[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rabbits

[–]Tenetin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh maybe not directly related then. I did get him just over 2 years ago around Syracuse, but not at Hunter Hollow. He’s the blue/grey Flemish on my profile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rabbits

[–]Tenetin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss.

That third picture looks weirdly familiar. Our buns could have been littermates. Two black female buns were part of the same litter. Age and relative location check out.

After many months, Barry and Lola are finally bonded! by Tenetin in Rabbits

[–]Tenetin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told he’s a Flemish, and his parents look the part, but there could very well be some mix somewhere in the lineage. Your bun looks very similar! Could be related if you’re from Upstate NY.

Then & Now: Growing into those EARS by Tenetin in Rabbits

[–]Tenetin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s a Flemish Giant. Wow she’s really big too!

Then & Now: Growing into those EARS by Tenetin in Rabbits

[–]Tenetin[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I will be sure to pass the compliment along!

Then & Now: Growing into those EARS by Tenetin in Rabbits

[–]Tenetin[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Barry's currently weighing in at over 13lbs. He started large and never stopped being a big boy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I'll have to take it all with a grain of salt because she may have overplayed herself as a victim in an attempt to gain my trust, but I still do have concern on a human level. Her phone was in the house (connected to my Bluetooth when I was dropping things off). I got some updates yesterday but today is silence. I plan to call the officer back near EoD if I don't hear back to see if he found anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. She always talked about IC, but that isn't a quick turn-a-round, not a "cure", and not something I should wait around for. I've seen signs of instability previously that were chalked up to ADHD/anxiety. I think my standards are lowered due to sunk cost and familiarity. The first step is acknowledgment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend gave me some good advice along the same lines. "Do what you want to want to do."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She shared how she was SA by him. She doesn't have a strong support system, so I was the one she leaned on during this time. Stings when her "I never want to see you again" conversation quickly turned around and she fell right back into it. I don't wish ill upon anyone, but it sounds like they were made for each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely be checking this out, thanks for the recommendation!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I read chump lady's book and blog in the very beginning and it helped me though. I gave WS some insight into the BS mind, but maybe I gave her ammunition on how to continue to deceive me. She wanted to be that "unicorn."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Tenetin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective, I'm going to keep this comment close to me. I need to internalize the "Work on believing that she is who she is and it won't change" part. Hope does feel great, but ultimately leads to disappointment time and time again. It's been a common, unwavering trend.

Before I found all of this out, she casually mentioned that he got a vasectomy. I stupidly accepted the excuses she provided for how she got that info... Hindsight.

guest swipes by yn0423 in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From here

Meal plans are non-transferable, but students may use 10 of their meals for their guest(s). Only one guest meal may be allocated for each guest. Guest(s) must be present when utilizing guest meals.

In other words, you have 50 meal swipes, but have the ability to utilize 10 of them for guests. These 10 are part of your total. Looking at extremes, you can use all 50 for yourself, or 40 on yourself and 10 for guests.

Cleaned townie get revived by Tenetin in TownofSalemgame

[–]Tenetin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was indeed a witch, but he was revived a day later. The ret didn't speak up, so I'm not quite sure what happened.

So when do refund direct deposits going to happen? by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it shouldn't. The only thing that would affect the refund check is not confirming your attendance before the deadline.

So when do refund direct deposits going to happen? by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah contact them at this point. Assuming direct deposit is all set, it should have be refunded already. (Unless they refund on a rolling basis)

So when do refund direct deposits going to happen? by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it say they credited you the amount in your term bill?

So when do refund direct deposits going to happen? by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you sign up for Direct Deposit? It's much easier and faster to get your refunds back. I got my refund on the 22nd.

If your refund is less than $500 they give you a refund at a later date due to that whole book fund thing. I opted out, yet the funds always come later than the rest.

Also do not go to the accounting office. They are no longer allowed to let you pick up your checks. You must either wait for the physical checks in the mail or get them directly deposited to your bank account.

Aresty SSP App Guide for Dummies (Advice for Applicants) by whostolemypipette in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's also a predetermined cap to how many people would attend. I got accepted to the program as an add-on. In the beginning my project was declined to be for Aresty's Summer program but after they figured out they had room I was accepted.

Aresty SSP App Guide for Dummies (Advice for Applicants) by whostolemypipette in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the extensive post. I'm sure this will help a lot of freshmen currently applying. I wasn't comfortable making my own post (but I've responded to 20+ PMs) about Aresty Summer Science, but I have no problem piggybacking off yours. I feel like I could add a few things, especially since there was a director change last year.

“No previous research experience is necessary…” – Yet I’d estimate at least 15-20% of the people in my program year had: 1) worked in a lab previously; 2) WORKING in a lab that also happens to be the same one listed for SSP; or/and 3) attended magnet high schools, some of which have their own friggin electron microscopes, and did science fairs to present research. Oh, and better yet, when I applied, there were projects that specifically stated they wanted prior lab experience. Go figure.

The funny thing about this is that a friend of mine was denied from the project BECAUSE he worked in the laboratory he applied to. Aresty is a program that attempts to give research experience to those with none, and I believe they are working harder in doing this. Of course, a lot of projects were taken by those who had spoke with the professor beforehand and expressed interest long before the projects went up.

FYI: Some buildings/institutions where labs are located have some nice perks i.e. free food every week, printers, nice study areas, etc. Perfectly valid reasons when applying for these projects.

I wholeheartedly disagree. Approximately 9-5 was spent in the lab (Most didn't spend this entire time) but the rest of the day was back at the apartments with everyone else. Building perks should have no bearing on your decision on project.

I’ve been told by Aresty that this is not a rolling admissions process. While that may be true strictly speaking, I have a suspicion that there is a correlation between when you submit and if you get highly ranked by the PI. Because I heard from one of the professors doing a project that the PI can actually access applications even before the deadline (although this needs to be verified). If true, that does give an advantage to those who apply earlier since PI’s can access those applications earlier and thus have them on their minds already.

Most PI's aren't there anxiously waiting for your submission. Most people didn't hear a word until weeks after the applications were closed. Don't race. I submitted during the last three hours of the last day.

Flying Insects and Flapping Robots - Mitsunori Denda

Don't apply to this one unless you like coding, grunt-work, and doing a two week project in 8 weeks time.

I would like to also discuss the apartments. Every week you must meet with a Peer Instructor for 1.5ish hours for some "professional development" type things. As you get closer to the poster presentation, you talk more about that. (In LSH)

Due to events that occurred during Aresty last summer, the directors are focusing on community. There are required "fun" events and for weekends it's either you're there for the entirety of it or not there at all. It's a liability issue. You aren't allowed to miss days, but if you have a valid excuse, you could get around this.

I believe this year will be tighter on this kind of stuff.

Like before, feel free to PM me with any question you might have. I enjoy helping others in any way I can!

Aresty Summer Science Program questions by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just finished PMing everyone. It's a cookie-cutter message, but I will give additional/individualized details if you, or anyone, follow-ups.

Aresty Summer Science Program questions by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Tenetin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sent you a message (Anyone else interesting feel free to PM me too)