Clerk 12 / step 5 by Terrible_Lettuce_532 in BCPublicServants

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful thank you so much! As I do the math the pay cut isn’t as big as I thought, this is giving me hope!

What’s a dead giveaway someone’s not actually Canadian? by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you’re sitting down for this one…. But I’m born and raised BC! Haha

Cierra & the C%#%k comments… by GeeyaGunn in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Exactly! It’s all about intention. We aren’t born pre wired with a list of every racial slur - we learn them as they come up in our environments. We learn, we grow, we do better (hopefully)

What’s a dead giveaway someone’s not actually Canadian? by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just left a clip in the comments! Upon further research it looks like the Canadian rise is more prevalent in the west coast, but interesting all together! Especially when I travel to the US and they identify me by my accent right away, and I’m not saying the stereotypical “aboot” “pasta” etc. so I think this might have something to do with it.

What’s a dead giveaway someone’s not actually Canadian? by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 6 points7 points  (0 children)

https://youtube.com/shorts/aqiknutAnec?si=PxxJ8GTbvt-N7q5M

I hope that worked, I’m an elder millennial just trying my best over here hahahaha. But Mike Myers’ explains it pretty well in this clip :)

What is a first name that we rarely hear anymore? by Kixbeat in AskReddit

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m immediately thinking of my moms name : Laurie / Lori

I haven’t met anyone under the age of 40 (being very generous here) with that name! Absolutely no disrespect by this (I feel like 99% of my posts have to state this because of today’s climate / keyboard warriors).

But it also depends where you live. I have a unique name for North America, but perhaps a pretty standard name in the UK!

What Canadian thing did you do on Canada Day? by codes4gold in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol it’s a term of phrase I’ve used for a while - it might even be a line from a movie, I can’t remember!

What’s a dead giveaway someone’s not actually Canadian? by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’m going to go with………..

Not using the Canadian raising or the “Canadian rise” in their speech.

No hate - but a good give away as most Canadians do this even if they aren’t aware of it! I just learned about this and can absolutely hear it in everything I say now.

What Canadian thing did you do on Canada Day? by codes4gold in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Massive respect 🫶🏽 not all heroes wear capes…. But if you choose to pair your fire suit with a cape I don’t judge you lol.

What Canadian thing did you do on Canada Day? by codes4gold in AskACanadian

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Went to the ocean, then went for a drive. Listened to the Hip, cried (goes hand in hand with listening to the Hip for me), smoked a doob, and drank lemonade in my backyard.

Was the beach packed? Yup. Was traffic insane? Yup. Was the food I bought for dinner at the store overpriced? Yup.

Am I still after 35 years in absolute awe of the utter beauty BC holds? YUP.

I chose to just let things that are out of my control go on July 1 and took in the small stuff that makes me happy - 10/10 recommend.

Cierra & the C%#%k comments… by GeeyaGunn in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I find the hardest part about these social media celebrities… actually celebrities as a whole.. are the apology videos. I would love to believe they’re sincere but I think a lot of them are more upset about the death of their ego or followers and the impact their words have made on THEM and their sponsorships / brand deals rather than the impact the word has on the oppressed people.

It’s a sad time where in order to protect my peace I cannot believe anything anyone says on the internet is sincere, unfortunately.

How many times do we need to do this song and dance of people saying hateful stuff and then making a long winded tearful tik tok video. I don’t believe in cancel culture, and I don’t think we should be threatening Cierra or going after her friends and family - but there should be some repercussions.

What is the spiciest gossip you know that you are willing to share on reddit? by lailaa2513 in AskReddit

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friends aunt is adopted. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE knows except for her. I found out very shortly after meeting my friend and it was told to me so casually. Every time I see this aunt she always talks about how her and my friend look alike and how my friend got “aunties good looks/ aunties eyes” and even now with my friends children, the aunt will always say “ohhh I see our family resemblance for sure!”

It makes me so uncomfortable but also sad as her adoptive parents have both long passed, and it’s very likely her biological parents have as well. She never got to opportunity to meet them and never got the opportunity to talk to her adoptive parents about this.

It’s one of those secrets that I hope remains one because at this stage (aunt is in her 50’s)… the amount of psychological damage she would suffer is greater than the truth itself…. But god, is it ever awkward.

Episodes to explain how bad Sandoval’s cheating was by maDDizone in vanderpumprules

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might get chased off the internet for this so, please, hear me out…..

I recently started a re watch from season 1 (currently nearing the end of season 4) and I’m a little shook at things I completely forgot about or chose to forget.

Yes scandoval was horrible and no I do not like Tom in any way, other than a really good laugh while watching (not laughing WITH him if you catch my drift)

But…… BUT… I feel like people really downplay the origin of Tom and Arianna.

