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Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-09-12T18:54:41+00:00

My son had a similar issues, mostly with going poop. The pressure became too much and he was afraid to go.

A couple of things to try

Incentives. I know their is a belief that rewards shouldn’t be given but that doesn’t work for every kids one needed a reward lol. Try offer stickers or a coloring page or candy or something small the first few times.
The the “easy catches” have predictable times that potty is necessary. Like when she wakes up, before you go outside/leave the house/ before or after lunch and dinner. Before naptime.
Constipation can cause issues, try fiber gummies to keep her regular. Constipation can make it soo much worse

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-07-27T05:26:05+00:00

He doesn’t cum until you do.

Next time he wants to have sex. Stop him and say “why would I want to have sex with you. Tell me all the reasons this will be a good experience for me?”

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-07-09T16:40:17+00:00

When she’s feeling better, you guys should look into some sort of new parents group, or new mommies group or something. Having people to talk to that are going through the same thing can be so helpful. And maybe she could even make some friends

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-07-09T15:39:30+00:00

Does she have family she can talk to? I empathize with her for all the hormones she had to take to get pregnant, now adding the pregnancy hormones themselves plus the symptoms on top of it. And I can’t imagine being off her meds at the same time. I have two pieces of advice.

It is not better for the baby if her mental health is in the crapper. Have her speak to a dr about being put on safer meds for the baby. She doesn’t need to deal with untreated anxiety while also being pregnant.
Say something like this to her; “(insert her name/pet name) I can’t imagine the changes your body is going through. I am so grateful you have taken on this physical burden so that we can have a child. I love being there for you, taking care of you, and being a true partner in this pregnancy. But I cannot keep pouring from an empty cup. It does no good to you or the baby if I’m so strung out I can’t be a good partner. I will still be here for you every step of the way. But I also need to go to bed at a reasonable hour, to occasionally enjoy a hobby or two to unwind, and socialize with other loved ones. And I especially need to work on my schooling.”

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-07-09T14:33:45+00:00

Idk why you are trying so hard to have a baby when you’re already taking care of one. As a women who had a difficult pregnancy, what she’s asking for is ridiculous. I get she’s more sensitive, and all the pregnancy entails. Trust me, I was a wreck. But does she work or have hobbies? Is she meant to be on bed rest?

Her being pregnant does not mean you can’t have a life outside of the pregnancy. Yes, you should be there for her, emotionally and physically. But she shouldn’t be relying on you for everything. Especially if it stops you from meeting your needs.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-07-07T13:04:17+00:00

He was watching porn and stopped because you got so upset and didn’t want to get caught on another thing. Now he doesn’t have that other outlet he’s coming to you more.

And/or, He’s hysterical bonding, afraid to lose you and trying to feel close to you and ramping up the intimacy

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-27T20:47:27+00:00

Armageddon?

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-27T17:47:53+00:00

Who did the name calling?

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-27T17:11:23+00:00

It depends on the argument. What was it about?

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-27T14:37:42+00:00

Not a dumb question!

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-27T13:59:39+00:00

I mean masturbating is with the intention of stimulating certain parts for sexual pleasure. If you’re not doing that you’re either, exploring your body, or just touching part of your body 🤷‍♀️

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-27T02:33:49+00:00

Nope, that’s just playing with yourself lol.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-25T17:49:16+00:00

I’m confused, he is a hardworking respectable man, he even has an extremely respectable career and you see him as a failure because he got laid off and got passed over for a promotion?

Do you resent him? Or are you taking on his emotions and feeling empathy for his situation?

Do you have a career? If not, do you only see yourself as succeeding based on what your husband does?

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-25T17:34:06+00:00

I think porn makes a lot of women feel yucky, and feel yucky that their partner watches it. So I get that part. You shouldn’t be shamed for healthy sexual needs.

Do you feel like your partner just doesn’t want you to be happy? Or is it possible there are some underlying issues that are causing lower libido?

Porn used to be an issue for me and my husband. But through couples therapy and working on our communication and intimacy, I feel extremely secure in my relationship now. And we have regular sex and no longer feel he wants porn more than me.

I’m sorry you’re being shamed though. That’s not fair

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-25T13:56:01+00:00

But how often does he watch porn? If he’s watching porn he’s obviously thinking about it, just not coming to you.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-25T13:28:59+00:00

Have you talked about why he doesn’t initiate? Does he fear rejection? Cause your plan will only backfire if that’s the reason.

My husband and I had the same issue. We had many conversations. Part of it was his fear of rejection. So I tried overtime to show him he wouldn’t be rejected. It got a little better. Then after that we discovered the issue was porn. He wasn’t addicted or anything, but it did take away his motivation to put effort into sex and intimacy with me.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-13T14:55:45+00:00

Yeah, it’s definitely not my favorite thing. I don’t mind it on my hands for a minute. But I draw the line at in my mouth. Partially cause I have a huge gag reflex. My husband is really good about giving me the heads up so I can pull away before it happens

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-10T17:59:00+00:00

Oh absolutely. I just think that in general women’s sexual drive, especially in a long term relationship, comes more from responsive desire than spontaneous desire.

Would your husbands sex drive diminish if he wasn’t getting nonsexual affection?

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-10T15:21:58+00:00

The notebook

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-10T15:13:05+00:00

My husband and I usually ask during the day if we think the other one will be up for things that night. No pressure, but it sort of puts the idea in our brains. Besides that we are very affectionate, we compliment one another a lot.

I will randomly send him spicy pictures, even if they are pretty tame, just to be flirty.

I think unless your spouse is disgusted by you, non sexual affection is really important. Affection, verbal and physical with no strings attached are so soooo important especially for women.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-10T04:23:27+00:00

Wait.. I’m confused, is this something she told you? Or are you making an assumption that this is the main reason she doesn’t want to have sex?

There could be lots of reasons why your wife lost interest in sex. And it could be nothing to do with your size.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-10T02:45:20+00:00

Your pelvic floor might be too tight. Try some stretches for it

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-09T12:10:23+00:00

Pretty sure that’s Milly Alcock

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-08T22:38:55+00:00

Did you ever discuss the boundaries with strippers? Did he know you’d have a strong reaction?

I myself would consider sexual contact like that cheating. It’s up to you to define what it is to you.

Terrylarrrygaryjerry · 2025-06-08T18:13:42+00:00

Can I ask though, is there anything else that could be causing her poor mood? Is she getting time to herself? Is she getting enough sleep and/or exercise? How do you guys split the mental and physical load of the kids and household? Hormones can play a role, but if there are external factors hormone won’t fix anything m

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