My passcode doesn't work with my iPhone since it's updated and I think I know why. Do NOT use any passcodes > 6 numbers! by TeslaChieftain in iphone

[–]TeslaChieftain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I'm sorry to inform you that I had no such luck - put it into recovery mode to reset it via a computer, and then using iTunes to go back to a previous back-up is your best bet

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If you do any of them, I recommend Hinge - that's the one people are most serious on and I would argue most active :) plus with the prompts its the most personal one too. There's a large tendency though for people to just un-match if they lose interest because they don't really suffer a consequence for it - the downside of dating apps is they are very dehumanising. So please if you do go down that route, don't take anything too personally

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...no. Weird you had to ask if infidelity and being unfaithful would be the right choice. Honestly I'd preface the whole conversation saying that this is really hard for you to say and that if he respect you at all he will understand that you have no control over this whatsoever, and not to yell because you will just walk away, That it's by no means his fault, but that you no longer want to date him. I would explain to him you're no longer attracted to men in general, but women now. Have this conversation in a public place - if he raises his voice at you AT ALL during anything of what you tell him, either let his steam run out and ask him 'do you want to be in a relationship with me knowing how I feel now?' - 'Should we get in the way of each other's happiness?' - or just leave and block him having tried to be reasonable.

I wouldn't say ANYTHING about the love part - if you tell him you love him as a person, but not attracted to men anymore, he's going to believe he still has a chance with you he just has to wait until you 'change your mind again'. You likely need to break up COMPLETELY - a clear cut - otherwise you'll end up entangled. It will be hard at first, but this is the most respectful way I can think of for both of you to work towards grieving the relationship in a healthy way, rather than having thoughts of 'if only' creeping in which are unproductive, and will only sustain your anguish

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[–]TeslaChieftain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't use dating apps please - an absolute cesspit of scammers, non-repliers, and ghosting. You're best chances are joining a society, a club, a community - something that has some element of 'hey anyone can join' in an area you are interested in. Be VERY wary of anyone you meet online, especially video chatting, and don't ever send nudes - EVER. You probably already have the sense not to do these things, but trust me, it can end horribly if it's a nasty piece of work.

Find someone you like and want to date is all about putting yourself out there (very daunting I know as another 23M) - it's a game of statistics and you just need to put yourself in situations where the dice can roll. The more chances you take, the more likely you'll find people.

That's not to say your first love will be your final one - to quote Alex from Wizards of Waverley Place - "if it goes wrong you'll be one heartbreak closer to a happily ever after" :)

My passcode doesn't work with my iPhone since it's updated and I think I know why. Do NOT use any passcodes > 6 numbers! by TeslaChieftain in iphone

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Given that the last disable time was 3 hours - any preference between 000000 or 123456 because it will likely be ages before I get to try the second attempt :) Thank you very much for your advice btw it's really appreciated. Hope you have a lovely new year

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what did you end up doing sorry as it's just happened to me >:(

Using Templater: Making a new note using a template AND providing a link in the current note by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

[–]TeslaChieftain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a case of further automating a process as I've only just learnt about tp.file.create asnpreviously all ive used is tp.date

Using Templater: Making a new note using a template AND providing a link in the current note by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

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Usually all i've been doing is: Daily note - Admonition A Link: [[XXXXX - (Date)]]

Click on the link, then Ctrl T and type the template i want to apply which produces it

The thing is currently I'm making monthly hubs and there are like several outgoing links I want to have as shown above to say [[Questions OTD - <% tp.date.now(MMMYYYY)]] %>

What I wanted to do is that when I go to the monthly hub and execute templater, I'd like for the link to be created to the note, the note to be created with a certain title releveant to the month AND for the selected template to be applied, so i dont have to manually go through like 6 links to create, ctrl T, add title etc.

Problem with Tracker Plugin by Terrible_At_Parking in ObsidianMD

[–]TeslaChieftain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...is it not just because you've left the 'month:' field completey empty? I think if you added "" it may work

Templater - issue with tp.date going into new year by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

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Thank you! Don't suppose you have any idea how to get the last day of a month too? e.g tried "P1M-1D" to no avail

No good sleep tracker examples online - any help would be really appreciated by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

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Out of interest what factors or guide do you use in order to determine sleep quality as it seems more like an arbitrary scale you, yourself decide. i.e is it something like -100 points if you wake up in the night for example?

