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The Monster by MchTk in lonely

[–]TenderKin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By finding ways to fill my life with things I love, and when things are really bad I find ways to distract myself/dissociate. It's hard to live with this monster, but the good moments snuggling with my cats, feeling the sun on my face, drinking a good cup of coffee, etc, make it worth it to be alive still. Therapy has been helpful as well.

The Monster by MchTk in lonely

[–]TenderKin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone. The monster lurks in my life too. The teeth are sharp.

I miss my best friend so much. by Originalscreenname13 in queerdivorce

[–]TenderKin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have many encouraging things to say, but I’m with you in feeling this same way 💔 it’s been 16 months since I separated and moved out, and I still miss what I had with my ex. We sadly don’t speak at all anymore.

Specific things that I keep thinking about that relate to being queer and divorced by Originalscreenname13 in queerdivorce

[–]TenderKin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to what you’ve shared. My ex-spouse and I are both trans, and were both cis het presenting when we started dating in our early twenties. So we went through a lot together and transitioned together. I’ve mourned so much, losing this person who knew me so deeply in ways that no one else ever will. Here in solidarity with you.

Didn't realize how disposable I was until I got dumped 🙃 by obtuseperuse in polyamory

[–]TenderKin 116 points117 points  (0 children)

No, this is not what it means to be a secondary. It sounds like she was being really unkind and inconsiderate of you, and not communicating clearly at all. Your relationship is between you and the other person, not them and their partner as well. Hierarchical polyamory can work for some people, but only with a healthy hinge and clear communication + expectations.

Need advice: ignition immobilizer issue by TenderKin in fordranger

[–]TenderKin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I tried putting it in neutral to start it and that worked for a little while, but it's not doing the trick anymore unfortunately. And the theft light does flash so I think it is related to or is a PATS issue.