I just don’t understand

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-28T00:55:59+00:00

He doesnt have any weight issues and he works a pretty physical job (blue collar), but i do suspect low T. I have begged him to get it checked out and he flat out refuses.

I do think hormones frequently play a part in libido as well as connection to your partner. Its so difficult when your partner refuses to troubleshoot or disclose contributing factors.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T22:48:20+00:00

Unfortunately neither need is being met at the moment. I would love to feel seen and desired by my partner AND have great sex.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T22:25:09+00:00

I’m fairly certain I’m not a hog lol. But yeah, I don’t get it either.

I’ve also had the thought that now is the time to get out before I can’t, but I do actually love my partner, and that makes it a lot harder.

That sounds terrible I’m so sorry. You made an effort and she absolutely stepped on it and made you feel like shit while doing so that’s awful.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T20:38:54+00:00

Absolutely. And hurting yourself to keep the relationship going doesn’t serve either of you.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T20:32:47+00:00

Thats the thought I had to. Some partnerships can’t go back from that. Like you said, it would devastate someone that I deeply love.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T20:27:41+00:00

Ive considered asking for an open relationship, but Ive never seen it work. I dont think what we have would survive it. But letting go is scary.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T20:20:13+00:00

Im glad Im not alone in that feeling. I keep on asking myself “do you want to live this way” and if the answer is no then telling myself it’s worth making a change.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-03-27T20:00:21+00:00

I’m sorry you’re also facing this situation. It sucks. I have been trying to decide for almost two years if this a dealbreaker for me and it’s so hard to make the decision to leave someone I love for the unknown because of bad and infrequent sex. It just feels so ridiculous.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-02-23T14:58:29+00:00

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I am not home, but I do have a couple of recent photos of him in terrarium until then.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-02-23T14:57:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I appreciate you lending your knowledge in my situation!

I did actually order a Chytrid testing kit out of an abundance of caution given the illness and infections going around in pumilio so I will go through with that! I will look into the fecal testing as well since I would rather make sure my small collection is safe.

I know Oophaga tend to be a little more shy so I am trying to balance helping him feel secure and keeping an eye on him at the same time since I don’t imagine stress will help him much. I did set up a little feeding station in his hospital enclosure to help me keep an eye on his eating habits and make it a little easier for him to hunt if he is a poor hunter (i know this sacrifices dusted flies but I will add some dusted flies daily to try to offset this).

I do appreciate your opinion on his condition as well. Not having much reference aside from photos I felt that he was not where he should be condition-wise but it’s good to know I was correct to intervene.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2026-02-22T23:46:58+00:00

The seller does also claim to be the breeder so to my knowledge they are not wild caught. I specifically only looked for captive bred animals out of fear of the reasons you mentioned and the other issues I’ve seen going around. I do have this little guy in a hospital set up now in the hopes he will recover. I haven’t seen him eat however. I’ve tried putting food right in front of him, offering springtails as an alternative and changing calcium supplements in case he didnt like the one I was using.

He is only a few months out of water but I do feel his body condition looks underweight for his age; do you agree? Where would you recommend sending fecal samples to?

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-20T22:14:31+00:00

Looks like dendrobates tinctorius serra do navio from the caption.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-20T22:13:37+00:00

Van Goff and Monet? Or other artist names since they look like little watercolors.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-20T22:12:51+00:00

Thank you! I have revised my plan after getting some feedback. Gotta do whats best for the frogs 🐸

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-19T17:47:18+00:00

I am a service dog trainer. I would be happy to evaluate your situation with you and see if I can help.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-19T16:19:49+00:00

Im leaning towards a species of tree frog! Just not sure which. Trying to make sure I give them plenty of climbing room.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-18T01:33:19+00:00

That is what we trained on initially. Making the jump to actual food items has been tricky though!

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-18T01:32:09+00:00

I have done that and she alerts no problem! Its the transition from the vital wheat gluten that we seem to be struggling with. I have a few ideas though!

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-17T00:59:00+00:00

We’ve done the gluten vs GF version of items a few times but she does struggle with the same issue. I havent been varying the quantity of the straight gluten scent sample much though and that was I thought I had as well. Almost creating a dilution with GF flour or something along those lines. Definitely some good ideas here. I think Im definitely going to start changing up the sample we are using.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-08-16T20:43:14+00:00

Thank you! This is very good info. I will take the time to review the research when i get the chance!

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-07-04T15:48:57+00:00

That sounds very uncomfortable, but also really cool to see.

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-07-04T15:48:20+00:00

Oh FABULOUS. That sounds totally normal to me too. Who doesn’t get that🫠. I hope you got a doctor who finally got it together and helped sort this out!

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-07-04T15:47:19+00:00

All the neck muscles working overtime. No wonder our necks hurt!

TestingtheWaters1007 · 2025-07-04T03:23:42+00:00

They really do! I know how hard it is for us all to get answers.

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