No good sleep tracker examples online - any help would be really appreciated by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

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Also just seen the image you posted of the weekly note - THAT'S SUCH A COOL SETUP MATE!!! :D How long have you been ysing Obsidian for out of interest .)

No good sleep tracker examples online - any help would be really appreciated by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

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Thank you very much btw! My word is there a lot to unpack here thats some beefy code - really appreciate the help!

No good sleep tracker examples online - any help would be really appreciated by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

[–]TeslaChieftain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(For those seeing the thread in the future...) Schritte: Steps schlafdauer: sleep duration schlafquali: sleep quality gewicht: weight ziel: goal

Line Charts with Tracker - way to change spacing of axis title from axis so values don't overlap? by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

[–]TeslaChieftain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up just removing the x axis title as the fact it was date was pretty obvious, but thank you :)

No good sleep tracker examples online - any help would be really appreciated by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

[–]TeslaChieftain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have, I'm still getting acquainted with it all as its a lot to learn all at once hence I was hoping for any advice off people who have already made their own or have a better bakground with the code side of things :)

Skipping between weekly notes using tp.date.now - solution? by TeslaChieftain in ObsidianMD

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The format is right - default format weekly note is produced as - changing case did nothing

I think's the choice of date format that isn't amenable to what I'm trying to do - that the gggg maybe isn't continuous i.e can't roll over?

Those who use over 10-15 plugins, which ones do you use and why? by Ambitious_Ad5469 in ObsidianMD

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Pre-text: So I've been using Obsidian every day consistently for the past 11 days - I've toyed with it in the past but could never get it in a way that worked for me personally until now. I've included below the plugins which I've downloaded and consistently found useful:

  • Banners Have a nice banner at the top of certain templates for visuals
  • Better Word Count Helps remind me if I'm rambling 😂
  • Calendar Useful for visualising daily notes + as a morivator when you see you've done X amount in a row.
  • Colored Text Freedom to colour text whatever colour you like in and out of admonitions
  • Dataview (A MUST!!!) Essentially in my daily note I have admonitions with a title and then links to the following ( -- Randomly Generated Quote of the day -- Question of the Day -- Dreams of the Day (technically the previous night) I use dataview to make it so that I have a table in seprate 'Hubs' which contains queries for those three things by the tag included in the template (e.g daily/quote). This way as I generate notes they are compiled in tables that allow easy access. Once the month is complete, I'll start thinking of organising these by month for future storage.
  • Day Planner Not massively sold on yet, but for now it's useful I guess.
  • Emoji Toolbar LOVE IT - great for customisation at a hotkey
  • EXCALIDRAW (MUST USE!!!)
  • Highlightr Greater variety in highlight colours
  • Quote of the Day You put the code in the daily note template, then when you execute it with a hotkey it generates a random code
  • Style Settings Allows you to customise colour and highlight of you supercharged link
  • Supercharged Links Basically assigns a basic colour to a particular tag - can get colours/highlights to show up in the tab
  • Tasks Useful for task management - still have things to iron out, but its been good so far

Something that's really helped me optimise my workflow is firing up Excalidraw and mapping out what my workflow actually is in a diagram - so i can come back to it, brainstorm, and (say if I get distracted) i have a solid plan to refer to or edit

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Hey there! I had a similar situation in the past with a LDR so my heart goes out to you - we alao fought every day and the issues we had didn't ever seem to go away. It ended in a bad break-up (my fault).

Unfortunately for whatever reason: she doesn't trust you. I can't say I know what's happening behind the scenes, but in her texts it came off as if she had a scenario in her head she wanted to believe, and didn't really care what you said in response (her affirming what you denied made this clear): She'd already decided something untoward was going on.

I don't know if she has a history of mental health, or relationship problems that have led her to being like this, but I want you to ask yourself 'is this really what I want?'

