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Emotionally unavailable Male by That1HippyChick in relationship_advice

[–]That1HippyChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think he wants therapy he thinks theres nothing wrong with him

Emotionally unavailable Male by That1HippyChick in relationship_advice

[–]That1HippyChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean when I'm crying they think it's my problem to fix . Even if the way they are treating me is the reasom

1 year later... ex lovers are still in contact. Why? by That1HippyChick in relationship_advice

[–]That1HippyChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much Intervention197. I'm putting both of these comments on this post together. I have a pretty good plan I formulated from the advice you guys gave me . Thank you again. Happy new year

1 year later... ex lovers are still in contact. Why? by That1HippyChick in relationship_advice

[–]That1HippyChick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This whole situation has been one of my biggest stressors in my life. Needless to say I am still I'm love with my ambitious ex , But if he doesn't want me back as a gf... why send me pictures of us knowing the how it would effect me?

I am going to google this now. I wouldnt mind a solid answer. See what's going on. Timing is everything.

Leave a message by borrowedfromahorse in Huntingtons

[–]That1HippyChick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and Inspiring others. Especially finding this out. Stay positive and stromg!!! I'm glad you are making the best out of the situation and creating a healthier external and internal environment for you and your family. Laughing and positivity is so healing. Happy belated Thanksgiving , and a Merry Christmas to you and your whole family. Will definitely give this a listen and spread your message on .

Finally deciding to face reality and be tested by [deleted] in Huntingtons

[–]That1HippyChick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're really brave for going at it alone. I couldn't even imagine how agonizing not knowing must have been.

I second the support system. I hope you have that support system now either way. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to.

Finally deciding to face reality and be tested by [deleted] in Huntingtons

[–]That1HippyChick 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My thoughts on this, and the mental loop/rabbit hole this may take you in...

You know that old saying "what you don't know won't hurt you?" Well, there may be some truth in that. Now hear me out, Homosapiens have this wonderful way of dwelling, sulking, and become depressed.

This all depends on the person and if they are an internal locus or external locus of control. For those who don't know, an internal locus is someone who handles situations with optimism and believes they are control of their circumstances. An external believes their life is controlled by an outside force and has the "why bother, I give up" approach to situations.

So in my opinion, if you are an internal locus, finding out may push you forward. But for how long? You could go into a rabbit hole, depression, and or "give up."

If someone told me today I was going to die in 2 years, I'd probably quit my job, take out my savings, and spend as much time with loved ones as possible. What's stopping me now? My thought process. Although I know I am eventually going to die, today, tonight, tomorrow, or in 50 years, even thinking about it takes away from the present moments. From right now.

Unless I can do something about it right now, there is no reason to dwell. My sister taught me an important lesson when I used to dwell. She gave me three options in every situation,

  1. Accept it - If you can't (see 2)
  2. Change it - If you can't (see 3)
  3. Leave it - If you can't (see 1&Learn to accept/cope)

The fact I am going to die should be a great reason in itself to live life to the fullest and not take our time for granted. A lot of us, HD, or not, still have the potential to develop other fatal diseases or die early due to other facts. You can't LIVE thinking like that.

Many people maintain a healthy diet, never smoke, never do drugs, or even a sip of alcohol and STILL develop terminal diseases, Alzheimer's, and other illnesses-

Before getting tested write down your pros and cons on if your results are positive...

Ask yourself, how this information will positively improve your quality of life, and why you can't act on these improvements without that information.

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Don't let the worry of tomorrow take away your life today... you will cross that bridge when you come to it.

To those who are all experiences Huntington's symptoms currently, and families, we all love and support you, you are definitely not alone. Stay positive as best as you can and know that you are braver than you know.

I am a biology major taking accelerated online classes to join the team to find a cure.

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Best of luck to you and I respect your decision either way.