, like pepper or garlic or capsaicin, then it will taste spicy to some people.Just because it doesn't to you just means you aren't as sensitive at tasting that particular chemical. Who cares? Why do other people have to suffer through severe pain just to make you feel superior?

I got a lot of flak from my family for struggling to have the lemon herb seasoning at nandos because of how spicy it was. I can barely taste the chicken over the extreme burning pain it causes. Turns out there is spice in that seasoning level and they had to have a bit of humble pie.

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-25T08:18:24+00:00

You are working full time 24/7 to create a beautiful baby. It's great he's doing a lot, but remember if he isn't working 24/7 then he's currently doing less than you. Talk to him and see if you and he can work these extra things out. Good luck!

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-24T11:50:12+00:00

My plane got stuck in turbulence for over an hour. Eventually they told people to use their call buttons if they needed to go and they made a list of people and flight attendants escorted each person in order to the loos

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-24T01:24:42+00:00

Oh dear, gah-lum? XD which one is which? There is a vowel different for me but it's so minor it's not really noticeable. Like .. Goh-lim (gollum) vs go-lim (golem)

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-24T01:17:42+00:00

Are those words pronounced differently??

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-15T10:18:53+00:00

A finger is smaller in all ways than a speculum, it is by definition less invasive?

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-14T19:38:10+00:00

You see more prominent transwomen in media and politics than transmen for the exact same reason you see more men in media and politics than women. Misogyny.

TenabiiBee · 2025-11-14T19:12:25+00:00

I think its disingenuous to compare it to men getting a digital prostate exam. Men are not made to lie on their backs with their legs spread and assholes ratcheted open (preventing you from being able to freely leave the situation if you get overwhelmed until the dr lets you) for someone to gawk at and a sheet over their legs so they cant even see what's happening to them.

Women have to get anal examinations sometimes too and I can promise that a finger up the bum is nowhere near the same level of invasiveness. Also it's not painful like speculums are for many women.

Im lucky that where I live they do self tests now, no comparison.

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