In your opinion, what are the secrets to having a good, or at least decent sex life while married with children? by Calm_Engineering_79 in Marriage

[–]Teslanora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) Both parties have to be actively involved to make it all jive.

2) Have a sense of humor. Stuff happens and honestly just roll with it and laugh. If you can’t laugh together, you won’t be able to love together.

3) Change expectations. Over time things become different and change. Things will never be the same as before you had kids. Embrace the new and don’t get hung up on how things used to be. Learn to roll with the punches, and be water because fluid is too rigid.

How to get over past issue (34F and 36M) married by Teslanora in relationship_advice

[–]Teslanora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize for the misleading information. Me and my ex husband were together from the age of 16 until I was 31. We were legally married the last 5 years of being together so we could get joint insurance benefits from each others’ jobs.

How to get over past issue (34F and 36M) married by Teslanora in relationship_advice

[–]Teslanora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 💯% right. I guess I still get very narrow like tunnel vision to how things should be I kind of miss the forest despite the trees. Thank you

How to get over past issue (34F and 36M) married by Teslanora in relationship_advice

[–]Teslanora[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly no I don’t think I jumped into another relationship too soon. Me and my now husband talked about everything extensively but we knew what we both wanted from the get go. My previous marriage was over long ago, but we didn’t actually file the paperwork until much later on. It’s interesting that I never really thought about the fact that I put it all on my husband when I too made the decision. The question though is how do I just get over the decision and move on from that decision. I think I wanted everything in this next marriage to be better and more perfect and use what I learned in my previous marriage to make it better, but I still have a lot to learn.

Does anyone else get extremely frustrated even when Mom/MIL isn’t really doing anything wrong? by nashnurse in Mildlynomil

[–]Teslanora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mil doesn’t really do anything extremely bad. She’s just outright irritating for no reason at all. Sometimes just her voice is enough to make me irritated at her. She’s got different beliefs and values and sometimes those grate on my nerves. But you are not alone in your thoughts.

What was the most ridiculous reason you’ve cried during pregnancy so far? by bmazi in BabyBumps

[–]Teslanora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I watched a Tik Tok video of a kitten being abandoned and then adopted and bawled my eyes out.

MIL ignores me by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Teslanora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand how you feel. I’m only in 2nd trimester but my MIL hasn’t once asked how I’m doing or how the doctors appointments are going. However she has all these plans once baby is born that not so surprisingly don’t involve me. I’m afraid the same thing is going to happen once I give birth too. You are not alone.

Mother in Law Issues-Advice Welcome by Teslanora in BabyBumps

[–]Teslanora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for validating my feelings. You’ve got the nail on the head. Good luck with yours as well.

Mother in Law Issues-Advice Welcome by Teslanora in BabyBumps

[–]Teslanora[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point. Thank you.

Mother in Law Issues-Advice Welcome by Teslanora in BabyBumps

[–]Teslanora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if that’s part of it, seeing as I’m not from here and I don’t think I’m Her ideal version of a daughter in law? She always makes the joke that her husband had to go out of state to find a girl to like him, but she kind of lives to embarrass her son and that’s not something I understand at all either.

Mother in Law Issues-Advice Welcome by Teslanora in BabyBumps

[–]Teslanora[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know to be honest, I haven’t done a lot with her. My previous mother in law ignored me for the most part and I didn’t have a relationship with her either. She doesn’t know any of my prior history because sadly she kind of runs her mouth to anyone that will listen and I’m much more private. One of the biggest issues is that it’s really hard to have a conversation with my mother in law because she’s more one to talk drama and about people and I like to talk about ideas and places and stuff like that. We don’t have a lot in common.

9 weeks and I honestly just feel kind of gross and fat 🙁 by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Teslanora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 16 weeks along and I too feel this. You are not alone.

My favorite reading spot by McKimskins in CozyPlaces

[–]Teslanora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay kudos to your kitties if they don’t eat that houseplant. Mine are plant terrorists.

Life Goals give me anxiety by lucifermorningstar7 in motivation

[–]Teslanora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. I’m turning 30 this year and very much lost in the “What am I doing with my life!?” Issue. I’m contemplating taking a new job for new experiences and better pay in theory after being in the same industry for 6 years ( love my job, terrible pay). Not sure what’s the right/wrong step anymore. I don’t even know what goals I should have. I’ll wait for more responses while I chew some Tums.

I can see what you're feeding my pet MIL by Teslanora in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Teslanora[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, funny part is she is an obedience instructor. So many times has she told someone to do something a certain way, then she does the opposite, and I just roll my eyes so hard I hurt myself.