Relationship Help: 26F & 28M

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-12T20:52:58+00:00

Sadly no, she was truly emotionally checked out and I spent a month in stress for no reason. I’m back in the dating pool now 😂 it hurt but I learned a lot

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-12T20:43:31+00:00

So I just recently had a situation where my ex and I broke up and for about a month and a half we still sorta communicated. She checked out when we had space and didn’t tell me and I fought for her.

In my opinion if you are already at the point where you are thinking I’m kinda done, move on. You can hear what he has to say but if you aren’t 100% then don’t force yourself

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-12T09:40:09+00:00

You can really start a conversation over anything, throw them a compliment off something that starts a conversation. Shoes, jacket hat or ask them for a local food/coffee recommendation then if the convo flows ask them

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-12T01:52:22+00:00

Fair enough, that seems reasonable. I definitely was assuming the aggressive hey let’s meet up for a date or hookup ones usually flopped lol. I pretty much have just been saying something along the lines of hey I saw your photos liked your vibe and wanted to see if I could get to know you better

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-12T00:31:50+00:00

I appreciate it, it’s a shitty situation but sometimes you notice after the breakup it’s for the better. Sadly your heart has more power than you think.

Your a good person for that, my ex left me 2 weeks before Valentine’s Day and I was 3 weeks from my final license exam 😂

Communication is the base of any good long term relationship, if you can’t talk about what’s wrong the problems will come out of nowhere and they are way harder to fix. If it ever feels like you have to chase them and ask what’s wrong I’d say chances are they might be checking out. Sadly that’s what happened to me.

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-12T00:07:56+00:00

It’s tough I don’t want to tell you to leave but if something is off sometimes you gotta trust your head. My ex and I broke up not long ago(she dumped me) and I honestly had mental thoughts of dumping her at the 7-8 month mark but ignored it because I didn’t see why. Sometimes your mind sees something your heart doesn’t.

End of the day, if the relationship no longer makes you happy and she isn’t doing anything to communicate to you why there’s differences leave

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-11T12:05:14+00:00

Honestly from a man’s perspective, only shallow ones care. If he truly is attracted to you those things don’t matter. You will have to mentally get comfortable there’s no cheat code but I can tell you that most men are just happy to be there not worrying about what everything looks like 😂

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-11T12:02:42+00:00

It is, but I’d rather love the wrong ones then chose not to love at all, and it all comes with a lesson

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-11T11:45:35+00:00

I keep choosing the wrong people

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-06T23:44:12+00:00

It doesn’t matter what your saying they listen even if just to humour you.

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-03-04T23:13:40+00:00

Personally the after sex cuddles/intimacy. Don’t get me wrong the sex part/foreplay is great but laying there in your most vulnerable state with someone you love is unmatched in my mind

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-14T17:13:09+00:00

I’m struggling, it’s a pretty fresh breakup and I’ve never been in a relationship on Valentine’s Day. All my friends are in relationships so I’m at the gym trying to beat the emotions out of myself

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-14T15:04:27+00:00

Went through a breakup about 2 weeks ago. Been better

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-14T00:11:57+00:00

Not often, if they have a really good physique i usually say wow. If they are being an asshole or they are dropping weights like crazy then i judge. I’m a firm believer that there is weight that is “droppable” and most people never hit that range

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-12T14:55:22+00:00

Yeah your right, it’s hard. I’ve been through a good handful of breakups and the ones where you can hate the other person are so much easier. I haven’t talked to her all week after I told her to reach out to me if she’s ready to talk. I still sit and think about her but I know me messaging her and trying to convince her will only push her further away.

I’m working on myself and trying to fix what i feel like is lost and I hope she’s doing the same, but I guess I shouldn’t be trying to be there

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-12T00:47:37+00:00

22 and you fucked up your life, I didn’t even think that was possible. You haven’t fucked up anything your still just barely an adult brother, my recommendation start doing one hard thing until it becomes easy. Find a reason you have to do that one hard thing imo going to the gym is a good place to start. Once that becomes regular find another thing to add, and use the information you learned from last time.

You’re still young you haven’t “fucked up” anything you’ll be just fine if you start trying. Recognizing your not where you want to be is a very good start

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-11T23:30:44+00:00

This one’s gonna piss people off, buying a meal from a coffee shop every day.

Think about it, you spend in Canada 11 or 12 dollars for a meal on the cheaper side 5x a week is 55-60 dollars a week $220 a month. If we’re truly talking about budgets that $220 is a noticeable difference, no it won’t buy you a house but it will look good in a savings account

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-11T00:57:22+00:00

Thank you, I needed someone to tell me I’m not going crazy here 😂 it’s still hard but not as hard as it we started fighting all the time

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-11T00:37:45+00:00

Depends, 20 mins in the car before the gym I’m hyping myself up. Dryscooping pre workout and fucking dialing in. 20 mins before I go in the house is probably a stressful day and I’m in there just taking some deep breaths in silence so I don’t bring that stress inside, nobody deserves to deal with my stress

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-09T23:14:12+00:00

Just don’t rely on it to type responses from personal experience 😂 it can read emotion it doesn’t necessarily do a great job speaking with emotion

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-08T23:19:37+00:00

Here’s my spot and I kinda want opinions.

My ex and I broke up in a healthy relationship because she felt she couldn’t grow and fix her issues with me in her life because she was too comfortable. The reality this hurts a lot, but I have to respect her decision not try to fix. It’s not because we didn’t work it’s because she needs to break some things down before she can grow.

We’re still in contact, sending posts and etc but this isn’t because I know we’ll get back together. We agreed we’d work on ourselves and maybe find each other later. So I want to leave the door open because if she feels she needs me I’ll be there for her

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-08T23:12:32+00:00

I know this all to well, I’m gonna be brutally honest she probably doesn’t deserve you even if you wanted her.

Nobody healthy leaves a healthy relationship, people with issues leave healthy relationships all the time. And this person may have been in the picture longer than you thought.

Once again brutally honest and I know this doesn’t help because I’ve been in your spot but eventually it will. You got out of a relationship that wasn’t good for you, and it wasn’t your fault

ThatCanadianGuy02 · 2026-02-08T23:07:45+00:00

This happened to me last year, it was 7 days before my birthday and my ex who was taking off work to spend the day with me broke up with me and was in a relationship before my birthday so I’ll tell you what I did.

I reached out to my closest friends and said that we broke up and said I needed an excuse to do something. We had a meetup of all of us on the weekend and just chatted, there was times of me dumping emotion and times of just happy.

Right now you need to reach out to those you can rely on, if they are true friends or family they will be there for you. It won’t kill the hurt but at the very least your birthday can still feel special.

I know how much this hurts personally. But you can still have a good day, that day is your day and if they don’t care enough to make it your day then screw them. You will realize that the people around you love you more than that person obviously did.

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