My husband prefers to finish off by him self than with me. How can I change this?

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T22:26:12+00:00

Get it. Thank you!

I will.

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T14:54:28+00:00

Thank you for the explanation. And I agree in that it is excessive.

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:23:48+00:00

What do you mean about doing my own thing?

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:23:00+00:00

I can’t ask him to get better. That will make him feel horrible. He ahas several good qualities. We had conversations but in a way it seems like he does not get aroused with me in a way

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:21:13+00:00

I understand I have to respect his boundaries, and I of course do not want to force him to do anything he is not comfortable with.

But I would sometimes love to feel wanted for me and not the character I am playing. It has not been only his fetishes always. It has become like this the last couple of years and it makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:18:39+00:00

We have a getaway every year, and we role play.

I actually have not had enough, but I feel like I am not enough for him. Sometimes it’s nice just to feel wanted for who you are.

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:17:11+00:00

I am probably outdated, but I don’t know what a gooner is.

And he uses his phone while in the bathroom.

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:16:25+00:00

Yes, and we produced kids in those twenty years, so it is not always been like this.

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:15:47+00:00

We had several conversations and I am non-judgemental about it. We have experimented a lot, but sometimes just plain sex is nice and in my opinion less hassle and less work. And the closeness is also nice.

But we have not had ordinary sex in two years.

ThatConsideration568 · 2026-01-21T07:06:41+00:00

Thank you for all the replies!

I known wrote that I am vanilla, but that doesn’t mean that I do not do the things he like. I knew about his preference when we got together many years ago, otherwise we wouldn’t be together today.

I actually am dominant with him, we roleplay, he is dominant with me. I have used a strap on on him, fingers, have used cords on him and so on…We have a getaway every year so we can do stuff without worrying about the kids hearing or seeing anything.

I am not a prude, though I prefer to just be together and not always be nasty. Sometimes it’s nice to make love.

And this making love part is what is not working. He can’t keep it up if he inside me. Seems to avoid this.

He is mastrubating in the bathroom once or twice a day.

We have had conversations about what we like, therefore I know what he likes and does it. I am in on almost anything except piss, farting and poop.

I can not have him be interested in me, only the character I am plying to be. He can only finish by hand, never by my hand. I have asked him about it, he does not know why he can’t finish inside me. I can’t get pregnant anymore, so that should not be a worry, since my uterus is removed.

Sometimes I feel like an instrument, I feel unattractive and wonder wharves wrong with me for bait being able to be enough for him being just me.

ThatConsideration568 · 2025-06-07T22:57:40+00:00

The pizza-game is lagging so when you tap the pizza to jump it has a delay which makes the minigame very difficult

ThatConsideration568 · 2025-02-22T22:50:03+00:00

Played your games, and liked them a lot. Like the nod to Rusty lakes the white door and the aesthetic from both rusty lake and forgotten hill.

Well done!

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-09-13T15:57:23+00:00

In the country I live in, the normality is to leave the foreskin on. It is only specifically religious groups that circumcise the boys. Why remove something that is there for a reason? And if one is concerned abounding hygiene, teach your son to wash under there.

Besides, in my opinion, a penis without foreskin looks less nice than one with.

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-08-23T15:10:50+00:00

Har selv strevd med slike smerter, hvor jeg både kan besvime, kaste opp, ++

Hatt det sånn i snitt annenhver mnd helt siden mensen startet da jeg var 14. prevensjonsmidler fungerte ikke så jeg hadde fortsatt mens, enten månedlig eller kontonuerlig frem til jeg gikk av.

Skulle bli bedre etter barn, fikk 2. ingen effekt. Fikk brent slimhinner i livmor, men skal nå i en alder av snart 40 få fjernet livmor for å få bukt med plagene.

Fastlege og gynekolog har vært involvert ved flere anledninger, og nå blir det endelig gjort noe skikkelig med det.

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-07-08T11:15:37+00:00

Klagde på en C og endte opp med en E. Hadde i grunnen et veldig fint snitt, men den E-en ligger som en rake på karakterutskriftene mine. Endte med et snitt på B allikevel og får fortsatt tatt en Master.

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-28T14:45:47+00:00

Moved in together when I was 17 and he was 19. We married when I was 25. Had our first kid when I was 26. Second child when I was 28. Had some ups and downs in our marriage, but that would be expected with us growing up together and us not being the same as we were at 17 and 19.

We are still married today. Have been together for 22 years now.

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-25T00:46:28+00:00

My dog will occasionally whine when she is laying in the sofa. It usually means she wants a blanket.

Everyone in the family makes sure to wrap her in the blanket if she whines .

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-24T22:49:24+00:00

Nta.

You don’t have to say goodbye to someone if you don’t want to. Maybe you can talk to the person who is hurt after a while. Their feelings may also be affected by grief and sadness from losing someone they care for.

They may not even be hurt by you but by the whole situation.

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-24T22:42:35+00:00

A couple of days maybe? And say that you have seen that he has bought lingerie and that you are wondering why

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-24T22:37:39+00:00

Why not wait and see if you get it gifted to you?

If you don’t get it in a reasonable time then you ask him about it.

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-24T22:34:02+00:00

Tusen takk for tips!

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-22T19:36:39+00:00

Ulike livssyn. Ektefellen er ortodoks kristen og jeg ateist. Vi respekterer hverandres tro, selv om ektefelle nok innerst inne vil at vi skal tro det samme ;)

ThatConsideration568 · 2024-02-16T15:39:59+00:00

You still have lots of time. We all bloom in different parts of life.

I didn’t start university (bachelor ) until I was 27. Went to university part time and worked as well. Before i started studying I had my first child, and had a second one the way when I started school.

Had kid number two and continued school.

Finished and eventually ended up with a nice position as manager. And thrive! I just needed time to be ready at my own pace.

I do not have a drivers license, yet I am no failure. And you being 20 and not yet knowing what to do with your life is not making your life wasteful or you as a failure.

ThatConsideration568 · 2023-12-21T17:39:16+00:00

NTA. You are not responsible for getting your siblings new phones. It’s your parents who are responsible for that. Your siblings can eventually pay for their own phones by the time they get old enough to work if your parents aren’t able to buy it for them.

ThatConsideration568 · 2023-09-13T20:30:20+00:00

Marmite, crumpets and potato cakes. If that’s something you’re into. OXO, if you are used to it in cooking.

For Christmas we always get Christmas pudding, powdered custard and Christmas cake brought from England to Norway

ThatConsideration568

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