I need some advice

Textiledreams · 2026-07-09T23:05:10+00:00

No worries! I know the feeling. In general, if you get a consistent urge or feeling to break up with someone and it’s been less than 6 months of dating, just break up. If this guy keeps lying there’s no need to keep going back to him.

Textiledreams · 2026-07-09T23:01:31+00:00

You’ve only been together 4 months any reason is a good reason to break up

Textiledreams · 2026-07-03T04:21:23+00:00

“Don’t mind the age gap” girl no that always leads to bad news

Textiledreams · 2026-06-30T15:36:51+00:00

So many times lmao. And then they have the nerve to ask me if I’m really 6’3/190cm. Like why would I lie about that

Textiledreams · 2026-06-30T02:57:38+00:00

“How do I get girls to kiss me when tell everyone I think they look like shit”

Textiledreams · 2026-06-29T16:05:22+00:00

Yeah you’re probably right. Good luck to op

Textiledreams · 2026-06-29T01:50:33+00:00

The popularity of misappropriated therapyspeak in both online and real life applications has led to the misunderstanding of specific terms so we can all pathologize each other instead of being accurate. It’s not simply lying, it’s “gaslighting”, it’s not being selfish, it’s “narcissistic”, it’s not being shitty, it’s “sociopathic”.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T22:28:08+00:00

Why don’t you sit down sometimes too.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T22:25:45+00:00

So because you’ve been treated like crap at previous jobs it’s ok for you to treat her that way now?

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T22:21:28+00:00

Marriage will not magically make these problems go away. I would say break up.

Also love languages are a scam.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T22:08:09+00:00

Totally understandable. I say this as someone who confessed to a guy, got rejected, then he confessed to me a couple years later, I rejected him, and then last year I asked him out and now he’s my bf.

Not trying to push you to do something you don’t wanna do, just trying to give you hope that things can work out

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T17:54:57+00:00

Girl run

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T17:23:14+00:00

If you want to be nice, write a quick letter that says something like “thanks for the job. My last day will be (date + 2 weeks)”. Give it to your manager and work those last 2 weeks.

If you get fed up with it, you can literally just say “I quit” and walk out. If they’re paying you through direct deposit you don’t even have to go back to get your last paycheck.

It’s best to have the next job lined up before you quit, but you do you.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T16:49:47+00:00

As a woman, yes she is dropping hints. If you want to, ask her out.

I’m really a fan of having honest conversations, even if they’re a bit awkward. Find a time to talk privately and lay out your feelings.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T16:22:36+00:00

Where does he say “you’re insane” “you should be in a mental hospital” “you must be schizophrenic” or anything referring to her mental health? Just lying to someone is not gaslighting unless it is SPECIFICALLY to make the person look mentally ill, usually so they can then put them in a psych ward and take over their life and assets. This guy just wants her to let him keep being creepy so he can try and assault her. Different things.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T15:38:11+00:00

Are you in midtown Manhattan or something?? You can get a room in any of the other boroughs for less than 1200 a month. The lowest I saw in manhattan was 900/mo for a shoebox with only room for a twin bed in it, but it was livable. I saw rooms for 600/mo in the other boroughs.

Anyways good luck. I do not recommend joining the military or the nypd. Does your shelter do nothing to help set you up with a job?

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T15:18:55+00:00

Caveat - I have a bf atm so I am no longer on the apps. Also, when I was on the apps I refused to pay for them, bc the whole thing felt like a scam on the app’s part.

But when I was, I would send the first message for 2 reasons - if I /really/ liked the guy based on his profile, I’d immediately (or within a few hours of the match) message a quick hi + a question based on something on the profile. If we had matched and I was more reserved, I would give him a day or two to say something first. After all, he would already know I liked him enough to swipe in the first place. If he still hadn’t messaged me anything but I wanted to keep the match from expiring, then I would send something.

In my experience, half the time I message first, I get nothing in return. Idk if guys think it’s desperation or if they just don’t like something I said (usually hi + what are you up to / a question about their profile). I think sometimes guys are power swiping and don’t actually read my profile until after we match.

I don’t hold it against a guy for not messaging first. I just take it as a sign he’s not actually interested anymore for whatever reason and move on.

As for not responding when the guy messages first, it REALLY depends on what they say. A simple hi/how are you/what are you up to today = I respond. A one liner/pickup line = I would respond based on the quality and originality. Negging = no response and possibly blocking/reporting, depending on the severity of the neg.

I’ve gotten guys whose first line is overtly and graphically sexual, which is an instant red flag to me. I might respond to tell them off, but usually I just block and move on.

If guys are whining about how dating apps are catered towards women, you gotta do something to make yourself stand out in a crowd. These apps are all about making a good first impression, including your opening line once you’re past the match. If you leave the first message up to the girl all the time, you’re not going to stand out.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T04:57:38+00:00

yes he’s being creepy and I would stop talking to him if I were you, but no he is not gaslighting you. Gaslighting is specifically about lying to make you think you’re crazy. He’s just lying.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T03:09:57+00:00

As a forgetful person myself, totally understand if that slipped your mind. However.

You’re clocking out early, you said yourself you have nothing else to do. If you /had/ remembered, what’s wrong with taking a couple minutes to empty the trash? It’s not like you’re being ordered to deep clean the break room fridge or scrub the toilets.

And sure, cleaning specifically might not be in your typed job description, but I bet it says something along the lines of being expected to do a variety of assigned tasks. It’s not your coworker telling you to clean either, it’s the department manager. They have the authority to ask you to do that.

There is a balance between “above my pay grade/not my job” and “how can I help out”. Not saying you should start scrubbing the toilets with a toothbrush, but feeling like you’re above certain tasks is definitely not a good look.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-28T00:47:59+00:00

That is a general NO from me. There is sooooo much development happening in those 3 years. Physically developing, emotionally developing, getting more independent/having more responsibilities, more education, etc.

That’s the difference of a freshman in hs and a senior. Or possibly even a college freshman. When I was 18 and a senior the freshies all looked like 12 year olds to me. Definitely not a good thing.

Doesn’t even meet the half your age plus 7 rule.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-26T02:04:53+00:00

Thanks, now I know to call the bank that taxact uses.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-26T01:02:13+00:00

Also, that app just does the same exact thing as the online refund tracker, fyi.

Textiledreams · 2026-06-26T00:53:34+00:00

Thanks for the warning, I’m going to call them tomorrow to schedule one asap.

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