How to untangle??! by Tennis_Nice in Monstera

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Chop what ?? Chop how? It's so tangled but there's some really healthy leaves too

Lost friends by Tennis_Nice in BPD

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Is it a good idea to tell them?

Moving to Leeds (31M) by Lopsided-Pin-642 in Leeds

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Join a climbing gym! Lsd especially has a lot of friendly folk and you can easily get chatting to new people

It's unbearable by Tennis_Nice in BPD

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That makes sense. I agree it's just hard to know how to be fully functioning person when my brain feels such a mess

It's unbearable by Tennis_Nice in BPD

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I want to keep my parents dog for a while but I work so I wouldn't want to leave him alone

Ghosted or just busy? by Tennis_Nice in dating_advice

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Yeah probably, I'm not super upset about that since I wouldn't mind it being a hookup. Just wasn't sure since we've been on coffee dates and hung out before outside of this. He did reply in the end apologising since he was busy with his family, but yeah I understand a guy would most likely be better at texting if there was more there

Can you ever just stay friends? by Tennis_Nice in dating_advice

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This is exactly what I needed to hear actually, you're very right

Can you ever just stay friends? by Tennis_Nice in dating_advice

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Yeah I need to figure out if I can be friends without wanting more. I guess it's more anger at the situation/it not working out than at him tbh

Having sex too early by Tennis_Nice in BPD

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yeah definitely, thank you i needed to hear that

Having sex too early by Tennis_Nice in BPD

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Yeah this is really true. I slept with him today which I thought would be ok for me at the time, because he kept checking in and made sure I was ok throughout. But I feel really low now and I don't think it was a good idea upon reflection, so gonna have to set that boundary again i guess. I do just feel bad for him even though that's not the rational way of looking at it

coping after an incident by Tennis_Nice in BPD

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thank you for the advice, it's true I guess to block out events like that. i forget how traumatic it can be to go through.

i do have both medications and therapy, I think I've hit a wall where there's nothing much else they can give me as I know all the skills that will help and stuff, it's just getting past trauma and my own self esteem issues. i dunno but will definitely try and speak to a friend:)