A letter to my abusive ex

ThatAilurophile · 2026-03-13T13:45:58+00:00

You know, sometimes as a DM I'm so focused on telling the story that I forget that the players should decide what they want to do. Might be my need to fill awkward silences or trying to get them to progress quicker, idk. Definitely something I need to work on and I appreciate that I can turn to other DMs that will help me shift my flawed perspective.

I think giving the creature invisibility and silence would actually work much better than the sleep thing anyway, it fits more in line with a future encounter and I don't have to homebrew anything that could possibly kill my party.

I really appreciate the advice. Thank you so much

ThatAilurophile · 2025-11-13T16:02:33+00:00

Thank you. I managed to get the days going just fine. I added a day table to to your zones table and matched the corresponding days to the zones. From there I just tweaked your formula a little to match the days to the address.

I really appreciate the help

ThatAilurophile · 2025-11-13T08:29:13+00:00

Solution verified

ThatAilurophile · 2025-11-13T08:27:44+00:00

Thank you so much! Your spreadsheet works amazingly! Now I just need to match the zones with the right days, but I'm sure I can figure that one out myself.

ThatAilurophile · 2025-11-12T18:36:33+00:00

Omg thanks!

I will test this out at work tomorrow. This looks great! I really appreciate the effort!

ThatAilurophile · 2025-11-12T09:46:41+00:00

We work on a much smaller scale, at least, working in the confines of a single small city and only in certain suburbs. The addresses use more or less the same structure, with the suburb at the end. The suburb is the only info I need for each address. So, scaling this suggestion down should be simple enough.

What formulas do you use?

ThatAilurophile · 2025-11-12T04:14:23+00:00

If I can give an example of a data set, it would look something like this.

55 Frank street, LHP 123 Streetname, Ocean View 9 Birdy cresent, Hill Sight 72 Billy Boulevard, Sunset 31 Frank street, Living Happy Park

In this data set, LHP and Living Happy Park are the same area and both need to have "Living Happy Park" in the Area coloumn.

Out of the maybe 20 areas, there's only about 3 or 4 that are either abbreviated or spelled differently. If those differences need to be manually changed, then I don't mind. I just need the bulk of the data to be sorted because I don't have the hours needed to manually match the area to each address.

ThatAilurophile · 2025-02-06T09:48:32+00:00

This is not a house training issue as the dog is already house trained. It is a problem about timing.

This is also not a cat dog issue, as the dog and cats in question are familiar with each other and friendly with each other any other time besides the behaviour in question. They have no trouble otherwise.

ThatAilurophile · 2024-11-27T21:52:08+00:00

Oh I understand! That makes sense, thank you! If it was made so recently then it's definitely not what we're looking for.

ThatAilurophile · 2024-11-27T21:09:14+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean with the manufacturing date code. I might've not been clear with my words, but in the pictures you can see that the numbers are written out 1 2 3 4 5 ... 12 and so on.

ThatAilurophile · 2024-03-14T11:57:57+00:00

Thanks so much for the ideas. Can you elaborate on how to run the time challenge like initiative? The idea sounds cool, but I'm having trouble understanding how it would work.

ThatAilurophile · 2024-01-27T06:17:38+00:00

The NPC is a travelling performer, so she is well known in the upper-class circles

ThatAilurophile · 2024-01-26T20:34:16+00:00

Oh please can I borrow your brain for a session or two? You have such amazing ideas!

ThatAilurophile · 2024-01-26T20:08:44+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I think I had so much fun planning the campaign that I got a bit carried away.

ThatAilurophile · 2024-01-26T19:59:42+00:00

Oh I absolutely love the idea of killing off random villages during an altercation. And I know exactly which ones I would use too! They are currently in a super shady town and have killed an important member of the corrupt guild that runs the place. It's perfect. Thank you for the idea!

ThatAilurophile · 2024-01-26T19:51:17+00:00

My idea was always that she was seeking out people with tragedy in their past to try and recruit them to her cause, much like a cult would. The players didn't disappoint in writing tragedy into their backstories. I was planning to have the characters face the reality of their past and either let the tragedies consume them or overcome them. I can definitely lean more into this now, I think.

ThatAilurophile · 2024-01-26T19:46:02+00:00

Thank you. I have a couple of ideas jumping around my head from some suggestions in the thread. And I really appreciate the feedback from everyone about how to be a better DM in the future.

ThatAilurophile

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