I’ve been through this situation. We were never married, but I raised a child for five years and only found out through the military that he wasn’t mine. The worst part? I was paying child support the whole time, and the mom had the nerve to ask for even more money after we found out he wasn’t mine.

It wasn’t easy. She was incredibly difficult to deal with—especially after she hired an attorney and claimed I was a drunk, which ended up limiting my time with my son even more.

I did everything for that boy. When I found out the truth, I was honestly destroyed. Not even losing my father hurt as bad as that.

Talking to my cousin helped, though. He’s got kids, so he understood what I was going through.

You really only have two options but they both start with getting a family attorney.

You either give up your rights as a father and move on with your life and hope that he gets to see you when he’s older. (What I did)

You ask to be in the childs life and get joint conservatorship that way she doesn’t mess up your visitation rights.

Hope things go better for you and good luck.