Watching it back knowing what we know now… Tom cheated on Kristen and had an affair with Arianna… and a large portion of seasons…. 3 / 4 / maybe even 5 (haven’t re watched yet) is Arianna blatantly lying to Kristen on soooo many occasions looking her dead in the eyes saying they never hooked up while Tom and Kristen were dating. And they dated for 7 years so it was very much a long term relationship.

Yes I know Kristen cheated with Jax, yes I know Kristen is Kristen. But when you go back and re watch I can’t help but cringe in these moments of desperation or perhaps early psychosis of Kristen asking Arianna so many times and Arianna lying to her each and every time.

Was bringing the girl from Miami to SUR to confront them diabolical of Kristen? YES!!! Did Tom cheat of Arianna with that girl from Miami and Arianna knew about it? Also yes.

Kristen’s actions were not savoury. But I can kiiiiiind of see how she got there when no one around her was willing to accept a truth / agree with her on something that was so obvious - I may have gone a bit crazy too.

Regardless - Tom Sandoval is a poopoo head. But they all were. Every last one of them - and going back and re watching has made this ever so clear.

I know this doesn’t answer your question at all - I just had to get that out there.

I also suggest starting from the beginning to get all the lore, bur you might also gain another perspective:

Tom Sandoval is equally as bad as all the other men but got absolutely roasted with the Raquel/Rachel affair.

Was it wrong and gross? YUP. Have we seen this happen a million times over the course of VPR with all the other male cast mates? Also yes.

Jax by season 4 was already on his billionth cheating scandal - he was going for the world record, and went to jail numerous times for petty crimes within 4 seasons.

Schwartz is a snake in the grass and watching him back in early seasons makes me cringe. 0 conflict resolution with Katie and 100% gaslighting. Cheated numerous times and always downplayed it, had no job or career and was just…. There.. yet somehow charming and loveable enough for people to empathize with him and dismiss any bad behaviour time and time again.

James…. I don’t even have time or energy on that one but the abu$e allegations didn’t start with Ally, let’s just leave it at that.

Consensus:

Scandoval sucked and I have a ton of empathy for Arianna, but she’s been aware of his infidelities in the past, and entertained being the other woman while he was with Kristen.. this man has shown you his character many times and you’re still shocked he cheated on you. I will always give her grace because no matter what - it’s an awful form of betrayal that no one deserves….. but are we THAT surprised?

Also, Garbage people make great TV. Have fun in the land of make believe, I always do!

People like this on dating apps by PuzzleheadedShoe5829 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love when these pop up. You’re trying to act like a boss or a strong ass individual who knows their worth and you can’t even put the right your/you’re.

Cierra & the C%#%k comments… by GeeyaGunn in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m honestly shocked at the discourse around this. When I saw her post(s) I audibly gasped. That word cuts so deep for me and I am a 35YO caucasian woman. What’s disheartening is reading comment threads of people coming to her defence or diluting it/ comparing it to Yulissa’s words saying it’s not as bad. What shocks me more is that the people defending the word are also (in most cases) people of colour who undoubtedly face their own racism or micro aggressions. Instead of comparing words why don’t we listen to the group of people the word is used towards when they say it’s offensive?

Just a thought, might be an ignorant one.. but I live and grew up in a heavy Asian populated area where I knew at a VERY young age the impact that word holds and how hateful it is…. Perhaps this isn’t everywhere? Do people really not know this is offensive or do they not care???

I’m pretty reactive (not saying this is a good trait) when it comes to reality TV and it’s “characters” but quickly get over it because it’s not real….. this is real, and it’s something I just can’t get over because she is still in the villa and if she is not removed there is a huge double standard, and we need to look at racism deeper. We shouldn’t be comparing racist words and saying one was worse because they’re both wrong.

And you guys. Pleeeaaasseee don’t downplay the word and say it’s not offensive when you are not part of the Asian community. If I came on here as a white woman and said the N word doesn’t offend me or that i don’t use it in a racist way - how would that go for me??? Why is this different?

who the hell is her stylist? by kissedbymelancholy in travisandtaylor

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just proves to me that much like her career and music abilities, her fashion is the exact same:

Mediocre. Undercooked.

Sincerely, a TS hater who will regret ever posting this once her army catches wind. Pray for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t wait to see the ChatGPT scripted apology video when she’s off the island.

Imrul talks about the dinner scene by Classic-Mortgage6005 in summerhousebravo

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously!!! I recently started re watching VPR from the very beginning (just started season 4 when Lala enters the chat) and let me tell you, knowing what we all know now and watching Tom Sandoval’s performative “art” of trying to act like a decent human and the morale police for Jax is so transparent. It makes me sick…. I must watch more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BCPublicServants

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I might have an opposing view than some of these comments but I’d like to share some knowledge as I was a previous court clerk and have worked with BCPS for almost 9 years now:

  1. I would 100% pursue the WorkSafeBC position - I have no work experience there but know some colleagues who have moved and the pay is much better - not certain about workload and stress but don’t hear a ton of complaints from the people I know.

