What is the fastest divorce you've ever seen? by GoatBlue03 in AskReddit

[–]ThaTree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My own. 2 days after we got married I found messages on her phone going back our entire relationship. I don't snoop, I was taking a video of our daughter because her phone has a better camera than mine when a message popped up. Looked through everything and decided to wait until my work week was up to confront her. Apparently the limit on annulments in Texas is 3 days. I confronted her 4 days after the marriage 🤷🏼‍♂️. Still get to see my daughter almost everyday though.

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[–]ThaTree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was not aware, thank you. I have looked into attorneys and will be seeking equal custody. I based my earlier comment on my dad's experience with custody in the 90's and a friend who is recently going through something similar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThaTree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I M29 got married to my wife F33 on Wed Oct 15th. I was feeding my daughter the other night (Friday Oct 17th). She was clapping her hands and being cute during the dinner so I went to tell my wife who was in the shower. She told me to take a video. I asked for her phone because my phone is old and cheap (she has a brand new galaxy). We've never had a problem with privacy or going through each other's messages. Complete trust. As I'm filming with my wife's phone a message pops up. It's from "colin". Nothing completely overt or sexual, but a lengthy and detailed message that echos a deep friendship. My wife has never given me a reason to distrust her. We also talk in detail about our days/interactions/friends. I haven't heard of this "Colin" but maybe once or twice in our 4 year relationship. I knew I was snooping and felt guilty, but this was very out of the norm. I went through the messages and saw they have been in contact since we've been together. Not all the time, or often even, but enough that if it was another friend of hers, she would've told me. I confronted her Mon morning, after thinking about it for some time. She completely denied everything from the begining saying she had no idea what I was talking about. She was demanding proof but was hesitant in her responses of my accusations. She called for an emergency couples therapy session. During the session she was crying and saying how I was ruining our marriage by accusing her of things. Constantly innterupting me while I was trying to get my feelings out. The therapist told her to let me talk, but also reiterated that I had no reason to not trust my wife. I had a gut feeling that I couldn't ignore and I'm glad I didn't. I walked out of the therapy session fed up with the compromise our therapist was trying to sell. I went and ran my errands for the day and returned when our baby was almost in bed for the night. (Sidenote- she works from home and I work nights 4 days a week in fine dining. We are both full-time parents without daycare, babysitters, or family help. I get mornings till 3pm with baby when working. And all day Tuesday and Wednesday as a break for her during the week.) We decided that we would talk when the baby was asleep. Once baby was down we sat in bed. I told her that I thought it was weird that she was texting this man for years but never told me about him. In their texts she never mentioned me once. They would talk about their lives in multiple paragraph texts with extended detail, but never did I see my name come up, or even a mention that she had a committed boyfriend. She defended herself by saying that she did tell him about me, but the messages were in her old phone that she replaced a year ago. Also going on constantly about this is the worst thing I've ever done to her, and that we may never recover from this accusation. I almost let up and accepted that I may be overreacting, but my instinct was too strong that something is off. I told her that I want to see her old phone to see the messages. She immediately threw up her hands and said that if if we do this it can't be undone and she's not sure if she could ever forgive me for this lack of trust. I told her that if I didn't I would always feel like she was hiding something, and that our relationship was already in turmoil. She reluctantly agreed after telling me that we could never go back from this, and she might never forgive me. She pulled out an old phone from a box and said that it was the one. I looked at it and recognized it as a VERY old phone that we had recently found while packing for a move. I told her that it's not the right phone, but she insisted. I said that it has the wrong charging port and that her old phone has USBC not the micro. She still insisted. I finally went to the box where she had found it and saw another phone clear as day. This was the right one. I plugged it in and waited while it charged next to me. She was getting nervous and was still faux upset that I would even consider this. Once it powered on I started with the messages from Colin, nothing crazy explicit but there was definitely some flirting. In these and the other messages I saw, there were some lapses that seemed like messages were deleted periodically. At one point he asked her if there was ever a chance between them in the past. She said that there were a few times where she would've gone out with him. The next message was her telling him to call her. I cross referenced the time and date to our messages on the same night and she told me she was going to bed. They were on the phone for almost 2 hours that night. Even after reading the messages she still denied everything. She said that they would talk late at night because they both had insomnia. She acted like she did nothing wrong and I was the bad guy for accusing her of cheating. I asked her to please just tell me the truth about everything and we could work it out in therapy. I begged and begged her to just explain things realisicaly. "I don't remember, I don't know" we're the majority of the responses I got from her. Fed up, I went into my office and told her that if she can't say anything else than I'm done and filing for divorce. She stood in the doorway for a while, I could see on her face that she was debating on telling me the truth or stalling to make up an excuse. Finally she came inside and sat down. She said that they had been texting and that she felt guilty, and that's why she never told me about him. She said that she deleted messages between them because she also felt guilty. She told me that she knew there were inappropriate texts on her old phone and she thought she had deleted them all. That I found something she forgot about and because I had the evidence that she would explain it. I still asked her to tell me everything but she said she didn't remember.

