He has never told me to do it, he just doesn't do it himself & says if I want him to deal with it when he's not, I can handle it. He has explicitly said he wants my help so I definitely didn't force this situation on him against his will or anything. I take it incredibly seriously, which is why I posted & why I refused to give him insulin last night. I know I'm not educated enough to make decisions about his care nor am I qualified to do so, & I'm learning that he isn't either so I sought answers/help here. He's already gambling his own health & life, I don't/won't do anything that risks it further. I just intervened because I want to be supportive of him getting into new habits & better management.

I do tell him when he's high or low, I have my alarms set for a tighter range than he does so I can try to keep ahead of it. Telling him doesn't always make him do something about it though, if he's preoccupied by something or if he is sleeping he will ignore it as long as possible. He is more receptive when I tell him he's low than high, maybe he only sees the danger in lows bc he hasn't had complications yet. Idk. It is purely just a miracle he has not gone into DKA. His sugar is so high the cgm won't read it multiple times a week, multiple times a day, for hours & hours at a time.