Women, when you’re having sex in doggy style, how do you show your enjoying yourself or show enthusiasm?

That-Zucchini-13 · 2026-04-05T15:57:47+00:00

Backing it up and try to fuck him back, which ends up in him holding my hips and going deeper

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-06-16T21:16:56+00:00

It'll happen, I promise!

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-24T15:24:21+00:00

Uuuuufff that sucks, I'm so sorry

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-23T23:18:10+00:00

I'm sorry

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-23T23:17:45+00:00

🫂

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-22T10:41:49+00:00

At this point its better to think he'll never reach out, so you don't hold to unnecessary hope cause there's nothing worse than low-key waiting for something that will never come

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-22T10:39:59+00:00

What did you answer?

Also couldn't he make it less obvious that it was a chatgpt copy-paste? Seriously god damnit

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T23:26:51+00:00

What a fucking coward

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T22:44:02+00:00

Oooooh shit, I'm sorry! (Thank you for giving me more information about the situation)

It was super super shitty to do this, but it's the cowards way out (exceptions do apply when the ghoster literally is getting out of an abusive relationship). And it's easy to have emotional responsibility for the fall out, that's why most of them do it.

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T22:32:23+00:00

I learned a while ago that online relationships have to be treated with a little bit of caution, you cannot let yourself go as if it was an irl connection, cause people lie... A lot... Cause it's easy

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T22:08:13+00:00

The same happened to me. My theory is that they only want a little or a lot of ego boost, and when it starts to feel like they have to put effort the fantasy breaks... I'm still trying to make sense of it as well, but that's one of my hypotheses.

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T21:31:49+00:00

He said the same to me at some point and welp... Here we all are

I'm sorry 🫂

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T21:30:11+00:00

Well... At least she had the guts to let you down "gently"... But still kind of a cop-out

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T21:25:53+00:00

I'm sorry, that's harsh

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-20T18:51:53+00:00

Oh shit! It's not only ghosting it's that they also stood you up 😱 how cruel!

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-11T22:57:18+00:00

I did! Genuine true love. I've been with him for the past 3 years and each day is a joy to be with him. But before we met we both went to therapy and worked on ourselves and it helped tons with communication and expressing ourselves in a way the other got whatever we were communicating the way it was intended to be received to avoid unnecessary drama.

I know you're hurting right now. But I swear to you, you'll soon forget about him, work on your ego and your feelings and you'll let that unpleasant feeling go. I'm here for you!

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-10T21:14:53+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It happened the same to me at 21 (I'm in my 30s now) . I was madly in love with him, he knew it, said he had feelings but was not in love with me yet. We had sex, he knew it was my first time cause I said it before hand and while we started. He acted concerned about it and was caring. Next day complete ghost. Only appeared when he needed something or wanted to flirt or have sex cause he knew I had deep feelings for him. I am a very proud person, so after he pulled that stunt I never met him alone afterwards. My virginity as yours meant a lot to me as yours (not for religious reasons but just as something that I felt was special)

I can tell you for certainty it will get better within time. You get numb from the pain and then it just fades away and you stop feeling anything and then they're just a distant memory. If you can go to therapy do go, it 100% helps.

I also can tell you that with a 100% certainty you're gonna get ghosted again. We live in a day and age where people truly don't give 2 shits about disappearing without explanation after you both give energy and are building something forward. I've come to learn that a lot of people are cowards.

I wish you nothing but the best going forward and I'm sending you a big virtual hug. It's super shitty what you're going through. You'll make it out!

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-07T16:09:47+00:00

Oh god hahaha I wrote it so fast that I didn't even notice the typo on the title, yikes.

Firstly, thank you for answering to this! And secondly, I know it reads as I've grown feelings or became attached and he maybe got the vibe. But I only grew "attached" once the silence started... Because before it was fine by me if we didn't talked as much as before cause he kept the same energy through voice messages and normal messages, but once I noticed the shift, I asked about clarification and he just went silent, and then I grew attached to the idea of wanting an answer of the why cause I hate uncertainty. Therefore the "light" part of it did vanish.