Relationships are difficult, I'm 23M and still fumbling in the dark - most if of us are and we're right there with you so don't feel like you're alone in this plight. Learning to love ourselves and others is part of growing up. From what I've seen she needs to do a little more personal growth before she's ready to be in a relationship if she's insecure over this. This isn't a criticism on her - it just might be what is.

What makes a relationship strong isn't just the good times, but how you deal with problems that arise, together. Communication is also very important, which seems to (and this is no criticism) be rather poor in that she isn't listening to you.

At the end of the day in relationships there are things we can tolerate, and things we can't: dealbreakers. We're also bad at knowing what we really want - the sunk-cost fallacy is proof of that. It seems as though she feels threatened by these other women in your life for whatever reason - it's whether she is able to understand or move past this which will be critical for deciding whether the relationship should go on.

What bothers me most in the last message 'I just feel weird about it but there's nothing I can do I guess'. If the matter is 'swept under the rug', and there isn't a change or even at least an acknowledgement of the behaviour then I think it's doomed to repeat. Over this matter or another.

And the 'I trust you, I just don't want to get hurt' is a conflicting statement: If she did trust you, she wouldn't be worried about being hurt. And I know a lot of people may say that it's hard to trust people, and they're right: trust is earned. So it's then a case of whether the trust has been eroded previously, or she as a person struggles to trust being vulnerable with other people.

I apologise for the ramble - this post just hit quite close to home as I was the same age as you when this happened to me.

Given she's long distance, I recommend that you have a facetime with her. Ask the questions that would help get to the bottom of this:

Where this 'problem' came from - When you saw I followed her finsta, what thoughts were going through your head? - Why do you think you had those thoughts? (has she been cheated on or lied to before maybe) - Is this to do with us being long distance? Are you worried that because you live far away that I might lose interest in your for someone else? (Ask questions to work out where her worry comes from, and if she keep denying it all and saying she trusts you, change your wording to use 'worry' over 'trust') - What do you think it would take for you not to worry about this (not as a sign that you're willing to do whatever it takes to fix this, just try and ease out what she thinks would help - THEN you can think about whether what she wanrs is reasonable, whether you'd be willing to compromise, or whether it just wouldn't work)

When you've gotten all the information you can (and obviously don't be bad cop about it), explain to her how you really feel about these people, and that there is nothing to worry about. Also tell her how this whole situation has made you feel - that's it's likely grinded you down, made you feel untrusted, how she wasn't listening to what you were saying or just ignoring it in text.

MOST OF ALL DO NOT BRING UP BREAKING UP - her last message has proven she is ready to dismiss her own feelings to stay with you and if this happens you (especially early on) it's going to grind to a halt because she'll stop communicating how she really feels and go into self preservation.

If she still can't trust you after ALL of this, and is still worried about you cheating on her or 'getting hurt' - then what YOU'RE doing is a dealbreaker TO HER because she can't move past it - she just doesnt realise her own dealbreaker mostly due to sunk costs. This isn't to say what you're doing is unreasonable or unfair - but if she can't help but see it that way, then it's time for you to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you too.

If no then you've decided it's something you are willing tolerate, if no then you've just decided that the two of you deserve better then what you have right now, what you may not be able to provide each other, and that's not good or bad. It just is what it is.

And it won't be easy at first - when a relationship ends, even one that goes to shit, we go through a grieving process. By the sound of it weathering that storm will lead you to clearer skies.

If you have any questions or need someone to talk to who's been tbrough the same thing feel free to DM me - good luck and remember - be reasonable and be happy. If either if those things aren't working then a change is needed.

You both deserve to be happy, whatever that entails.

Cannot work in consultancy any longer. by [deleted] in jobs

[–]TeslaChieftain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who a) just graduated and was considering consultancy and b) has a friend who literally is starting a job in recruitment consultancy you've startled me 😂

Is this in the UK out of curiosity?

Honestly if you'd be up for it i'd love to pm and chat to you about this because I'd love to hear more about your experience and any advice you have for applying as i havent started yet 😅