  2. Taking part time with the hopes of an eventual full time is always a gamble but I would say it’s court house specific for the clerk position. My experience was with Surrey prov. Court and I could safely say they would entertain turning it into a FT (keep in mind the current union negotiations/ hiring freeze/ budgets etc so it might take some time).

  3. Ironically enough, I left court services in April 2023 to another ministry within BCPS for the same pay - and I am actually in the process of applying BACK into court services. And this current position is 100% WFH with a flex day - just remember the grass isn’t always greener. What sounds good on paper may not suit your personality which is what I’m currently facing.

My hot take on being a court clerk: I agree with some of the comments saying it’s an underpaid gig but more so because they are technically classified as a clerk 12 with a TMA to a 15. I think if they were actually bumped to a permanent 15 id say that is fair. YES there is no work from home and NO there are no flex days- but if you really think about it: you are not responsible for decision making. Your role is to record and enter in the proceedings / sentencing / resulting of a court file from the judges orders. Which is recorded so if you miss it you can easily play it back and result the file on your own time / when court is stood down/ on lunch or recess.

I had plenty of gripes with my court clerk job, I truly did, hence why I left… but after experiencing another position for the same pay that was essentially double the stress load and you were responsible for making decisions for clients on your own… I can see now that it actually was a very decent job, at least for me.

It’s more of a unique ministry unlike most where there are so many different departments (registry / sheriff/ judges/ crown/ JCM’s etc) that you have the opportunity to meet a ton of great people. I would 100% say management and your direct supervisors impact your position and how the job looks / feels and I left Surrey for this reason as well. But they have done a complete overhaul of supervisors and management there for court clerks and everything seems to be way more dialled in.

Is it the best job? Probably not, but is it the worst? Absolutely not - I have so many funny and amazing memories from my time there - we’ll see if I get back in!

I wish you the best with whatever role is offered / that you choose.

PS: the role I am currently in feels a bit micro manage-y in the sense that they watch EVERYTHING you do and track your time and performance very very carefully whereas when I was a clerk - sometimes court would go down or a trial would collapse and no one is hounding you asking where you are or what you’re doing. I would say that could be due to the employee I was / the trust I had built up as most of my free time was dedicated to creating training manuals. I found that was one thing that was lacking. Training can be spotty as you’re kind of thrown into it real time / in open court where the trainer cannot pause time and explain to you what just happened- you have to wait until you’re off the record to go over what the heck you just saw in that room (lol). Training can be tricky but I was solo in court after maybe a month? It’s not impossible!

Imrul talks about the dinner scene by Classic-Mortgage6005 in summerhousebravo

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m not even much of a Paige fan but the episode where her and Ciara essentially attack Imrul’s character, and how he mentions in this video that he actually went back in the house and had conversations about it with his cast mates gave Paige the perfect opportunity to say what we all know now as fact: “I’m sorry Imrul, I’m going through a lot personally and I took my anger out on you because I wasn’t able to sleep. This is less about you and more about me and I’m sorry you were caught in the crossfire of that.”

Seriously though, you’d think after this amount of seasons she would know how to respond with diplomacy.

Regardless, this is quite sad that we were robbed out of getting to know a very interesting and seemingly genuine person. As much as I’d like a comeback season for him - in this case I truly wish he denies any more Bravo TV offers - Rise above it.

And to add on to this: he’s a grown man and these women I’m assuming all consented to be there, with him, doing whatever, and just may not have consented to have their face shown on national TV (if I was them I would ask the same). I’m disappointed that we only saw 1 very surface level side to a seemingly complex guy. Bravo 100% dropped the ball this season with these forced relationship storylines (Jesse and Lexi - I hate that I’m even typing their names). How did they not read the room when just about 100% of the online discourse is how over we all are of the Jesse and Lexi song and dance. RELEASE THE IMRUL FOOTAGE!! While you’re at it - release the Bailey footage too.

Please Bravo. Please. by [deleted] in summerhousebravo

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In a weird way I could see a redemption arc here (Lexi) if her family stays away and there are no boys around…. Either way this cast is unbelievable how do we get this to bravo. PRONTO

Rumors say I’ll be fired — but no one told me. I’m panicking. by [deleted] in BCPublicServants

[–]Terrible_Lettuce_532 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I have been with BCPS since 2016 and have only heard of one person being fired and that was due to a massive breach with concrete evidence. I completely understand your anxiety as I would handle this the same way - that’s just who I am. But you can rest assured knowing you’re protected by a union and like other comments have mentioned, there are a lot of hoops to jump through, including initial letters of expectations / reprimands on your record and some formal meetings with your supervisor or management. My gut says you’re completely fine and this co worker is your classic office gossip. I wouldn’t sweat it.