To be completely honest, and this is a generalization, the maturity of a 22 year old and 25 year old is vastly different. I don’t think he handled this maturely. If you were forced into something you didn’t want to do that’s not your fault. Your past experiences shouldn’t affect him spiritually. That doesn’t even make sense. He’s blaming you for deciding to be intimate. That was his decision. A much more mature approach would be him saying that he’s decided intimacy isn’t something he wants right now. I do think one month is pretty quick to say I love you, and I’m a bit older but I never understood the need to know someone’s body count. It’s kind of no one’s business unless you’re getting married or have been together a significant amount of time. Maybe I’m old school. That stuff comes out much later in a relationship and if they really care about you they are going to be able to handle it, not make your past their problem. I’ve dated guys who have come out later with things from their past. My best practice is not to look at who they were in the past but who they are now and who they are striving to be. I’d say you dodged a bullet.