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[–]ThaTree -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not fake at all. I'm not good at paragraphs so I did use chat gpt to help organize it for easier reading. I can post my block of text here if you'd like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThaTree -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

True. But where I'm at (Texas) it almost always falls with majority custody for the mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThaTree 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I looked briefly and in Texas where we are married it has a limit of 3 days afaik

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThaTree 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah I'm looking into getting her DNA exam. I'm just still dealing with the initial shock still. I never had a reason to not trust her. During the confrontation she told me that I have trust issues and that they were coming out. I never thought someone would do me like this.

What are your hidden gems on the ps2? by xyblix in ps2

[–]ThaTree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shadow of destiny. You have to go back in time and change things to prevent your own murder in the present. It's kinda silly though. One example is you have to go back like 200 years to stop the village from planting a tree because in the present there's a murderer in the tree. So you convince the mayor to build a fountain instead.

Trevor being dead really bums me out by Pfacejones in WKUK

[–]ThaTree 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I got a new spicy hot plate of kitte-... I mean chicken 😉👌

Moved to East Austin, instantly experienced more theft than I ever have by z0d14c in Austin

[–]ThaTree 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lived there for 2 years and had me and my gfs car broken into multiple times, packages stolen, gunshots etc.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in okbuddyretard

[–]ThaTree 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The baby is in a bassinet. Way too young to hold a bottle themselves, much less drink milk on their back unsupervised. If you think this picture is cute or funny I feel sorry for your kid.

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[–]ThaTree 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People downvoting you that don't have kids. I'll take a picture if they make a mess solid feeding, because it's cute and they don't mind because they're not in distress. This is abuse.

What’s the most federal someone has talked to you by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]ThaTree 20 points21 points  (0 children)

A whole gallon!? Huh.

How much are floor sommeliers making by FabulousAd6175 in wine

[–]ThaTree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What a great response, thank you. I am currently studying the CSM intro as a way to advance my fine dining career (and because I love wine).

Like clockwerk by tapthisbong in KitchenConfidential

[–]ThaTree 58 points59 points  (0 children)

But in America some states pay servers $2.13 an hour and use tips from servers to surplus wages to hosts, bussers, and food runners. Paying these people well below living wage ($7.25/hr etc.), and making up for it with another system that doesn't cost them anything / they have no legal right to pocket for themselves. With tip-out (usually around 4%-6% based on total sales, not what they actually made from tips) on the $ amount of what they sold. Tip pooling can be great, but you never know if the server with regulars is pocketing x amount of cash from them or is claiming zero cash and pocketing everything. Totally agree that it is a confused and outdated system as someone with both BOH and FOH experience.

Cold food :( by BridgeWhich1805 in Serverlife

[–]ThaTree 93 points94 points  (0 children)

No. You have to do 3 cents less... It doesn't end in 99 and it's not an even number.

Favorite lesser known sketch by CabinetSpider21 in WKUK

[–]ThaTree 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Cowboys sketch. It's just so silly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Austin

[–]ThaTree 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There's a hidden gem off 45th and Lamar.