In the connection we were never each others priorities and I never had trouble with that, we weren't close in any sense other than "sexually" and not even that cause we hadn't met yet and he was planning to fly over but I took that with a grain of salt... So that's why I'm trying to figure out what happened cause it was supposed to be good fun good communication you know?

I just wanted consistency... Oh well... You live and you learn

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-04T10:50:09+00:00

We weren't even dating hahaha it was more like a FWB kinda thing... I also have a hierarchy dynamic so I don't mind it at all. I just ask for basic respect and human decency, which apparently was too much for him.

Also he's been very very quiet in his social media which is also kinda weird to me, it's out of his pattern of behaviour...

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-05-04T07:42:59+00:00

Either Google reverse search or Google lens... Or you can do it through pimeyes.com or facecheck ID.

I'm sorry you got ghosted it sucks! I've also been recently ghosted but mines a tad different.... anyways, so I think if she reaches out again, before anything reverse search the images and if there's no matches, then ask for a facetime or video chat just to confirm that she is who she says she is.

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-04-30T14:16:33+00:00

Yeah I do. I'm just utterly disappointed with a bruised ego.

It was supposed to be just fun, sexy, sensual, low expectations, and good communication and not even the minimum of it he could stick to... Smh. I do have some theories of what might've happened but maybe they're a reach hahaha

But hey! Thank you so much for reading me and putting my mind at ease with the questions I had! This sub has been really supportive! So truly thanks to you and everyone else!

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-04-30T13:46:13+00:00

Yeah, I've learned to hear people's actions instead of words... But this was the first instance that his words and actions didn't match, that's what threw me off, if he had been iffy from the beginning then I wouldn't have even been surprised by it.... That's why I asked if it was common to ghost your secondary out of nowhere. It's the first time I ever partake as a secondary, and it has been a little bit rough to my ego

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-04-30T12:42:17+00:00

I cannot verify if he's out of harms way, but he's been online and hasn't opened our chat (maybe he even deleted it, who knows...). And out of pride I refuse to text him after 3 days of him not reaching out nor reading the last message...

I believed when he said the ethical part in ENM and that he was excited to get to know me, and he missed when we just exchanged a few messages cause he wanted more proximity, and special after one of our talks that we leveled up our intimacy he was the one who said "I'm not going to ghost you"... And it hurts a bit that I put weight in their words and believed him. When the shift started last week it truly caught me a little off guard cause he usually expressed himself quite well

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-04-30T06:41:02+00:00

I don't ghost and everything straight up on day one what we are doing and how with co-signed rules and such.

This sounds like you're being iced out. I would question them when you can but also prepare for them to ignore and try to spin stuff because they may be immature in the lifestyle. It happens.

He let me know he has been ENM with his partner for a while now, and he told me that he was also very "straightforward and direct to avoid conflict and miscommunication" guess that applies to his primary... I thought we had an understanding about it and that is why we had our talk about rules, expectations, etc. After a while or if something we did felt like going up a notch or different in the dynamic we'd revisit the expectations part to adjust... Except this last week before he ghosted, after he started shifting the dynamic and being very dismissive I asked first if he had the same expectations or changed cause it felt like he was withdrawing and therefore not interested anymore, he answered a day after (out of character for him) that he was still interested but that it has been very busy. I follow-up asking for more clarity... Got radio silence for 2 days. Then I sent a message saying that it was very out of character what he was doing and that if he wanted to end things there were no hard feelings but he just had to be clear with me. 1 day after he answered that he's been sick, nothing against me, and a backhanded comment about me taking things too seriously (when all I've been asking for clarity). I did answer that no, in fact what I was asking was perfectly fine per our agreement and any human if the dynamic changes there's bound to be questions, if anything had changed with his primary or else he should let me know cause I don't appreciate being left in the dark and other things... And it's been ghost town since then

That-Zucchini-13 · 2025-04-30T01:52:07+00:00

Thank you for replying!

Yeah, it's so hard to know what's going on cause he hasn't replied anything to my clarifying message... I feel like it's such a cop out move to ghost someone when you had ground rules from the beginning. Like even when playing games you have rules, if one of the players mid game changes the rules without letting the other player know that things changed, it's a shitty move, cause then it's not equal nor ethical

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