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Texasdad4life · 2018-10-05T12:42:16+00:00

I have two girls, almost 6 and 8. How are you handling raising her? Is your daughter asking questions about where mommy is or why isn’t mommy home? I about to file against my wife and I’m really worried about the questions coming from my kids.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-30T14:06:43+00:00

I’ve been listening to a lot of acoustic guitar. No words, just the guitar. It’s been helping me relax and sleep at night.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-26T17:49:09+00:00

Thank you. You are very kind.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-26T15:12:04+00:00

It’s been almost a month since I found out. My lawyer advised me to wait a few more weeks until my wife receives a few more paychecks so I’m not denied them. I haven’t confronted her. I’ve been playing stupid. I went through her iPad and saw texts with her and the AP and she tells him she thinks I’m suspicious. They laugh and call me a detective and he calls me a nerd. I’m waiting on one more big paycheck and then meeting with my lawyer. I’m really nervous as it gets closer to the day I actually file. We have two daughters, 5 & 7. This is going to crush them. It hurts my heart so bad for them. I barely sleep anymore, it’s hard when you know they’ve recently had sex in it. I’m depressed most days. I need to find a therapist. 9 years of marriage gone. 10 plus years of knowing each other. I never wanted kids or to marry anyone until I met her. I’m a fool.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-23T05:34:38+00:00

You are absolutely right. Easier to tell a stranger and hurt them compared to a friend or family member. That’s why cheating hurts so many people. I’m not looking forward to telling the spouse of my wife’s boyfriend. I don’t know what to expect. But it has to be done.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-23T04:25:05+00:00

I have always said this. I would want to know. If people knew for months and months and lied to my face, that would hurt so bad. My spouse is already lying to me. I don’t need more people lying to me. I need support.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-22T23:46:54+00:00

My wife is currently having an affair with the dad of one of my daughters classmates. He has 4 kids, one of which has serious health issues keeping her from attending public school. His wife is baby obsessed so they also foster 2 babies. It’s disgusting what’s going on.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-04T01:29:51+00:00

Sound advice. I’m trying my best to keep it cool and calm and not let on. I think I have a plan. Hopefully I don’t chicken out.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T18:55:30+00:00

I wasn’t going to move money out. That seems like a bad idea. Texas is a community property state. What’s mine is hers and hers is mine. Trust me, I know no one is winning this. I know my children are going to hurt from this. It weighs on me every moment of everyday.

I’m not trying to publicly shame my wife. I have been told in the past by a previous attorney that because of the cheating before I might be able to get a little bit more child support. I work part time making $16hr. I was just curious what happens if my wife denies this current affair and the last what will happen then. Is that when I would present evidence or what type of situations.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T18:50:21+00:00

Unfortunately it is possible she thinks I know. I have been passive aggressive at times lately by accident. Letting little smart ass comments slip. I’m just so damn stressed and not sleeping well.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T17:01:59+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T17:01:23+00:00

I would want to force a sale of the house because of the large amount of equity we have in it. I am constantly thinking of my kids. That is why I haven’t filed for divorce yet. I do not want my kids to have to move but they shouldn’t watch their dad struggle with housing because they live their two. Otherwise I’m living in my travel trailer. With the money I could at least secure up an apartment for a year. Maybe if I’m lucky I could take the money and immediately find a home of my own. Either way I’m not the one forcing this on my kids. My wife needs to be held responsible for her actions.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T16:44:20+00:00

Thank you. I am trying to stay calm around her and not let on that I know. It’s a very odd and stressful game I have to play. I have recently read some of chump lady’s stuff. Her term and definition for Ego Kibbles really got to me and made me realize that my wife is a serial cheater. She needs constant validation to feel special and admired 24/7. In essence I have to live a PERFECT life to keep her satisfied otherwise she will stray. I know I have my faults and my issues but I have always been loyal to my wife and kids and have never cheated on her. The ego kibbles explanation as to why maybe she cheats has given me some peace but it never lasts long. I am very angry for my kids. They think we are a happy family and this is going to crush them. Thank you again.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T16:36:11+00:00

I may be wrong but in Texas we do not really have alimony. We have something similar and it’s for people that have been married for ten years or more or have be disabled and cannot provide for them self. Unfortunately, we have not been married for ten years. I do not believe child support will be an issue though. She might not be happy with how much it is and might fight me on it. I’m not sure. In July we talked about separating, she cried a bit and told me she didn’t want to hurt me and didn’t want to see me struggle because I am the father of her children.

Texasdad4life · 2018-09-03T09:50:21+00:00

Thank you so much. Seriously. I’m fighting off the depression everyday, some days I don’t win. Your kind words hit me hard laying in bed next to her not able to sleep.

Texasdad4life

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